Why are women so crazy with expectations these days while dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a “women these days” thing. You met one woman. One.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Assuming you are not a troll…
I think women don’t have to marry anymore and it’s not really worth it unless you bring a lot to the table. But that’s not necessarily money…

She maybe feels she’s very attractive and perhaps overestimated your income. She’s looking for a mate that is very driven and wants that same lifestyle, and is willing to put up with all that entails.

There are other women (like me) who want a partner who is home more and helping out and an engaged parent vs working many hours. Someone who doesn’t need me to tell him the phone number of the pediatrician or which night is back to school night. However I do not look or dress like a model or invest in my nails and hair and while I have an Ivy degree I’m not pulling down half a mill. We bought modestly in a good school area further out to make our lifestyle manageable.

Of course there are women who want different things. You are just not asking them out for some reason. Take a good look at why you are picking poorly.

Even if you made $500k-1M and were chief surgeon that’d still not be enough to afford something like one of those prestigious country club memberships. Hell, even being a doctor isn’t good enough, because that’s not even in a truly elite class.

I’m married to a surgeon and we have this lifestyle. Many of dH’s friends and colleagues also have this lifestyle. We do not come from family money. Many people come from some family money.

DH was a resident at an Ivy League when we got married. It was a running joke how some of these nurses tried to land a surgeon for years. DH’s friend married a PA. She was stunning, beauty pageant type girl.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP—was your date average looking? Or was she everything men superficially like?

[Anonymous]

Sorry you went on a date with someone whose expectations you didn’t meet. Happens all the time. Move on to someone whose expectations are more aligned with your own.

Plenty of nurses have country club memberships.

[Anonymous]

Country club memberships do not cost hundreds of thousands a year, and not every home in Potomac is four million dollars.
She sounds kind of clueless about how much things cost, but so do you, OP. Just in the opposite direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just went on a date over the past weekend. She's a nurse, which is completely fine. But during the date she reveals she wants to go move to an area like Chevy Chase/Potomac and wants to join a country club in the Potomac. I'm like WTF in my brain. Her expectations are so massively out of whack for her current situation and the reality of her life. Even in the extreme scenario of a 0.0001% chance I would ever marry a person like this, how does she think we would ever afford a multiple million dollar house and an exclusive country club membership costing several hundred thousands of dollars per year on a salary like hers (and ours)? I mean what does she expect or thinks she deserves? To date CEOs or hedge fund managers only while she is just a nurse? Absolutely unreal.

I'm not poor, have a PhD in engineering and started a small startup, but that's not going to pay a mortgage or country club membership. The insane entitlement mentality of many women I've dated these days is just nuts. Has the Real Housewives of the Potomac brainwashed an entire generation of women in this area for what to expect in life?

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a “women these days” thing. You met one woman. One.

Supposedly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that someone with a PhD in Engineering would be better at understanding sampling. You date "many women" with "crazy expectations". You think your conclusions from that small sample and be applied to all women. <smh>

You need to think about what it is about you and your 'criteria' draws these kinds of women. Figure out what interests the type of woman you'd like to date [b]and, importantly, why she'd want to date you. [/b] You are neither choosing or attracting the kind of women you want.

This. If you’ve met multiple women who want to live a multi-million dollar lifestyle, they all have you in common. Ask a close friend to look over your profile and give feedback.

[Anonymous]

For a PhD, it seems the OP extrapolated a whole lot of generalizations about "women" from a single data point.

[Anonymous]

Social media and dating apps have warped expectations.

A lot of women are just delusional regarding the value they bring to the table for a man of worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Assuming you are not a troll…
I think women don’t have to marry anymore and it’s not really worth it unless you bring a lot to the table. But that’s not necessarily money…

She maybe feels she’s very attractive and perhaps overestimated your income. She’s looking for a mate that is very driven and wants that same lifestyle, and is willing to put up with all that entails.

There are other women (like me) who want a partner who is home more and helping out and an engaged parent vs working many hours. Someone who doesn’t need me to tell him the phone number of the pediatrician or which night is back to school night. However I do not look or dress like a model or invest in my nails and hair and while I have an Ivy degree I’m not pulling down half a mill. We bought modestly in a good school area further out to make our lifestyle manageable.

Of course there are women who want different things. You are just not asking them out for some reason. Take a good look at why you are picking poorly.

Even if you made $500k-1M and were chief surgeon that’d still not be enough to afford something like one of those prestigious country club memberships. Hell, even being a doctor isn’t good enough, because that’s not even in a truly elite class.

She sounds like a gold digger, but you truly don’t think a cc membership costs hundreds of thousands annually, do you?
We go to one of the more expensive ones around here, and after the hefty initiation fee, the annual costs are pretty reasonable

[Anonymous]

So are you going to stop dating women then, OP?

[Anonymous]

Never went on one date, bbq, nightclub, or dinner in my 20s where anyone male or female brought up country clubs or Potomac, MD.

I was aware of Haines point lessons and Bell Haven golf club since I worked in Old Town but didn’t know wtf Potomac was.

Bizarre. This post and thread is fake AF.

[Anonymous]

Or my 30s

[Anonymous]

She's telling you because you've been friendzoned