ILs comments on drinking

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Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

Adopt a thick skin, ignore their comments, "I prefer water right now."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

Adopt a thick skin, ignore their comments, "I prefer water right now."

This. Don’t be such a rigid kill-joy.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't you just have a conversation about peer pressure and explain that it isn't only during teen/high school years? Our entire lives we have to navigate peer pressure in one form or another, so teach your kids how to handle it by being a good role model.

This. I think this can be a great conversation with your kids on what peer pressure can look like and how to deflect and not cave.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

Adopt a thick skin, ignore their comments, "I prefer water right now."

This. Don’t be such a rigid kill-joy.

Yeah, drink a minimum of four alcoholic beverages a day. That’s a healthy, fun approach to life! Jaundice is so in this season.

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Depending on the type of kids you have and how aggressive their school’s anti drug program is, you might end up with an awkward moment where they criticize your in laws for drinking too much (happened when my sister was in middle school at the height of DARE). Other than that I actually thinking modeling *resisting* peer pressure to drink on a regular basis for your kids is not a actually a bad thing for them? If you think about it, you’re providing them the script for resisting a beer they don’t want a party but drinking water or lemonade when the in laws try to convince you to have wine.

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“Sally, Jim, why do you want us to drink with you so badly? Are you feeling self-conscious about the number of alcoholic beverages you drink every day?”

Pointed stare.

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"You guys are alcoholics and I don't want to be that way or raise my kids that way. If you can't control your drinking around us, at least stop talking about it. We're tolerating your drinking, but barely, so don't draw attention to it."

I would be very direct, because they're clearly functional alcoholics, it's bad for their health, and it's the height of hypocrisy and rudeness for them to try and rope you into an unhealthy lifestyle. The bonus is that if they take offense, they might distance themselves, which would be great!

I have seen some awful scripts on DCUM in my time but this is the worst ever. PP clearly is a nasty shrew with no communication skills. Ignore this suggestion— it is unnecessarily inflammatory and tantamount to an attack and won’t result in any sort of productive outcome. PP should never, EVER make a recommendation on what to say to another person, EVER. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not rejoice in the fact that they are choosing an unhealthy lifestyle that will hasten their demise? Think of all the future problems it will resolve. Live and let live.

Dafuq is wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Sally, Jim, why do you want us to drink with you so badly? Are you feeling self-conscious about the number of alcoholic beverages you drink every day?”

Pointed stare.

Second worse script in DCUM history. Needlessly aggressive.

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I’m sorry but they don’t sound like raging alcoholics to me. They just sound like fun people who like the party. And why shouldn’t they? They’re older, they paid their dues, they’re either close to or past retirement, and they’re not bogged down by little kids. So why not live a little?

My kids and grandkids were just here at our second home for a long weekend. The grandkids are now old enough that we can ask them to get us a drink from the basement fridge. Very helpful.

You’re all such fuddy duddies.

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No thanks! We are watching calories!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry but they don’t sound like raging alcoholics to me. They just sound like fun people who like the party. And why shouldn’t they? They’re older, they paid their dues, they’re either close to or past retirement, and they’re not bogged down by little kids. So why not live a little?

My kids and grandkids were just here at our second home for a long weekend. The grandkids are now old enough that we can ask them to get us a drink from the basement fridge. Very helpful.

You’re all such fuddy duddies.

I’m a nurse practitioner, and four alcoholic drinks a day, over numerous years, will absolutely ravage your liver, your blood sugar levels, will lead to inflammation, and a whole host of health problems. A body that has been treated that way for years is not “ a party.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry but they don’t sound like raging alcoholics to me. They just sound like fun people who like the party. And why shouldn’t they? They’re older, they paid their dues, they’re either close to or past retirement, and they’re not bogged down by little kids. So why not live a little?

My kids and grandkids were just here at our second home for a long weekend. The grandkids are now old enough that we can ask them to get us a drink from the basement fridge. Very helpful.

You’re all such fuddy duddies.

I’m a nurse practitioner, and four alcoholic drinks a day, over numerous years, will absolutely ravage your liver, your blood sugar levels, will lead to inflammation, and a whole host of health problems. A body that has been treated that way for years is not “ a party.”

You mean “can” and not “will.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry but they don’t sound like raging alcoholics to me. They just sound like fun people who like the party. And why shouldn’t they? They’re older, they paid their dues, they’re either close to or past retirement, and they’re not bogged down by little kids. So why not live a little?

My kids and grandkids were just here at our second home for a long weekend. The grandkids are now old enough that we can ask them to get us a drink from the basement fridge. Very helpful.

You’re all such fuddy duddies.

I’m a nurse practitioner, and four alcoholic drinks a day, over numerous years, will absolutely ravage your liver, your blood sugar levels, will lead to inflammation, and a whole host of health problems. A body that has been treated that way for years is not “ a party.”

You mean “can” and not “will.”

No, over a sustained period of time, four drinks a day, I do mean will.