Boyfriend Asked For A Break

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gotta love people blaming the BF for snooping. Well, he found something……

He found nothing. She barely knew him. They were not exclusive. She did nothing wrong at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You loved your ex and wanted to marry him and have his kids but so quickly you are devastated over this new guy? You cant build a relationship on lies and consolation prizes.

OP here. This is not even accurate. I was with my ex prior to my current boyfriend and he was unsure about wanting kids. I stayed in relationship way too long hoping that he would decide he wanted kids. He didn’t and I decided to end it. I met my boyfriend of almost a year a couple of months after breaking up with my ex. I slept with my ex once during the first month when I went back to collect my things. I realized I really liked my now boyfriend and told my ex that I had moved on and that I couldn’t be in contact with him. I told my boyfriend that night that I wanted to be exclusive.

You're a mess. Please sort yourself out before your next relationship.

OP, ignore the previous poster. You are not a mess at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You loved your ex and wanted to marry him and have his kids but so quickly you are devastated over this new guy? You cant build a relationship on lies and consolation prizes.

OP here. This is not even accurate. I was with my ex prior to my current boyfriend and he was unsure about wanting kids. I stayed in relationship way too long hoping that he would decide he wanted kids. He didn’t and I decided to end it. I met my boyfriend of almost a year a couple of months after breaking up with my ex. I slept with my ex once during the first month when I went back to collect my things. I realized I really liked my now boyfriend and told my ex that I had moved on and that I couldn’t be in contact with him. I told my boyfriend that night that I wanted to be exclusive.

You're a mess. Please sort yourself out before your next relationship.

OP, ignore the previous poster. You are not a mess at all.

No she's a mess who needs to sort her shit out instead of jumping into relationships. Being single and doing some emotional work would be good for Op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did nothing wrong. You were not exclusive. It was and still is none of his business.

How he is handling is immature. He is not worth it. Next.

He asked her directly and she lied.

OP - it’s not just this. If it were just this, he would want to discuss it. This was the last straw. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

You can’t have sex with one person and next day ask another person to become exclusive.

He can’t illegally snoop into someone’s phone then use it as exhibit A to take a break.

This relationship isn’t likely to go far. How can you two trust each other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Snooping like that was a pretty big violation on his part. Even if he comes around, I would seriously reconsider your relationship with a person who would violate your privacy like that.

Tough TTs. He snooped because he suspected something and had to know the truth. That was the only way he was going to get the truth. When you like, you can't take the moral high ground when your partner goes seeking the truth on your phone. You give that up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's not asking for a break. He's leaving, but wants to keep you on the hoom in case the new thing doesn't work out. Probably sees it as fair play given the circumstances. Anyway, ditch the plan to marry him and move on to the next one.

Agreed, it's over. Needing a break is just easier to say. The break isn't going to change anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gotta love people blaming the BF for snooping. Well, he found something……

He found nothing. She barely knew him. They were not exclusive. She did nothing wrong at all.

He asked her directly and she lied about it. That’s something.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a highschool drama.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You loved your ex and wanted to marry him and have his kids but so quickly you are devastated over this new guy? You cant build a relationship on lies and consolation prizes.

OP here. This is not even accurate. I was with my ex prior to my current boyfriend and he was unsure about wanting kids. I stayed in relationship way too long hoping that he would decide he wanted kids. He didn’t and I decided to end it. I met my boyfriend of almost a year a couple of months after breaking up with my ex. I slept with my ex once during the first month when I went back to collect my things. I realized I really liked my now boyfriend and told my ex that I had moved on and that I couldn’t be in contact with him. I told my boyfriend that night that I wanted to be exclusive.

You're a mess. Please sort yourself out before your next relationship.

OP, ignore the previous poster. You are not a mess at all.

No she's a mess who needs to sort her shit out instead of jumping into relationships. Being single and doing some emotional work would be good for Op.

She does not need emotional work at all. She is fine. You are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can’t have sex with one person and next day ask another person to become exclusive.

He can’t illegally snoop into someone’s phone then use it as exhibit A to take a break.

This relationship isn’t likely to go far. How can you two trust each other?

Yes, you can. She did nothing wrong.
He is more in the wrong than she is.

Until you are exclusive, sex is none of the other person's business. I can be a week before, a month before, a year before, a day before and hours before. She realized what she wanted and made a decision. She did nothing wrong. Stop villanizing her.

Her boyfriend holding this over her head is ridiculous. This should be a permanent break up and she should not look back. Any man who asks about your sex life before an exclusive agreement is bad news. He is not the one. He is immature.

[Anonymous]

She is clearly on a rebound and decision to become exclusive was premature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is clearly on a rebound and decision to become exclusive was premature.

I disagree.

[Anonymous]

From an older perspective. If the guy really wanted to be with you he would be secure and say I know that was just when we met. It’s old news. (To himself).

He told you he wants a break. He’s in a relationship. He’s either dating you or not. So at this point he’s not. So go on with your daily life, work, etc. Do you really want a partner that walks out over nothing and doesn’t discuss like an adult?

Now do yourself a favor. Delete every old chat on your old phone and your new phone. Clear your phone call history. Clear the voice mails. Clear your browsing history.

If this is apple and you have an apple computer too. Go clear all that message history. Clear the chats. Clear the browsing history.

[Anonymous]

He broke up with you. Time to move on.