3rd grader punished because I forgot to sign paperwork

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

I'm not entitled. I'd left my reading glasses at work, and I was having a ridiculously hard time reading the small print. I take full responsibility for forgetting the glasses and missing the signature. It's all my fault, not my kid's. But it didn't happen because I'm entitled.

I’m not saying you’re entitled- just that this is an approach sometimes used by teachers to deal with checked out parents! You might be dealing with the consequences of others’ past entitlement, that’s all.

[Anonymous]

This is how private schools get good behavior out of their students. Make an example of a few kids (who usually deserve it) and everyone else falls into line. I don’t totally agree with this consequence but I also don’t think it’s worth complaining about either. You and your kid has learned a good life lesson. Double check what you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is how private schools get good behavior out of their students. Make an example of a few kids (who usually deserve it) and everyone else falls into line. I don’t totally agree with this consequence but I also don’t think it’s worth complaining about either. You and your kid has learned a good life lesson. Double check what you do.

What a load of crap. The punishment for this is inappropriate and unnecessary. Much less taking recess away from a kid that didn't have anything to do with it. The kid gave his mom papers to sign. He did his job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is how private schools get good behavior out of their students. Make an example of a few kids (who usually deserve it) and everyone else falls into line. I don’t totally agree with this consequence but I also don’t think it’s worth complaining about either. You and your kid has learned a good life lesson. Double check what you do.

What a load of crap. The punishment for this is inappropriate and unnecessary. Much less taking recess away from a kid that didn't have anything to do with it. The kid gave his mom papers to sign. He did his job.

The kid turned in papers that weren't entirely filled out.

How do teachers communicate with parents? Through the children. OP got the message. She didn't like it but she got the message.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is how private schools get good behavior out of their students. Make an example of a few kids (who usually deserve it) and everyone else falls into line. I don’t totally agree with this consequence but I also don’t think it’s worth complaining about either. You and your kid has learned a good life lesson. Double check what you do.

What a load of crap. The punishment for this is inappropriate and unnecessary. Much less taking recess away from a kid that didn't have anything to do with it. The kid gave his mom papers to sign. He did his job.

The kid turned in papers that weren't entirely filled out.

How do teachers communicate with parents? Through the children. OP got the message. She didn't like it but she got the message.

Highly inappropriate of this teacher to take recess away for any reason. You know what else the teacher could have done if she wasn't on a power trip. Send the papers back and say "please sign page 8."

Taking recess away is almost never appropriate unless the student is a danger to himself or others.

[Anonymous]

OP- private school is going to be a looooooong road for you if this bothers you. Maybe it's time to switch to public where anything goes these days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Public school? Recess is mandated by law, I'd complain to the regional superintendent

Private.

Not surprised. Many privates are extremely strict and expect all rules to be followed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

Are you illiterate?

No, she's right.

Kid didn't misbehave. Are you illiterate as well?

Kid didn't double-check the forms to see that they're signed before turning in. Even my kids are able to do that.

Now OP's DC knows to do it too. Unless OP emails the principal and snowplows this problem away.

You expect a 3rd grader to 'check the forms' to see if parent missed one signature out of 20? My 3rd grader is in a private school also and we got a giant packet of stuff to fill out, but my school does not do inappropriate punishments like taking away a child's recess for that, and would simply send it home for parent to sign.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Public school? Recess is mandated by law, I'd complain to the regional superintendent

Private.

Not surprised. Many privates are extremely strict and expect all rules to be followed.

If I was paying between $30,000-$50,000 a year I'd be highly annoyed and tell them to go you know what.

The rule was followed but a human error was made. If there is zero flexibility and understanding I would absolutely pull my kid out. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Public school? Recess is mandated by law, I'd complain to the regional superintendent

Private.

Not surprised. Many privates are extremely strict and expect all rules to be followed.

If I was paying between $30,000-$50,000 a year I'd be highly annoyed and tell them to go you know what.

The rule was followed but a human error was made. If there is zero flexibility and understanding I would absolutely pull my kid out. Ridiculous.

Then pull your DC, if you can't follow instructions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Public school? Recess is mandated by law, I'd complain to the regional superintendent

Private.

Explains a lot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Public school? Recess is mandated by law, I'd complain to the regional superintendent

Private.

Not surprised. Many privates are extremely strict and expect all rules to be followed.

If I was paying between $30,000-$50,000 a year I'd be highly annoyed and tell them to go you know what.

The rule was followed but a human error was made. If there is zero flexibility and understanding I would absolutely pull my kid out. Ridiculous.

Then pull your DC, if you can't follow instructions.

I'm not OP, but you seem oddly pleased that a child was punished inappropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want well-behaved students in class or not? It sounds like you want your DC to be in a wild classroom with no discipline.

By all means, complain and have recess reinstated for every student who does not follow instructions. Bring the bad behavior of public school students into your private school.

What does a parent forgetting to sign a form have to do w/ student behavior in class?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Public school? Recess is mandated by law, I'd complain to the regional superintendent

Private.

Switch to a real school.

[Anonymous]

As a former teacher, I'd never take away recess. For any reason. Plenty of other suitable punishments that are more appropriate. Kids need recess. In fact, I think they need more recess than they get at most schools (the school I worked at they only got 15 minutes of recess for the entire day). I think they should get a full hour for recess, 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes in the afternoon.