My stipulation traveling with ILS?

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

Sure they do--the Stage 5 Clingers who want more, more, more time and more, more, more access totally would pull this. Some of the wealthiest people I know are also the cheapest--haven't you noticed the news articles about Warren Buffet and his wife complaining about $4 coffee lately?

That one article about his Buffett's wife proves your theory? No, I don't think there is an epidemic of wealthy people cramming into sedans or hybrid SUVs to drive hundreds of miles to stay in a shitty time share. These aren't wealthy people.

You tried it. My grandfather was a surgeon that was sought-after, renowned and funded, and had a procedure named after him. He came from money. He was so cheap that when he traveled and had to stay in a hotel, he always chose the budget ones with the free breakfast. Once he visited the DC area and invited me to “have breakfast with him” at his hotel, which was about an hour from me. He meant the free hotel breakfast at his hotel. I could go on with other family members and friends of our family. If you know you know.

Your grandfather was cheap, but not stupid. There's a difference. So, you tried it with your one example but you haven't proved that wealthy people do stupid things that waste their time.

They do, though. Wealthy people can be cheap, stupid, clingy, anxious, overbearing, stifling, etc., just like everyone else.

Yes but wealthy people don't 1) own timeshares and 2) share a ride in a small SUV with kids, dogs, luggage, and whatever. This is not how the 1% travels and it's funny that people seem to think it is.

You’re right. We ARE talking about the other 99% of the population.

What is the definition of wealthy? Because typical middle class vacations is not it in my book.

According to PP, only the top 1% is wealthy. I’m hoping she will see herself out now as we are clearly talking about the poors and her references aren’t pertinent to the facts we know here.

Are you the person who insisted everyone involved was rich and wealthy? You made a dumb point and clearly have no idea what rich people do. Because this nonsense isn’t it. If everyone had more money none if this would be an issue.

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Hold the line, OP. Very reasonable.

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Maybe it’s just me, but I always feel weird when older people sit in the back, and I am sitting in the front. So I would feel obligated to yield my front seat to one of my in-laws. That was not be great for me since I get carsick.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

I mean, we don’t even have to go on the vacation. We don’t need this trip, they want us to come. I’d just as easily plan our own trip.[/quot

This — this is exactly how I feel about every vacation at timeshares with my ILs.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

God, you’re precious. This is DCUM. OP can afford her own vacation and doesn’t need “free.” This trip is for the benefit of the ILs. You’re welcome.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

They aren’t “bumming rides,” honey. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:So really, you can’t tolerate an 8 hour drive with someone? Sounds like a you problem. Toughen up, buttercup.

And think of the environment.

No.

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You are ridiculous. If you can stand FIL for one week you can certainly stand him for an 8-hr car ride. Plus you will be grateful for the extra hands to entertain DC in the car.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

They aren’t “bumming rides,” honey. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

What are they doing then?

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

They aren’t “bumming rides,” honey. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

What are they doing then?

One would assume they are riding along with their loving family. But in this case, it's only the DH and DC who fit into that category.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

Sure they do--the Stage 5 Clingers who want more, more, more time and more, more, more access totally would pull this. Some of the wealthiest people I know are also the cheapest--haven't you noticed the news articles about Warren Buffet and his wife complaining about $4 coffee lately?

That one article about his Buffett's wife proves your theory? No, I don't think there is an epidemic of wealthy people cramming into sedans or hybrid SUVs to drive hundreds of miles to stay in a shitty time share. These aren't wealthy people.

You tried it. My grandfather was a surgeon that was sought-after, renowned and funded, and had a procedure named after him. He came from money. He was so cheap that when he traveled and had to stay in a hotel, he always chose the budget ones with the free breakfast. Once he visited the DC area and invited me to “have breakfast with him” at his hotel, which was about an hour from me. He meant the free hotel breakfast at his hotel. I could go on with other family members and friends of our family. If you know you know.

