I want a month break from spouse. How to approach?

[Anonymous]

A month of weekends away from each other? You go away for weekend alone. The next weekend he goes away alone. He takes a weekend away with son. Then you take a weekend away with son.

[Anonymous]

If you want to make it look like you didn't "abandon" your family, don't abandon them.

[Anonymous]

Taking a break is fine. I took a 24 hour break last fall and it did wonders. I think a full weekend is fine too. But a month? Nope.

[Anonymous]

Make up a fake 10 day business trip. Get an Airbnb. 10 days is enough time.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by your child being very independent?
Your place is at home with the child you brought into this world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A month of weekends away from each other? You go away for weekend alone. The next weekend he goes away alone. He takes a weekend away with son. Then you take a weekend away with son.

Great idea! I don’t think OP wants the child though. It’s so sad!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who’s going to take care of the child?

That would be my first question too. Sorry, sounds like you are abandoning both. Why can you not decide what to do in the same household as spouse?

My spouse is a stay at home parent. Does not work and does not have any other responsibilities outside of being a stay at home parent.

Your spouse is a stay at home parent, not a single parent. That means during that time but the working parent is not working (evenings and weekends) he/she should be doing half the child care. So if you want to leave for a month you really should take the child on weekends.

[Anonymous]

This has got to be fake rageporn

[Anonymous]

just living apart for a month is not going to give you the clarity you need. I suggest you start with a trial separation, but as if you are divorced. That is, you split parenting time with your spouse and you live elsewhere. Since money doesn't seem to be an issue, rent an apartment nearby month to month, with adequate room for your child. Move into the apartment and see your child 50% of the time (whether or not they do overnights is another question). That should give you a taste of divorced life.You should probably also do counseling or mediation with your spouse as well as on your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse is a stay at home parent. Doesn't work.

So you’ll just ditch your kid for a month?

[Anonymous]

Just look at the first two words of your title. "I want." This is how a toddler starts a sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the vacation home is an hour away I'd at least bring the child there to spend weekends with you so you get time together. Maybe the SAHP can drive them out there so you get them Friday after work (can you flex schedule to start earlier and end earlier) and you bring the child back Sunday night?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the vacation home is an hour away I'd at least bring the child there to spend weekends with you so you get time together. Maybe the SAHP can drive them out there so you get them Friday after work (can you flex schedule to start earlier and end earlier) and you bring the child back Sunday night?

What universe do you live in where the SAHP being left as sole caregiver for a month also wants to do a two hour round trip drive at weekends to pamper this losers delusions of parenthood? The spouse of whatever gender should change the locks and file for divorce on the wholly accurate grounds of abandonment. The poster can tell a judge how they just needed a break for a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by your child being very independent?

That's how OP rationalizes abandoning the child. (See also: "my child is very resilient.")

[Anonymous]

“We were on a break!”