Why does this bother me so much? “Fairness”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:As a parent I have no intention of treating my children equally. I don’t know why people are obsessed with this. My brother is sort of a screw up and needs more help from our parents. I’m not and I take pride in it. It would be so freaking weird if my parents venmo’d me $20 every time they did it for him.

But the stakes are much higher than $20 here

What “stakes”?? It’s not OP’s money. It’s not her husband’s money. Her SIL is a screw up. Does she wish she had married SIL instead? I doubt it.

Do you really think it’s cool for them to buy one sibling a million apartment and not give a dime to the other?

First, whose name is it in? Second, how many dimes does OP’s husband want from his parents?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two siblings with debilitating anxiety and problems with executive functioning. They still live at home in their 50s because they cannot afford to live independently because their mental issues cause them to make poor decisions and lose employment and relationships. They are intelligent and kind people but terribly bad at managing their finances and lives. If my parents were loaded like your ILs, you can bet they would have my siblings in their own apartments with funded checking accounts. Instead, everyone lives together like a bad sitcom where everyone stagnates in place. Pity your ILs and your SIL. It is not living your best life.

The SIL is living in her own Manhattan apartment with international travel and spending money to go out. She sounds like she has a sweet life. Not the situation you describe here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your in laws’ finances and what they spend their money on isn’t your business OP. Just butt out and stay in your own lane.

This. OP is so annoying and tone-deaf!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

They are treating their kids fairly in their mind and with their earned money. OP must be from a poor family. Why can't her parents pay for her, like her ILs are paying for their daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

They are treating their kids fairly in their mind and with their earned money. OP must be from a poor family. Why can't her parents pay for her, like her ILs are paying for their daughter.

Ok troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

If he needs money he should ask for money.

If OP thinks parents should be financing her life she should ask her parents for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

Yes. They should shame OP's parents for not funding OP. Bloody trailer trash!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

They are treating their kids fairly in their mind and with their earned money. OP must be from a poor family. Why can't her parents pay for her, like her ILs are paying for their daughter.

OP's family has nothing to do with it, and you know it, you are just being an instigator. DP here.

[Anonymous]

Between the unequal inheritance threads, the college aid threads, and this thread, it never ceases to amaze me how many DCUMers are absolutely furious they’re so successful that they don’t need help. They’re just so bitter and angry in their success and privilege. Boggles the mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

They are treating their kids fairly in their mind and with their earned money. OP must be from a poor family. Why can't her parents pay for her, like her ILs are paying for their daughter.

Ok troll

Ok a$$hole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Between the unequal inheritance threads, the college aid threads, and this thread, it never ceases to amaze me how many DCUMers are absolutely furious they’re so successful that they don’t need help. They’re just so bitter and angry in their success and privilege. Boggles the mind.

[Anonymous]

Honest question. For everyone who is scraping up a down payment on their own to buy a million SFH in DC, it wouldn’t bother you in the slightest to hear your parents buying one outright for your younger sibling?! Not to mention giving them spending money and treating them to several vacations per year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

They are treating their kids fairly in their mind and with their earned money. OP must be from a poor family. Why can't her parents pay for her, like her ILs are paying for their daughter.

Ok troll

+1


DP here. this sounds like something my bitter MIL would say, because she likes to play favorites and cause drama - that is the only way she has a presence, or "matters".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s wild to me that people are trying to shame the OP.

It’s wild to me that anyone thinks a DIL counting a SIL’s gifts is justified! They aren’t even OP’s parents!!!

The ILs are giving nothing to their son. Nothing. So that impacts OP because her household budget could be improved if the parents were treating their kids fairly.

They are treating their kids fairly in their mind and with their earned money. OP must be from a poor family. Why can't her parents pay for her, like her ILs are paying for their daughter.

Ok troll

+1


DP here. this sounds like something my bitter MIL would say, because she likes to play favorites and cause drama - that is the only way she has a presence, or "matters".

(in her mind)