Parents of 1-2 kids- are you happy or do you regret not having few more

[Anonymous]

Not at all. I have two, but would rather have had one than three. Better to give your kid(s) all they need with some to spare, than end up not having enough to give. Just look at the middle child thread in Family. That’s a big no thanks from me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have 1. Grateful to have the one, but wanted more. Couldn't do to age and infertility.

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had 3, lost 1, happy with 2.

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your child's memory be a blessing always.

[Anonymous]

I loved being a middle kid.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Well I had an abortion because I didn't want a third so...

And I really love having two instead of one. Their particular dynamic is really special. [/quote]

I also aborted what would have been my third. Mostly because there just wasn't enough money or time to be the kind of mom I wanted be to 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well I had an abortion because I didn't want a third so...

And I really love having two instead of one. Their particular dynamic is really special. [/quote]

I also aborted what would have been my third. Mostly because there just wasn't enough money or time to be the kind of mom I wanted be to 3 kids. [/quote]

Ditto, to all of this. My two kids are now 7 and 4 and I'm really happy. When we decided to go ahead with the abortion I vowed to really make good on my belief that I'd be a better parent to two than to three, and I've put more conscious energy into enjoying my family as is.

[Anonymous]

We have an only due to infertility. At the time it was hard but we’re so happy now. My child loves being an only and is with friends all the time. Vacations can be tricky but other than that all is well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow three pages and not a single post telling another woman she has the wrong number of children. Must be nice for all of you.

I know you are the angry poster from the 3+ thread and I want to gently suggest that you stop relying on strangers on the internet to validate your life choices. It doesn't matter if anyone here approves of how many kids you have. This area, and thus this board, trends toward women having kids later and therefore having fewer. So it is no surprise that bias exists on this board towards fewer kids.

If you are happy with your family, that is truly all that matters.

I'm actually not that poster but one of the many other moms of three who were insulted on that thread. In fact someone on that thread pointed out that you never hear moms of many telling moms of 1-2 they should have more kids, and this thread proves it. Maybe the lesson here is you should worry about your own families and not start fights with other women because you disapprove of their choices.

Ha! Mom of 1 here. I assure you, of the hundreds of moms who suggested our outright told me to have more kids, many were moms of 3 or more. Moms of onliest receive the harshest judgement by far. Not saying others don't feel judged. But let's be real.

+1. No one bothers moms of 2.

Correction. No one bothers moms of 1 boy and 1 girl.

I think you’re right and ironically I think this is the worst for the kids. My brother and I were never close and even less so now as adults. We never played together as kids or hung out together later. Not much of a relationship there.

[Anonymous]

I am delighted with my two children who are two and a half years apart. After having our first we were on the fence about whether to have a second. It was a rough few years when they were super young but now they are 9 and 6 and things are pretty great.

In theory, a big family sounds great once they reach adulthood, but I know I would be much less of a quality parent with more kids.