Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The thing is, SAHP duties and work duties are not exactly equivalent. For instance, the working spouse doesn't have two hours of downtime each day while the child naps. SAH work can be tedious and hard (babies/little kids are tiring!), but is not as constantly demanding as working outside the home, commuting etc. It is reasonable for your husband to expect you to handle simple dinners during the week. At least most of the time--maybe he brings home dinner once a week and on request whenever you're having a particularly rough day. But, in turn, he should be fully co-parenting when he gets home from work. Just my opinion about a reasonable balance of responsibilities. In the end, you do need to figure out the best way to be a team. Sit down and talk about it. If you find yourselves at opposite extremes, figure out a compromise. If you're feeling resentful about the whole arrangement, revisit it!
I worked in an office. Long hours often no lunch break. I came home cooked dinner, did laundry and I cleaned the house on the weekends. Then I quit work to SAH with my first born. Staying home with an infant kicked my butt. He had colic and was up every 2 hours. I can not even begin to describe the level of pure exhaustion..
When I worked I had my quiet times where I knew that I could count on having time to think and focus on the work in front of me. Staying at home with a baby means that you are on their schedule . On paper it looks like you get an awful lot of down time. In reality you are exhausted from being "on" all the time. Couldn't call in sick, couldn't take a day off. When my 2nd came along I was lucky to get a shower in. Thankfully my husband "got it" and was willing to help out with the cooking as needed.
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