I am married to a passive, un-masculine man

[Anonymous]

It’s better than an abusive dad or a Disney dad or no dad.
Your son might decide to be his own person and become sporty and masculine.

[Anonymous]

As a woman this type of man would turn me off.

I like to feel like my husband as my rock + protector.

Someone to be the dominant “Alpha” in the home…..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he takes the lead, then you can call him douchebag

Or call him “toxically masculine.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman this type of man would turn me off.

I like to feel like my husband as my rock + protector.

Someone to be the dominant “Alpha” in the home…..

But what you are describing is toxic masculinity. You can’t possibly want that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When he takes the lead, then you can call him douchebag

Or call him “toxically masculine.”

this

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds like he’s got other issues you dislike, beyond how he fits into your view of men. But maybe he acts the way he does because he knows you are disgusted with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is not a problem. OP you are the problem.

Why do people always do this when anyone struggles like this with their relationship? Like - why be on this board? Just to tell everyone they suck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is not a problem. OP you are the problem.

Why do people always do this when anyone struggles like this with their relationship? Like - why be on this board? Just to tell everyone they suck?

I didn’t post and the comment is unnecessarily terse. But many people who post of these boards don’t really seem to want look at their own issues. Seems like OP would be better served considering her own issues with masculinity and how she ended up marrying someone who didn’t match what she wanted. But no, she came on here to complain about the man caring for her and making her dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is not a problem. OP you are the problem.

Why do people always do this when anyone struggles like this with their relationship? Like - why be on this board? Just to tell everyone they suck?

She does suck. She must have known this about him before they married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman this type of man would turn me off.

I like to feel like my husband as my rock + protector.

Someone to be the dominant “Alpha” in the home…..

Running a business while WFH would turn you off?
You think someone running their own business isn’t an “Alpha”?

We have three actual facts here: Business owner, cooks, and isn’t interested in sports/working out.

I don’t believe you are actually a woman and think you are just a troll sock puppeting.

[Anonymous]

OP can we please swap?

[Anonymous]

Where can I find one of these men who make dinner?

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming this means you are having an affair and comparing him to that person?

Totally ridiculous to assume men follow their Father's. Everyone finds their own path

[Anonymous]

lol @ marrying some beta male and not even being concerned until you had to think about raising a son. Big time fail.

[Anonymous]

You want a real man, but society today frowns on real men, OP. Welcome to the great compromise. This is what women wanted.