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Assuming you are not a troll…
I think women don’t have to marry anymore and it’s not really worth it unless you bring a lot to the table.  But that’s not necessarily money…

She maybe feels she’s very attractive and perhaps overestimated your income.  She’s looking for a mate that is very driven and wants that same lifestyle, and is willing to put up with all that entails.

There are other women (like me) who want a partner who is home more and helping out and an engaged parent vs working many hours.  Someone who doesn’t need me to tell him the phone number of the pediatrician or which night is back to school night.  However I do not look or dress like a model or invest in my nails and hair and while I have an Ivy degree I’m not pulling down half a mill.  We bought modestly in a good school area further out to make our lifestyle manageable.

Of course there are women who want different things.  You are just not asking them out for some reason.  Take a good look at why you are picking poorly.

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Even if you made $500k-1M and were chief surgeon that’d still not be enough to afford something like one of those prestigious country club memberships. Hell, even being a doctor isn’t good enough, because that’s not even in a truly elite class. [/quote]

I’m married to a surgeon and we have this lifestyle. Many of dH’s friends and colleagues also have this lifestyle. We do not come from family money. Many people come from some family money.

DH was a resident at an Ivy League when we got married. It was a running joke how some of these nurses tried to land a surgeon for years. DH’s friend married a PA. She was stunning, beauty pageant type girl. [/quote]

Good for him.  
I do think that if you are a guy who wants this (and can afford it), you need to marry a woman who really wants it too.  
DH and I met in med school.  We tried to live this life for a bit, but it’s really a lot of work, and it’s not worth it if you aren’t into it.  People aren’t joking when they talk about managing landscapers and housekeepers and getting regular kitchen renovations.  Your house has to look pretty much perfect all of the time or you and your kids won’t fit in.

We ended up moving to a 2,500 sq ft house in a densely populated neighborhood, and life is a lot easier.  
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