3rd grader punished because I forgot to sign paperwork

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Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

Yep this it it.

- Nanny and former teacher, who was over entitled parents and now gets paid $125k in LA to watch one child.

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A day later and no update from OP. Wonder why!

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Anonymous wrote:I would be livid and have a meeting with the teacher and principal. Your child was punished for nothing.

Karen get over it.

Being sexist, racist, and ageist TOTALLY helps your argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

This is appalling! Why should an innocent child be punished for the mistake of a parent and also be shamed in front of classmates? Contact the parents, and if you really want to incentivize them then attach a financial penalty.

I would personally leave this school as soon as I could. Part of the reason we pay for private is the personalized attention and flexibility the school offers to us as a family. This school/teacher seems extremely inflexible and mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

This is appalling! Why should an innocent child be punished for the mistake of a parent and also be shamed in front of classmates? Contact the parents, and if you really want to incentivize them then attach a financial penalty.

I would personally leave this school as soon as I could. Part of the reason we pay for private is the personalized attention and flexibility the school offers to us as a family. This school/teacher seems extremely inflexible and mean.

I was the one speculating about why a teacher might do this. In our case, parenfs stay for the convenience: school is in a bad school district with nice housing stock and amenities + it’s relatively inexpensive for a private. The school does offer a LOT of flexibility- so much that I think teachers sometimes get frustrated with parents’ expectations. Parents are literally saying things like “I don’t check email or log in to blackbaud so you’ll need to text me if you send an email or have me read blackbaud”. At some point teachers can’t be providing individual service for every single student and family for every needed signature, at least not at a $34k school.

If I were paying $55k then sure, follow up 1:1, hold my hand through every interaction and never take away recess.

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Anonymous wrote:A day later and no update from OP. Wonder why!

I’m guessing the outrage was a bit misplaced. I doubt the school punished the child because of one missing parent signature. I’m guessing this signature was important and had something to do with liability / playground equipment / etc. Thats the more logical way to read this situation. Since 4-5 people have already asked this and OP hasn’t responded, I’m left assuming this was the case.

Parents, it is hard to keep teachers in the profession when we decide to jump on every outrage we can.

- parent AND teacher

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Don't forget next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What private school still has paper forms instead of electronic??

Mine. PP here who got a 'giant pack' of paperwork on Monday!
I filled it out, gave it to Dad for his signatures, good thing I rechecked it because he did miss one. But my kid would not have been punished, because it's not her fault, and my kid's school actually has a clue about appropriate child development-and it's not about money, I'm not local and it is lower cost than most.

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Anonymous wrote:That is insane.

+1

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Memories of my oldest 4th grade year where it got to the point where I signed every single paper sent home and sent it back in a folder since I couldn’t keep track of what needed a signature and the kids got punished. I didn’t sign a test once and similar happened.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be livid. First of all, for all of the teachers on this site, STOP TAKING AWAY RECESS. Our kids need to have a break!!! Secondly, email the parent and do not punish the kid. I would definitely email the principal.

Maybe parents should teach children to behave in school and then they wouldn't lose recess. You email the principal and then you are one of those parents that the school hates.

Are you illiterate?

No, she's right.

Kid didn't misbehave. Are you illiterate as well?

Kid didn't double-check the forms to see that they're signed before turning in. Even my kids are able to do that.

Now OP's DC knows to do it too. Unless OP emails the principal and snowplows this problem away.

How hateful. I hope you aren’t a teacher. If you are your rigidity is a problem and your priorities are messed up.

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Anonymous wrote:Not saying teacher is in the right, but our k-8 not super exclusive private does similar because they realized the kids are the only ones who will take any kinds of mandates seriously. The parents are pretty entitled and can’t be bothered to read most emails, let alone sign things. There isn’t a punishment or even incentive for parents to step it up, but there are plenty of ways to get kids to take responsibility for their parents.

The teacher overreacted but is almost certainly reacting to whatever happened in the classroom last year- it’s a guess but I bet the parents were bad about signing things, helping with projects, signing up for conferences, etc.

I'm not entitled. I'd left my reading glasses at work, and I was having a ridiculously hard time reading the small print. I take full responsibility for forgetting the glasses and missing the signature. It's all my fault, not my kid's. But it didn't happen because I'm entitled.

Then why didn't you send the child a note to give to the teacher telling her this,? Only an idiot has one pair of reading glasses.

You can buy extras at the $ store for home, car, office, purse. Start using your head for something other than a hatrack!

My goodness, you're hateful. Go get some sun or something.

DP. I've got lots of reading glasses for different places. Most people do - that's why they sell them 2 or 4 at a time. "Couldn't find my reading glasses" is on par with "my dog ate it".

OP may have learned something from this. Her DC may have learned something from this. Maybe.

I do to but it happens that I head out to work or to the store without them. This happens to all of us. Op I’d be on that teacher so fast.

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I don’t believe this. Are you sure child didn’t get recess revoked for something else?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe this. Are you sure child didn’t get recess revoked for something else?

Agree. OP is "one,of those parents ' responsible for teachers quitting.