Why are women so crazy with expectations these days while dating?

[Anonymous]

My ex married an administrative assistant. They are living in a mansion in Potomac. She just had to get pregnant. And she is a quarter of a century younger than he.

[Anonymous]

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Assuming you are not a troll…
I think women don’t have to marry anymore and it’s not really worth it unless you bring a lot to the table. But that’s not necessarily money…

She maybe feels she’s very attractive and perhaps overestimated your income. She’s looking for a mate that is very driven and wants that same lifestyle, and is willing to put up with all that entails.

There are other women (like me) who want a partner who is home more and helping out and an engaged parent vs working many hours. Someone who doesn’t need me to tell him the phone number of the pediatrician or which night is back to school night. However I do not look or dress like a model or invest in my nails and hair and while I have an Ivy degree I’m not pulling down half a mill. We bought modestly in a good school area further out to make our lifestyle manageable.

Of course there are women who want different things. You are just not asking them out for some reason. Take a good look at why you are picking poorly.

Even if you made $500k-1M and were chief surgeon that’d still not be enough to afford something like one of those prestigious country club memberships. Hell, even being a doctor isn’t good enough, because that’s not even in a truly elite class.

I’m married to a surgeon and we have this lifestyle. Many of dH’s friends and colleagues also have this lifestyle. We do not come from family money. Many people come from some family money.

DH was a resident at an Ivy League when we got married. It was a running joke how some of these nurses tried to land a surgeon for years. DH’s friend married a PA. She was stunning, beauty pageant type girl.

Good for him.
I do think that if you are a guy who wants this (and can afford it), you need to marry a woman who really wants it too.
DH and I met in med school. We tried to live this life for a bit, but it’s really a lot of work, and it’s not worth it if you aren’t into it. People aren’t joking when they talk about managing landscapers and housekeepers and getting regular kitchen renovations. Your house has to look pretty much perfect all of the time or you and your kids won’t fit in.

We ended up moving to a 2,500 sq ft house in a densely populated neighborhood, and life is a lot easier.

[Anonymous]

Just because you are a loser doesn't mean she is. Good for her. Go live your dream girl! She is obviously an ambitious go getter and wants the same!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP—was your date average looking? Or was she everything men superficially like?

This is what I want to know as well.

I am not sure why so many people are so hard on OP. I think he is being a genuine person unlike some of the superficial people on DCUM. I would date you OP, and I have a PhD!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because you are a loser doesn't mean she is. Good for her. Go live your dream girl! She is obviously an ambitious go getter and wants the same!

Ah, yes, the ambitions to join a country club. What a go-getter!

Surely there is no better use of time and money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex married an administrative assistant. They are living in a mansion in Potomac. She just had to get pregnant. And she is a quarter of a century younger than he.

Get it girl!
I hope she's a good step mom to your kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because you are a loser doesn't mean she is. Good for her. Go live your dream girl! She is obviously an ambitious go getter and wants the same!

She's the loser, not him.

[Anonymous]

This was one woman you met yet somehow she is all women?

You’re a misogynist. That’s your main problem.

[Anonymous]

Love how this poster talks about his useless Phd and failed start up but keeps proclaiming that she’s “just a nurse”.

[Anonymous]

Real Housewives is probably less to blame than all of the movies and sitcoms we all grew up with. ‘Friends’ was notorious for putting characters in apartments they could never afford, but so many family sitcoms did too. Somehow, on a single middle class income and raising multiple children, everyone has a lovely home.

Families who lived in homes they could never have afforded and misrepresented adulthood to a whole generation:

The Winslows on “Family Matters”
The Bundy’s on “Married with Children”
The Tanners in “Full House”
The Dunphy’s in “Modern Family”
Raymond on “Everybody Loves Raymond”

This is sneakier than Real Housewives because you don’t realize that you internalized these things from television. You just kind of take it for granted that a realtor with a stay at home wife and three kids can probably afford a $2 million house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never went on one date, bbq, nightclub, or dinner in my 20s where anyone male or female brought up country clubs or Potomac, MD.

I was aware of Haines point lessons and Bell Haven golf club since I worked in Old Town but didn’t know wtf Potomac was.

Bizarre. This post and thread is fake AF.

CCs are bleeding to death these days. Kids (25-40) don't see the value. The clubs aren't what they used to be. You can pretty much have initiation fees waived at the T2 clibs. Old school ones still rape you, smile, and underdeliver.

I guy I work with bragged about his son in law getting into Fairfax CC for no initiation, AND monthly minimums/dues waived for a year.

Like, they paid him to join. He is an almost pro golfer who brings talent to the course, but, c'mon.

It actually sucks. A well run club is huge asset to the community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Real Housewives is probably less to blame than all of the movies and sitcoms we all grew up with. ‘Friends’ was notorious for putting characters in apartments they could never afford, but so many family sitcoms did too. Somehow, on a single middle class income and raising multiple children, everyone has a lovely home.

Families who lived in homes they could never have afforded and misrepresented adulthood to a whole generation:

The Winslows on “Family Matters”
The Bundy’s on “Married with Children”
The Tanners in “Full House”
The Dunphy’s in “Modern Family”
Raymond on “Everybody Loves Raymond”

This is sneakier than Real Housewives because you don’t realize that you internalized these things from television. You just kind of take it for granted that a realtor with a stay at home wife and three kids can probably afford a $2 million house.

Almost every show on streaming services these days depicts people living opulent lifestyles living in fancy perfectly kept houses in beautiful neighborhoods

[Anonymous]

I only know a couple women like this. Unless they are very attractive and date guys who are a little dorky, it's unlikely to happen for them.

Most of the women I know are looking for the following: age appropriate, a couple inches taller than them, sense of humor, smart, has a decent job. Most of us are in good shape, make a decent living and have good personalities.

[Anonymous]

Everyone wants an Instagram worthy life and impress others with their affluence. That's why there are so many living like a millionaire on a $30K budget.

However, its better to find out on first date than after a year. Take first dates as research for an anthropological project.

[Anonymous]

“Just a nurse 👩🏼‍⚕️??!”

I would not think a nurse is not a career goal.

I think it is a very honorable profession & think you should be proud if your wife was one.