I am married to a passive, un-masculine man

[Anonymous]

Big career = Masculine? I have 1 word for you. Lumberjack.

[Anonymous]

Womyn / feminists keep harping about “toxic masculinity.” OP got exactly what you all have been demanding.

So why the complaints now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you heard the term *toxic masculinity*? Have you heard the term *patriarchy*? I don’t think there is a war on men. But I think there is a desire to change men’s natural behavior. Perhaps then you end with men like your husband.

This is true to an extent.

Men can be masculine without being toxic. And men can follow a more patriarchal path without being demeaning or condescending.

Men don’t need the tight knit friend groups like woman do. DH is friendly and has plenty of friends non that he is supper close with other than long time friend/best man in our wedding that lives 2k miles away. He definitely focuses more on my emotional needs and our emotional bonding. People would probably assume my DH is not the manly type as you describe. He is definitely someone you would not want to get in fight, though he is never going to go looking for one. He keeps his emotions in check and responds appropriately in tense or adverse situations. He would be the first one to intervene if S was about to hit the fan. He would be the first one into a burning building and actually has been. He doesn’t tolerate ignorance or hate . He chooses his words wisely and has a quiet confidence that most would overlook. Glad I didn’t.

[Anonymous]

same reason why Asian men least desirable male on dating market. alpha male beats beta male just the way is in life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You want a real man, but society today frowns on real men, OP. Welcome to the great compromise. This is what women wanted.

Portions of society frown on it.

Enroll your son in tackle football. And then wrestling in the winter. And then lax or baseball in the spring.

Take him somewhere he can learn to fish or hunt.

Real, true masculine men exist. Not the fake masculinity. But the real one. Where men understand their responsibility to the next generation. Where they teach values and self-sufficiency. Where your son learn mental resiliency, toughness, and compassion.

Let your boy be the boy he is, assuming that you're asking bc he's different than his father

[Anonymous]

Do you want domestic abuse problems to return to the levels they were at back in the days when "men were men?"

"Alphas" are going to mistreat women. It's all part of the package.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want domestic abuse problems to return to the levels they were at back in the days when "men were men?"

"Alphas" are going to mistreat women. It's all part of the package.

Yep, wives, daughters.

[Anonymous]

Same OP, same.

[Anonymous]

Look, you can’t change who people are at their core. If your spouse isn’t the person you want him to be, leaving is the kindest thing for you both.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is quite passive. However he cleans the house, always does the dishes, my kids like him and he's good looking. He doesn't make much money either.

However, he's amazing in bed.

[Anonymous]

You need to go watch Daddy's Home. You will understand your DH vs. the macho, bad boy.

Never thought I would prescribe Daddy's Home to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Women (or shall I say feminists) want us Men to embrace our emotional side more. They want us to show “positive” emotion, be less toxic (whatever that means, guess soon they will start injecting us with testosterone blockers by force), etc… I don’t know where we are headed. Projecting the toxic behavior or the 1% of men at the top of the patriarchy onto the other 99% of men and declare all of us Toxic just needs to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women (or shall I say feminists) want us Men to embrace our emotional side more. They want us to show “positive” emotion, be less toxic (whatever that means, guess soon they will start injecting us with testosterone blockers by force), etc… I don’t know where we are headed. Projecting the toxic behavior or the 1% of men at the top of the patriarchy onto the other 99% of men and declare all of us Toxic just needs to stop.

100x

My wife started tilting at me once trump got into office, everything became about men (and me) keeping women down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, you can’t change who people are at their core. If your spouse isn’t the person you want him to be, leaving is the kindest thing for you both.

This is some real mental gymnastics here to make leaving the kind thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Honey, it is the ‘20s.

Let your husband be as masculine or feminine as he wants. And you can do the same.