ILs comments on drinking

[Anonymous]

The kids are going to get lots of invitations to drink as they grow up.

Show the kids how to say No, and tell them how unhealthy their grandparents' habit is.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree drunks always want you to drink with them. It's the worst.

You're probably not going to shut it down and I would openly discuss it with your children and why it's problematic. They are noticing.

Not all drunks. Some alcoholics, like my parents, just drink excessively without seeming to notice or care what others do. They never even offer me or anyone else a drink when they’re making themselves a cocktail or “grabbing a beer” or pouring a huge glass of wine. They’re too self involved or maybe they just want to try to keep their drinking under my radar (which obviously isn’t possible with the amounts they drink).

My aunt is like this. She drinks vodka out of a labeled water bottle all day long and NEVER offers anyone any alcoholic drink when hosting. The weirdest thing is that she never even seems drunk.

The water bottle is labeled “vodka”? Unusual

I took this to mean she puts vodka in a water bottle that says Evian or Aquafina or SmartWater or something. Like “obviously water” except everyone knows it’s not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

Np. It isn't right pp. How would you like it if I pressured you to eat a piece of cake when you don't want to? Grown adults get to decide what to put in their body.

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Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Not if your're 10. If you obly have it once in a while its fine

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Anonymous wrote:Agree drunks always want you to drink with them. It's the worst.

You're probably not going to shut it down and I would openly discuss it with your children and why it's problematic. They are noticing.

Not all drunks. Some alcoholics, like my parents, just drink excessively without seeming to notice or care what others do. They never even offer me or anyone else a drink when they’re making themselves a cocktail or “grabbing a beer” or pouring a huge glass of wine. They’re too self involved or maybe they just want to try to keep their drinking under my radar (which obviously isn’t possible with the amounts they drink).

My aunt is like this. She drinks vodka out of a labeled water bottle all day long and NEVER offers anyone any alcoholic drink when hosting. The weirdest thing is that she never even seems drunk.

Neither did my friend who drank an handle of vodka a day. That was just what he needed to feel and act normal. His liver gave out at the age of 43.

My old boss drank 12 Budweisers every single day (after work) when I worked for him. That was 18 years, which was another 10 years ago. He's 10 years older than I am so he's been doing that for at least 35 years. He is skinny as a teenager, runs, swims, kayaks, and still goes camping.

Doubtful his liver is going out soon.

Um, OK?

Have you seen his liver?