Is "making dinner" part of your SAHM job description?

[Anonymous]

No, I do not. DH would come home and not eat what I cooked. It was good food. He often just ate before he left work or he was in the mood for something else. Often his food allergies would make him have some problem with the food I cooked. He is always chasing the right food combinations for his digestion, even now that I don't cook.

What I do do is when he is home and I am cooking for me, I offer to make him a helping. I also make special breakfasts on some weekends.

[Anonymous]

I was a SAHM mom to twins. I made a full meal every night for dinner. I still do.

I want my kids to like more than mac and cheese and chicken nuggets. Actually they don't like those things, because it's not on the menu at home. We eat meat, vegetable and a carb, mostly every night. During the winter, it can be as simple as homemade soup and sandwiches.

I can't believe that OP has a 12 month old and can't be bothered to have a decent meal for her child and husband in the evening.

[Anonymous]

OP, it comes down to affordability and what you and your family value and prioritize. Most SAHMs also cook because it allows them to cut down expenses. Since one spouse is SAH, it makes sense to economize. However, if you can afford it, you can certainly outsource cooking.

Many WOHMs also work because of financial need. If they could afford it, they would not work out of the home.

It is the same dynamics in both situations. Many WOHMs and many SAHMs work because of economic reasons. You know what is your situation and your family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

27 pages of responses!! Funny this topic is so heated !!!
I hate cooking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But on the bright side, with this attitude she'll probably end up divorced within 10 years, and then she never has to worry about cooking for him again. And no unequal division of labor, because everything divided by one is still everything.

That's probably exactly what she is hoping for. So she can get half her DH's assets along with his child support and possibly alimony.

Probably not. Child support and alimony aren't going to provide her with a more luxurious lifestyle than she's living now, which is what she ultimately seems to be after.

Ah, but you forget about the new Sugar Daddy she'll soon have after the divorce. The old husband will be paying for all the basics and the new guy will shower her with the luxury.

Until the sugar daddy gets sick of her lazy ass and dumps her ass after a month for someone younger and not so worthless.

[Anonymous]

After looking through all these lists I see why this has so many replies ...it's really just another SAHM vs. WOHM fight.

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM. I am expected to cook. There's person who expects me to cook is .....me. It's the least I can do. He works at an office and I work at home. But I still hate it. I would rather do just bout any other household chore than cook. I especially hate having to come up with ideas and having to please everyone. I also hate that DH gets home so late and we really want to eat as a family which means cleaning up til 9pm and then straight to bed. We have cleaning ladies twice a week. It's a luxury , I know. Is gladly trade the cleaning service and do it myself if I could hire a personal chef 5 nights a week instead! Not sure how easy that is though, plus don't really like the idea of having a someone working in the home while we are home. Seems very entitled.

[Anonymous]

The question is...why so much rage about COOKING? The poster above has a cleaning lady 2x per week. Well, that costs money. That's something the at-home parent can do. No one freaks out if a SAHM isn't cleaning, or if the DH has to spend 30 min doing laundry or dishes or cleaning up the kitchen. So much rage because op doesn't like to cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The question is...why so much rage about COOKING? The poster above has a cleaning lady 2x per week. Well, that costs money. That's something the at-home parent can do. No one freaks out if a SAHM isn't cleaning, or if the DH has to spend 30 min doing laundry or dishes or cleaning up the kitchen. So much rage because op doesn't like to cook.

Having a cleaning lady come occasionally isn't the same as not cooking period. Plenty of people outsource house work, OCCASSIONALLY. That means takeout a few times a week or a maid once or twice a month. If your family can afford to hire a cook every day or eat out everyday or have a housekeeper, have at it. But OP's husband obviously can't so the adult thing to do is for OP to cook for her family as the SAHM.

Are you really too retarded to grasp that simple concept? We already know OP is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a SAHM. I am expected to cook. There's person who expects me to cook is .....me. It's the least I can do. He works at an office and I work at home. But I still hate it. I would rather do just bout any other household chore than cook. I especially hate having to come up with ideas and having to please everyone. I also hate that DH gets home so late and we really want to eat as a family which means cleaning up til 9pm and then straight to bed. We have cleaning ladies twice a week. It's a luxury , I know. Is gladly trade the cleaning service and do it myself if I could hire a personal chef 5 nights a week instead! Not sure how easy that is though, plus don't really like the idea of having a someone working in the home while we are home. Seems very entitled.

www.bluebirddinners.com

Done!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I make dinner for my husband. My kids are hungry around 5 or 5:30 and DH doesn't even walk in the door until 6:30. So we do not have family dinner. I rarely eat with my husband bc the 10 mos old nurses and goes to bed around 6 or 6:30 at the latest. The four year old goes to bed at 7 and we take turns putting him to bed.

[Anonymous]

I'm less concerned about who is doing the cooking. More concerned about the general chaos of no family dinners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about who is doing the cooking. More concerned about the general chaos of no family dinners.

Yup! Now, I think it should be the stay-at-home-parent, but someone has to do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question is...why so much rage about COOKING? The poster above has a cleaning lady 2x per week. Well, that costs money. That's something the at-home parent can do. No one freaks out if a SAHM isn't cleaning, or if the DH has to spend 30 min doing laundry or dishes or cleaning up the kitchen. So much rage because op doesn't like to cook.

Having a cleaning lady come occasionally isn't the same as not cooking period. Plenty of people outsource house work, OCCASSIONALLY. That means takeout a few times a week or a maid once or twice a month. If your family can afford to hire a cook every day or eat out everyday or have a housekeeper, have at it. But OP's husband obviously can't so the adult thing to do is for OP to cook for her family as the SAHM.

Are you really too retarded to grasp that simple concept? We already know OP is.

"Retarded" pp? Really? Are you ten years old in 1988? And with your immature name-calling, you are in a position to tell others about "adult" behavior!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question is...why so much rage about COOKING? The poster above has a cleaning lady 2x per week. Well, that costs money. That's something the at-home parent can do. No one freaks out if a SAHM isn't cleaning, or if the DH has to spend 30 min doing laundry or dishes or cleaning up the kitchen. So much rage because op doesn't like to cook.

Having a cleaning lady come occasionally isn't the same as not cooking period. Plenty of people outsource house work, OCCASSIONALLY. That means takeout a few times a week or a maid once or twice a month. If your family can afford to hire a cook every day or eat out everyday or have a housekeeper, have at it. But OP's husband obviously can't so the adult thing to do is for OP to cook for her family as the SAHM.

Are you really too retarded to grasp that simple concept? We already know OP is.[/quot

Lots of families survive on takeout most of the week, or pay a mother's helper to help to cook, or do full meal delivery services, or modified services like blue apron.