SO hired someone other than me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the Op here and I appreciate the feedback, which is 100% team partner. It stings that he KNOWS that I am in need of a job and that he’d rather give it to someone else then offer it to me…..he has hired family and friends in the past, in fact , one person he newly hired is a family member of an employee. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care what happens to me down the road. I have to say that if the situation was reversed I would give him the job. It sucks and it’s a terrible feeling.

Why can’t you get a job the normal way?

The situation will never be reversed because you don’t have what it takes to be in that position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the Op here and I appreciate the feedback, which is 100% team partner. It stings that he KNOWS that I am in need of a job and that he’d rather give it to someone else then offer it to me…..he has hired family and friends in the past, in fact , one person he newly hired is a family member of an employee. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care what happens to me down the road. I have to say that if the situation was reversed I would give him the job. It sucks and it’s a terrible feeling.

Why can’t you get a job the normal way?

The situation will never be reversed because you don’t have what it takes to be in that position.

Rude over reaction. Get support from other dad. Get married!

[Anonymous]

Tell him he needs to pay for child care for his child and go get a job. File for child support for the child since you aren't married. Move out and move on. He's not marrying you or committed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the Op here and I appreciate the feedback, which is 100% team partner. It stings that he KNOWS that I am in need of a job and that he’d rather give it to someone else then offer it to me…..he has hired family and friends in the past, in fact , one person he newly hired is a family member of an employee. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care what happens to me down the road. I have to say that if the situation was reversed I would give him the job. It sucks and it’s a terrible feeling.

OP, you are not digesting the feedback. It is a BAD idea for your boyfriend to hire you. And it’s a BAD idea for you to think he should. You haven’t answered any of the questions about what you are doing to find a job. Or why you aren’t more concerned about showing your kids how to be a repairable adult. Or how you are making plans to become financially independent. Or what your plan is if your boyfriend were to leave you. You are not in a good position and it seems like that has not sunk in for you yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he needs to pay for child care for his child and go get a job. File for child support for the child since you aren't married. Move out and move on. He's not marrying you or committed.

+1. You have to make your own path forward without him. He has shown you who he is (although not necessarily through this latest not hiring you issue).

[Anonymous]

OP you’re crazy, it would be a huge mistake to hire you. Most couples shouldn’t work together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh he definitely made the right choice. Working together would be terrible for your relationship and for the business.

If you want a job as an admin go get a job as an admin.

+1 It woukd be extremely inappropriate for him to hire you, and just a terrible idea! I’m concerned about your judgment.

Why are r you having conversations about the future? Why aren’t you applying for other jobs? It sounds like you would only consider applying for his company, but not other places? I don’t understand.

[Anonymous]

^why *aren’t you having conversations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the Op here and I appreciate the feedback, which is 100% team partner. It stings that he KNOWS that I am in need of a job and that he’d rather give it to someone else then offer it to me…..he has hired family and friends in the past, in fact , one person he newly hired is a family member of an employee. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care what happens to me down the road. I have to say that if the situation was reversed I would give him the job. It sucks and it’s a terrible feeling.

You read our comments and still come up with this ridiculousness? Are you not working because you don’t have basic judgment or understanding of the professional world? I try so hard not to be snarky on here but you are actually making my blood boil.

Hiring a family member if an employee is not comparable to hiring your romantic partner/mother of your child.

[Anonymous]

I posted in website feedback. This has to be a troll!

[Anonymous]

He isn't being fully transparent with you - he should just say I'm not going to hire you - but he's right not to hire you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted in website feedback. This has to be a troll!

Nah. Op just sounds immature and a little dumb

[Anonymous]

He told you from the beginning he wouldn't hire you because of your childcare responsibilities. And it makes sense. You wouldn't fit his needs and it would look poorly if he was flexible with you. You need to grow up and be responsible for yourself. Set a better example for your children.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you’ve been his nanny and he doesn’t pay you.

You need to take responsibility and get a job and start saving money. Have your own money. Don’t rely on a man to save you.

Since you aren’t married, his house and money will go to next in line (kids) and not you. You’re a heartbeat away from
Financial disaster. (Unless he has you in the will to get the house but most people don’t create wills so you’re probably not).

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you're hurt because you're getting your head around the truth of your situation. He's not your husband and he won't ever be. You're not "partners" just like married. You're more like co-parents that have sex. He's not taking responsibility for your well-being or helping you solve your financial problems. You're not business partners and you won't ever be.

You need to focus on providing for your kids and stop thinking a man is going to fix this for you. Put the kids in after-school care and get a better job.