I am married to a passive, un-masculine man

[Anonymous]

I love my husband but he is not like...a man. He does not have a big career or even works outside of the home! He runs a small business and hardly leaves the house. He cooks dinner most nights and does not show any interest in physical fitness or sports. He does not have male friends and he is a recluse.

We have a 3 year old that I know will seek out his father in terms of how to be a man, when the time comes. Is my situation as dire as being a single mom in terms of having role models for our son?

[Anonymous]

Your husband is not a problem. OP you are the problem.

[Anonymous]

Please list all the reasons you married this man. This doesn’t happen overnight. Or are you a troll?

[Anonymous]

Lame troll attempt.

[Anonymous]

Please troll more creatively next time. I’m uninspired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband but he is not like...a man. He does not have a big career or even works outside of the home! He runs a small business and hardly leaves the house. He cooks dinner most nights and does not show any interest in physical fitness or sports. He does not have male friends and he is a recluse.

We have a 3 year old that I know will seek out his father in terms of how to be a man, when the time comes. Is my situation as dire as being a single mom in terms of having role models for our son?

It’s 2023! This is how men are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please troll more creatively next time. I’m uninspired.

Same here

[Anonymous]

You're kind of missing the important bits, here, OP. Is he appropriately intimate with you? Does he care for your welfare and his child's welfare? Is he attentive and loving? Does he have interesting conversation, hobbies you share, can you broach difficult topics and get feedback you value?

Those are the interesting parts of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Listen, y'all... all women don't need all men to be obnoxious alpha dogs out in the world. But if your DH is like OP's he should at least be dominant in the bedroom. Nobody likes a wet fish, male or female. I don't think anybody appreciates someone who is passive, indecisive, unambitious, and boring. I get OP's point. But OP, didn't you know this about him before you got married?

[Anonymous]

Have you heard the term *toxic masculinity*? Have you heard the term *patriarchy*? I don’t think there is a war on men. But I think there is a desire to change men’s natural behavior. Perhaps then you end with men like your husband.

[Anonymous]

OP I hate to tell you this but many men are like him today. They are lonely (no friends), not very outgoing and kind of boring. I don’t know why but it is a trend…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband but he is not like...a man. He does not have a big career or even works outside of the home! He runs a small business and hardly leaves the house. He cooks dinner most nights and does not show any interest in physical fitness or sports. He does not have male friends and he is a recluse.

We have a 3 year old that I know will seek out his father in terms of how to be a man, when the time comes. Is my situation as dire as being a single mom in terms of having role models for our son?

It’s 2023! This is how men are.

He cooks you dinner every night and you are complaining?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband but he is not like...a man. He does not have a big career or even works outside of the home! He runs a small business and hardly leaves the house. He cooks dinner most nights and does not show any interest in physical fitness or sports. He does not have male friends and he is a recluse.

We have a 3 year old that I know will seek out his father in terms of how to be a man, when the time comes. Is my situation as dire as being a single mom in terms of having role models for our son?

It’s 2023! This is how men are.

He cooks you dinner every night and you are complaining?

It’s a myth that women want docile men. No, they like semi assh**ls so they can have something to complain about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband but he is not like...a man. He does not have a big career or even works outside of the home! He runs a small business and hardly leaves the house. He cooks dinner most nights and does not show any interest in physical fitness or sports. He does not have male friends and he is a recluse.

We have a 3 year old that I know will seek out his father in terms of how to be a man, when the time comes. Is my situation as dire as being a single mom in terms of having role models for our son?

It’s 2023! This is how men are.

He cooks you dinner every night and you are complaining?

It’s a myth that women want docile men. No, they like semi assh**ls so they can have something to complain about.

Women do not want assh***s. They want a kind man who can be assertive and take the lead when appropriate. Probably the same for men.

[Anonymous]

When he takes the lead, then you can call him douchebag