Why are women so crazy with expectations these days while dating?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. Why do guys who are trolls in personality and appearance think they can attract supermodels? Seems like the opposite side of the same coin to me.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a “women these days” thing. You met one woman. One.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think all women are the same?

+1 you went out with one woman who expected this, and now "why are women so crazy with expectations these days".. rather than, "why is THIS women crazy with her expectations".

It's like if a woman went out with a man who said, "I want to get married with a woman who will want sex whenever I want it, and not get fat when she pops out 3 babies, and if she doesn't want anymore she'll have to deal with all the birth control herself, and no way am I going to help her with house chores or childcare"... and then said woman stated, "Why are men so crazy with expectations these days while dating?".

huh. think about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men do not r cognize their value as much as women recognize theirs. This allows women to over value themselves and at times have delusional aspirations. I mean I don't blame them. Men are out their tripping over themselves racing to.put these women on an undeserved pedestal before they even know them. Men go.on date and right there and then either agree foolishly to whatever their date is saying as far as her aspirations/goals or miserably fail to communicate their own needs and aspirations in a relationship. This gives women a huge advantage because it gives them the sense that they are so valuable than men will just agree to whatever. Les KISS go in with absolute equality 50/50 for everything.

Men usually over value their looks and abilities way more than women do.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/05/the-confidence-gap/359815/

[Anonymous]

You should probably start watching more Bravo. None of the RHOP live this lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

In fact, I only think one lives in DC and she is single and I doubt is part of a country club.

[Anonymous]

*only one lives in Potomac

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just went on a date over the past weekend. She's a nurse, which is completely fine. But during the date she reveals she wants to go move to an area like Chevy Chase/Potomac and wants to join a country club in the Potomac. I'm like WTF in my brain. Her expectations are so massively out of whack for her current situation and the reality of her life. Even in the extreme scenario of a 0.0001% chance I would ever marry a person like this, how does she think we would ever afford a multiple million dollar house and an exclusive country club membership costing several hundred thousands of dollars per year on a salary like hers (and ours)? I mean what does she expect or thinks she deserves? To date CEOs or hedge fund managers only while she is just a nurse? Absolutely unreal.

I'm not poor, have a PhD in engineering and started a small startup, but that's not going to pay a mortgage or country club membership. The insane entitlement mentality of many women I've dated these days is just nuts. Has the Real Housewives of the Potomac brainwashed an entire generation of women in this area for what to expect in life?

So you don’t have ambitious expectations for yourself. But that doesn’t mean she needs to give up her expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just went on a date over the past weekend. She's a nurse, which is completely fine. But during the date she reveals she wants to go move to an area like Chevy Chase/Potomac and wants to join a country club in the Potomac. I'm like WTF in my brain. Her expectations are so massively out of whack for her current situation and the reality of her life. Even in the extreme scenario of a 0.0001% chance I would ever marry a person like this, how does she think we would ever afford a multiple million dollar house and an exclusive country club membership costing several hundred thousands of dollars per year on a salary like hers (and ours)? I mean what does she expect or thinks she deserves? To date CEOs or hedge fund managers only while she is just a nurse? Absolutely unreal.

I'm not poor, have a PhD in engineering and started a small startup, but that's not going to pay a mortgage or country club membership. The insane entitlement mentality of many women I've dated these days is just nuts. Has the Real Housewives of the Potomac brainwashed an entire generation of women in this area for what to expect in life?

try dating older women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Assuming you are not a troll…
I think women don’t have to marry anymore and it’s not really worth it unless you bring a lot to the table. But that’s not necessarily money…

She maybe feels she’s very attractive and perhaps overestimated your income. She’s looking for a mate that is very driven and wants that same lifestyle, and is willing to put up with all that entails.

There are other women (like me) who want a partner who is home more and helping out and an engaged parent vs working many hours. Someone who doesn’t need me to tell him the phone number of the pediatrician or which night is back to school night. However I do not look or dress like a model or invest in my nails and hair and while I have an Ivy degree I’m not pulling down half a mill. We bought modestly in a good school area further out to make our lifestyle manageable.

Of course there are women who want different things. You are just not asking them out for some reason. Take a good look at why you are picking poorly.

Even if you made $500k-1M and were chief surgeon that’d still not be enough to afford something like one of those prestigious country club memberships. Hell, even being a doctor isn’t good enough, because that’s not even in a truly elite class.

There’s legacy memberships and family money etc so there are ways she can achieve it but who cares? I’m guessing you don’t think that’s a good use of that amount of money so now you know you two aren’t compatible that’s great just wish her luck and keep moving on.

[Anonymous]

I would love to own a beach house on the ocean in Rehoboth. I know it isn’t realistic bc I dont have multiple extra millions of $.

I can’t even imagine having a convo w/ someone on a first date, mentioning how I love the beach and would love my own beach house, and my date a) thinking I seriously somehow think that a divorced mother of 2 will somehow manage to land a man who buy me a multimillion dollar beach house and b) having a reaction like OP did here. We would not be a match for a number of reasons.

[Anonymous]

I think you might want to stay off of the apps. Join organization that reflect your values and aspirations, and you will meet like-minded people.

[Anonymous]

My friend married a rocket scientist and is now shopping for a $1million+ second home. She married for the first time at 49 and works part-time for a non-profit. So, it's not entirely out of the realm of possibilities, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend married a rocket scientist and is now shopping for a $1million+ second home. She married for the first time at 49 and works part-time for a non-profit. So, it's not entirely out of the realm of possibilities, OP.

Rocket scientists don’t make that much money. He must have a trust fund.

[Anonymous]

I think that someone with a PhD in Engineering would be better at understanding sampling. You date "many women" with "crazy expectations". You think your conclusions from that small sample and be applied to all women. <smh>

You need to think about what it is about you and your 'criteria' draws these kinds of women. Figure out what interests the type of woman you'd like to date and, importantly, why she'd want to date you. You are neither choosing or attracting the kind of women you want.