3rd grader punished because I forgot to sign paperwork

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want well-behaved students in class or not? It sounds like you want your DC to be in a wild classroom with no discipline.

By all means, complain and have recess reinstated for every student who does not follow instructions. Bring the bad behavior of public school students into your private school.

What bad behavior? Not returning a signed form? Taking away recess isn’t discipline, it’s the sign of a lazy, untrained teacher or a teacher who needs to retire. Private schools don’t have rigorous requirements for who they hire so it could be either.

And you wonder why teachers are quitting en masse...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

Beyond natural consequences like not getting your passport in time or something, literally no adult is punished like this for someone else missing a signature.

[Anonymous]

Was it a punishment or some kind of liability/authorization issue? If the first, yep I’d be pissed and escalating this. If the second, I’d still address it as inappropriate but have a little more grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

Beyond natural consequences like not getting your passport in time or something, literally no adult is punished like this for someone else missing a signature.

Well, OP couldn't be bothered to read all the papers and sign them (for a school that she's paying for!). So the teacher was on the right track with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

I'm not entitled. I'd left my reading glasses at work, and I was having a ridiculously hard time reading the small print. I take full responsibility for forgetting the glasses and missing the signature. It's all my fault, not my kid's. But it didn't happen because I'm entitled.

[Anonymous]

How many days has the teacher reminded them to get that signature - otherwise teacher is crazy, but always good to ask lots of follow up questions to your child if something sounds crazy...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many days has the teacher reminded them to get that signature - otherwise teacher is crazy, but always good to ask lots of follow up questions to your child if something sounds crazy...

She hadn't reminded at all. We turned in the package the next day, three days before it was due.

I have major anxiety problems revolving around shame, and I've been crying over this. I know they're off to a bad start now, and it's my fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

Are you illiterate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want well-behaved students in class or not? It sounds like you want your DC to be in a wild classroom with no discipline.

By all means, complain and have recess reinstated for every student who does not follow instructions. Bring the bad behavior of public school students into your private school.

What bad behavior? Not returning a signed form? Taking away recess isn’t discipline, it’s the sign of a lazy, untrained teacher or a teacher who needs to retire. Private schools don’t have rigorous requirements for who they hire so it could be either.

And you wonder why teachers are quitting en masse...

And I'm glad they are if they are taking away recess for anything much less for things that parents failed to do. Those kinds of teachers need to stay away from kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

Are you illiterate?

No, she's right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want well-behaved students in class or not? It sounds like you want your DC to be in a wild classroom with no discipline.

By all means, complain and have recess reinstated for every student who does not follow instructions. Bring the bad behavior of public school students into your private school.

What bad behavior? Not returning a signed form? Taking away recess isn’t discipline, it’s the sign of a lazy, untrained teacher or a teacher who needs to retire. Private schools don’t have rigorous requirements for who they hire so it could be either.

And you wonder why teachers are quitting en masse...

And I'm glad they are if they are taking away recess for anything much less for things that parents failed to do. Those kinds of teachers need to stay away from kids.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

Are you illiterate?

No, she's right.

Kid didn't misbehave. Are you illiterate as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

Are you illiterate?

No, she's right.

Kid didn't misbehave. Are you illiterate as well?

Kid didn't double-check the forms to see that they're signed before turning in. Even my kids are able to do that.

Now OP's DC knows to do it too. Unless OP emails the principal and snowplows this problem away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

I'm not entitled. I'd left my reading glasses at work, and I was having a ridiculously hard time reading the small print. I take full responsibility for forgetting the glasses and missing the signature. It's all my fault, not my kid's. But it didn't happen because I'm entitled.

Then why didn't you send the child a note to give to the teacher telling her this,? Only an idiot has one pair of reading glasses.

You can buy extras at the $ store for home, car, office, purse. Start using your head for something other than a hatrack!