ILs comments on drinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

You sound like a drunk.

DP, runner and cyclist, normal BMI, so don’t bother being predictable

I see. You are just skinny fat with no muscle tone.

Sweetie, you lost. Just take the L and stop embarrassing yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

You sound like a drunk.

DP, runner and cyclist, normal BMI, so don’t bother being predictable

I see. You are just skinny fat with no muscle tone.

Sweetie, you lost. Just take the L and stop embarrassing yourself.

Oops. Someone struck a nerve huh. Maybe lift some upper body weights to speed up that metabolism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are not going to find the right words to get functional alcoholics to stop acting like functional alcoholics. Instead, explain to your kids what is happening. Explain about addition and peer pressure and how, even though you love them, the grandparents are making bad choices by trying to pressure other people to drink, and they are doing it because their bodies and brains are addicted to it. It's up to you whether you do this in front of the grandparents or not.

From a young age and their cousins knew that their grandfather didn't "count" as a grown up watching them in their pool because he "drank too much and got too sleepy to pay attention". It bothered him that we said that, but it bothered us that he would continually invite the kids to jump in before any other adults were around and he was half sloshed.

This. Tell them your IL are addicted to alcohol. Most Americans don't "need" to drink at lunch. Most Americans don't "need" to drink every evening.

It’s not just Americans…it’s people. No people need to drink that much. No people should drink that much. It’s incredibly unhealthy.

No. Americans need to stop overeating so much. Americans are more obese than ever. This is going to bring down the life expectancy. But hey now than can at least take a shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“So many alcoholics on this thread. Yowza. I for one am glad that the trends for alcohol consumption are decreasing with younger generations.”

How is all of the pot use better?

No calories and doesn’t damage your liver, for one. Doesn’t spike your blood sugar. Doesn’t contribute to diabetes. Shall I go on?

Why use pot or drink alcohol? Not helping your health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

Why are you so insecure that you want to pressure others? How would you like it if people forced food on you when you dont want to eat that piece of cake?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are not going to find the right words to get functional alcoholics to stop acting like functional alcoholics. Instead, explain to your kids what is happening. Explain about addition and peer pressure and how, even though you love them, the grandparents are making bad choices by trying to pressure other people to drink, and they are doing it because their bodies and brains are addicted to it. It's up to you whether you do this in front of the grandparents or not.

From a young age and their cousins knew that their grandfather didn't "count" as a grown up watching them in their pool because he "drank too much and got too sleepy to pay attention". It bothered him that we said that, but it bothered us that he would continually invite the kids to jump in before any other adults were around and he was half sloshed.

This. Tell them your IL are addicted to alcohol. Most Americans don't "need" to drink at lunch. Most Americans don't "need" to drink every evening.

It’s not just Americans…it’s people. No people need to drink that much. No people should drink that much. It’s incredibly unhealthy.

No. Americans need to stop overeating so much. Americans are more obese than ever. This is going to bring down the life expectancy. But hey now than can at least take a shot.

We’re talking about alcohol consumption and whether or not having 4+ drinks a day is good for you. It’s not, no matter what your nationality is…

[Anonymous]

This post is perfect for a Miss Manners entry. I'd love to hear her ideas on what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

Why are you so insecure that you want to pressure others? How would you like it if people forced food on you when you dont want to eat that piece of cake?

People try to force food on others all the time whether at home, vacation or workplace more so than alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say "mmm a lemonade sounds perfect to me right now" and do that. The kids also agree that lemonade is preferable. It gets everyone comfortable with a fact of life that some people are drinking but you can have something else. Kids get that.

Lemonade is a suger bomb and horrible for health and teeth. Better to have a beer 🍺

Here’s what: some of us know how to enjoy all things in life in *moderation.* That includes lemonade, beer, cupcakes and potato chips. If you “need” a 5 p.m. cocktail or alcohol with lunch, whatever, dude. I’m going to have my occasional lemonade and enjoy it.

You sound fat.

You sound like a drunk.

DP, runner and cyclist, normal BMI, so don’t bother being predictable

NP. You do sound like an ahole though. And most runners older than 30 are skinny fat and tired looking. My guess is that’s your look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?

I have one: lighten up. Join them. They’re right.

Who wants to drink 4 drinks a day, every day? While being a parent and presumably having a job? Sounds exhausting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dunno, I might think about talking to the kids, especially as they reach their teen years. Or saying something back with your kids ears in mind.

"It's so sad that Grandma always wants more people to be drinking with her. I think she knows she's hurting her health, and she feels self conscious about it. It's okay though, we can just say no and enjoy our time together."

That's the kind of lesson I'd want my kid to have fresh for high school. You're a walking example of not caving to peer pressure.

I’m all for not being a heavy drinker and think that the in laws are being rude and weird. But this response is super smug and also weird, passive aggressive, and if said in earshot of the in laws, even more of an eye roll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“So many alcoholics on this thread. Yowza. I for one am glad that the trends for alcohol consumption are decreasing with younger generations.”

How is all of the pot use better?

No calories and doesn’t damage your liver, for one. Doesn’t spike your blood sugar. Doesn’t contribute to diabetes. Shall I go on?

Don’t forget about how it doesn’t lead to increased fighting and violence the way alcohol does!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“So many alcoholics on this thread. Yowza. I for one am glad that the trends for alcohol consumption are decreasing with younger generations.”

How is all of the pot use better?

No calories and doesn’t damage your liver, for one. Doesn’t spike your blood sugar. Doesn’t contribute to diabetes. Shall I go on?

But it fries your brain and can bring on mental illness. Pick your poison I guess.

Yes, you’re correct, but so does alcohol. It’s clearly the lesser of the two evils for your health, not to mention the health of those around you since stoned individuals usually don’t get angry and try to punch walls (or their wives), they just eat snacks and go to bed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree drunks always want you to drink with them. It's the worst.

You're probably not going to shut it down and I would openly discuss it with your children and why it's problematic. They are noticing.

Not all drunks. Some alcoholics, like my parents, just drink excessively without seeming to notice or care what others do. They never even offer me or anyone else a drink when they’re making themselves a cocktail or “grabbing a beer” or pouring a huge glass of wine. They’re too self involved or maybe they just want to try to keep their drinking under my radar (which obviously isn’t possible with the amounts they drink).

My aunt is like this. She drinks vodka out of a labeled water bottle all day long and NEVER offers anyone any alcoholic drink when hosting. The weirdest thing is that she never even seems drunk.

[Anonymous]

Alcohol is really terrible. I wouldn’t think twice about not drinking. No one should be drinking more than a glass or two a week; better to drink less.