Your grandfather was cheap, but not stupid. There's a difference. So, you tried it with your one example but you haven't proved that wealthy people do stupid things that waste their time.

They do, though. Wealthy people can be cheap, stupid, clingy, anxious, overbearing, stifling, etc., just like everyone else.

Yes but wealthy people don't 1) own timeshares and 2) share a ride in a small SUV with kids, dogs, luggage, and whatever. This is not how the 1% travels and it's funny that people seem to think it is.

You’re right. We ARE talking about the other 99% of the population.

What is the definition of wealthy? Because typical middle class vacations is not it in my book.

According to PP, only the top 1% is wealthy. I’m hoping she will see herself out now as we are clearly talking about the poors and her references aren’t pertinent to the facts we know here.

Are you the person who insisted everyone involved was rich and wealthy? You made a dumb point and clearly have no idea what rich people do. Because this nonsense isn’t it. If everyone had more money none if this would be an issue.

Redundant.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

They aren’t “bumming rides,” honey. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

What are they doing then?

One would assume they are riding along with their loving family. But in this case, it's only the DH and DC who fit into that category.

NP. DH, my kids and I dearly love all four grandparents. However, we do not love cramming and being uncomfortable for no reason. We also enjoy lots of peace and quiet in the car, and both my mom and my FIL are the talk-your-ear-off, narrate-the-trip types. No thank you.

We would not engage in this scenario BECAUSE we love them and BECAUSE we want to fully enjoy the vacation time with them. We recognize and respect our personal preferences and boundaries enough to know that an 8-hour, crammed car trip would not set our vacation off on the right foot. And we would definitely want our own car on the trip for flexibility and ease of everyone doing what they want and need to do on the trip itself.

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell them that you are happy to use them for a free vacation so long as you don’t have to drive with them. I’m sure they’ll understand.

NP. Really do get over yourself. This comes up all the time, and sorry, but Just No, Boomer. Most DCUM posters have their own money, and in many cases, a lot more money than their parents and ILs. Personally, DH and I pay our share of extended family vacations, but even if someone else is paying, a "free vacation" isn't the prize you think it is. Go into the Search function, type in "beach drama," and you'll see what I mean.

Like, some rental in Sandbridge just ain't high luxury, OK? No one wants a long car ride with people who aren't in their immediate family. Get over it.

These aren't rich people problems. The wealthy don't bum rides in cramped automobiles or drive 8 hours when they can fly in 2 and rent a car. People who consider these ideas and then actually do them don't have a lot of choices or financial freedom to make better choices.

They aren’t “bumming rides,” honey. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

What are they doing then?

One would assume they are riding along with their loving family. But in this case, it's only the DH and DC who fit into that category.

Ridiculous. So many older people have back issues or other needs that they need to sit in the front. They can’t easily climb into the back seat. This is not a thing to drive with a loving family where everyone is uncomfortable. OP is likely trolling with this.

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We ran into this scenario last year for an 8+ hour drive. MIL was adamant on driving down with us, as she wasn't comfortable doing the drive by herself. We had DH drive his mom in her car, and me drive our 2 kids in our minivan. She griped about it at the time, but it was so much better for all involved. She and DH could stop when she needed to, and I could take the kids for bathroom and meal breaks when we needed to. Having two cars when we got to our destination was a godsend, so no one was stuck in the house waiting for the one car to be free from whoever was using it.

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Anonymous wrote:We ran into this scenario last year for an 8+ hour drive. MIL was adamant on driving down with us, as she wasn't comfortable doing the drive by herself. We had DH drive his mom in her car, and me drive our 2 kids in our minivan. She griped about it at the time, but it was so much better for all involved. She and DH could stop when she needed to, and I could take the kids for bathroom and meal breaks when we needed to. Having two cars when we got to our destination was a godsend, so no one was stuck in the house waiting for the one car to be free from whoever was using it.

I would buy MIL a plane ticket next time and pick her up at the airport.