Parents of 1-2 kids- are you happy or do you regret not having few more

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow three pages and not a single post telling another woman she has the wrong number of children. Must be nice for all of you.

I know you are the angry poster from the 3+ thread and I want to gently suggest that you stop relying on strangers on the internet to validate your life choices. It doesn't matter if anyone here approves of how many kids you have. This area, and thus this board, trends toward women having kids later and therefore having fewer. So it is no surprise that bias exists on this board towards fewer kids.

If you are happy with your family, that is truly all that matters.

I'm actually not that poster but one of the many other moms of three who were insulted on that thread. In fact someone on that thread pointed out that you never hear moms of many telling moms of 1-2 they should have more kids, and this thread proves it. Maybe the lesson here is you should worry about your own families and not start fights with other women because you disapprove of their choices.

Ha! Mom of 1 here. I assure you, of the hundreds of moms who suggested our outright told me to have more kids, many were moms of 3 or more. Moms of onliest receive the harshest judgement by far. Not saying others don't feel judged. But let's be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow three pages and not a single post telling another woman she has the wrong number of children. Must be nice for all of you.

I know you are the angry poster from the 3+ thread and I want to gently suggest that you stop relying on strangers on the internet to validate your life choices. It doesn't matter if anyone here approves of how many kids you have. This area, and thus this board, trends toward women having kids later and therefore having fewer. So it is no surprise that bias exists on this board towards fewer kids.

If you are happy with your family, that is truly all that matters.

I'm actually not that poster but one of the many other moms of three who were insulted on that thread. In fact someone on that thread pointed out that you never hear moms of many telling moms of 1-2 they should have more kids, and this thread proves it. Maybe the lesson here is you should worry about your own families and not start fights with other women because you disapprove of their choices.

Ha! Mom of 1 here. I assure you, of the hundreds of moms who suggested our outright told me to have more kids, many were moms of 3 or more. Moms of onliest receive the harshest judgement by far. Not saying others don't feel judged. But let's be real.

+1. No one bothers moms of 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow three pages and not a single post telling another woman she has the wrong number of children. Must be nice for all of you.

I know you are the angry poster from the 3+ thread and I want to gently suggest that you stop relying on strangers on the internet to validate your life choices. It doesn't matter if anyone here approves of how many kids you have. This area, and thus this board, trends toward women having kids later and therefore having fewer. So it is no surprise that bias exists on this board towards fewer kids.

If you are happy with your family, that is truly all that matters.

I'm actually not that poster but one of the many other moms of three who were insulted on that thread. In fact someone on that thread pointed out that you never hear moms of many telling moms of 1-2 they should have more kids, and this thread proves it. Maybe the lesson here is you should worry about your own families and not start fights with other women because you disapprove of their choices.

Ha! Mom of 1 here. I assure you, of the hundreds of moms who suggested our outright told me to have more kids, many were moms of 3 or more. Moms of onliest receive the harshest judgement by far. Not saying others don't feel judged. But let's be real.

+1. No one bothers moms of 2.

Correction. No one bothers moms of 1 boy and 1 girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow three pages and not a single post telling another woman she has the wrong number of children. Must be nice for all of you.

I know you are the angry poster from the 3+ thread and I want to gently suggest that you stop relying on strangers on the internet to validate your life choices. It doesn't matter if anyone here approves of how many kids you have. This area, and thus this board, trends toward women having kids later and therefore having fewer. So it is no surprise that bias exists on this board towards fewer kids.

If you are happy with your family, that is truly all that matters.

I'm actually not that poster but one of the many other moms of three who were insulted on that thread. In fact someone on that thread pointed out that you never hear moms of many telling moms of 1-2 they should have more kids, and this thread proves it. Maybe the lesson here is you should worry about your own families and not start fights with other women because you disapprove of their choices.

Ha! Mom of 1 here. I assure you, of the hundreds of moms who suggested our outright told me to have more kids, many were moms of 3 or more. Moms of onliest receive the harshest judgement by far. Not saying others don't feel judged. But let's be real.

+1. No one bothers moms of 2.

Correction. No one bothers moms of 1 boy and 1 girl.

I have two older girls. No one has ever asked me or implied I should have more. Maybe it’s a 2 boys thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 - super happy with the dynamic. The world is not made for bigger families and we'd be way overtaxed by it.

Same.

[Anonymous]

I have two teen girls. Older one is “easy” and second one has some anxiety issues but otherwise is a good kid. Both are feasibly week behaved and good students and it’s STILL hard. More power to those that can handle more. I can’t. And it didn’t “get easier” when they got older - just different.

[Anonymous]

Well behaved, not week

[Anonymous]

I have two but wish I had more. Two is right for me due to having kids late but I have already told my kids to think about setting down and having kids younger because if I had them younger I would have had two and wait a few years and then two more. I was so focused on career I almost missed out on having kids in general and honestly the kids are way better than the career.

[Anonymous]

Two maxed us out.

[Anonymous]

I have one by choice and he is a joy. I don’t say this often in person because who wants to have it rubbed in their face but I love it so much and love having time to have an identity outside of being a mom - although I love being a mom too and feel like I’m a better mom because I can actually be there for him when needed

[Anonymous]

I'm really impressed by the maturity of the argument about having more people at the holiday table. It seems some people watch too much Hallmark TV.

[Anonymous]

Somehow our world, more so our educated and developed societies are customized for two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow three pages and not a single post telling another woman she has the wrong number of children. Must be nice for all of you.

I know you are the angry poster from the 3+ thread and I want to gently suggest that you stop relying on strangers on the internet to validate your life choices. It doesn't matter if anyone here approves of how many kids you have. This area, and thus this board, trends toward women having kids later and therefore having fewer. So it is no surprise that bias exists on this board towards fewer kids.

If you are happy with your family, that is truly all that matters.

I'm actually not that poster but one of the many other moms of three who were insulted on that thread. In fact someone on that thread pointed out that you never hear moms of many telling moms of 1-2 they should have more kids, and this thread proves it. Maybe the lesson here is you should worry about your own families and not start fights with other women because you disapprove of their choices.

Ha! Mom of 1 here. I assure you, of the hundreds of moms who suggested our outright told me to have more kids, many were moms of 3 or more. Moms of onliest receive the harshest judgement by far. Not saying others don't feel judged. But let's be real.

+1. No one bothers moms of 2.

Correction. No one bothers moms of 1 boy and 1 girl.

This was accurate for me. When I told people I had a boy and a girl often I got this sigh of contentment and people said "perfect!" and it was a little weird. People make such a big deal out of gender.

[Anonymous]

I have one. I have been told by complete strangers (for example at the playground) that l should have at least one more.

I love my kid and l love to work and am the primary bread winner, so planning to keep it at one.

[Anonymous]

I have 2, a boy or a girl. Affordability, age, energy and lack of family nearby - major factors in limiting to 2. Also, with 2 there is a good balance in terms of family, marriage, job etc.