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Anonymous
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We received a birthday invite to a 3- year old girl's party and it say "Girl would like a tea set." Since I'm sure they don't want 15 tea sets, I think the family has put a suggested gift in everyone's invite. I think this is outrageous, but I'm wondering if this is a new trend? I also realized that we had a similar situation last year for a 1- year old party that said "Boy likes gift cards from Target." Really? A 1 yr old likes gift cards!?!?
Before I let my outrage win over, I am curios what the community thinks. Am I obligated to get a tea set? |
Anonymous
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Disgusting.
I would either not go, or purposefully not get the tea set. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely not! Glad to say I've never encountered this. |
Anonymous
| I agree with PPs. It is beyond tacky and I would be really put off. |
Anonymous
| If the birthday girl is a family member, it's still rude but less outrageous than if it's a preschool friend or neighbor. I wouldn't get outraged over it but I would definitely be miffed and I would not get the tea set, unless the birthday girl is an orphan, foster child, charity case, etc. |
Anonymous
| Extremely tacky and ill-mannered, and I would just get as a gift whatever you would have normally gotten. |
Anonymous
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Wow! That's really tacky! However, I think it's passive-aggressive NOT to buy a teaset if you plan to attend. You can't teach the parents a lesson in manners by buying their little girl a present that wasn't on the list. Plus, no need to "punish" the little girl who's probably looking forward to receiving things from her wish list and just doesn't know any better.
If you really can't bring yourself to buy a teaset (and I don't blame you), you might want to just give her a gift card. |
Anonymous
Oh, God, it's bad enough the parents are doing this, but the idea they discussed/crafted a wish list with the child is unbelievable. |
Anonymous
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Wow. Outrageous.
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Anonymous
| OMG. I wouldn't go to this party. It would annoy me to be around these parents. |
Anonymous
| Super tacky. BEYOND tacky. I would either politely send my regrets, or would buy whatever you would normally have gotten the child. I would absolutely not get a tea set, unless that is by some remarkable coincidence what you would have gotten her already. |
Anonymous
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Very tacky. It's not that I don't understand as I have received many baby gifts that I just don't use. However, whatever gift you do bring, I do think it's a good idea to include a gift receipt, as I always ultimately want the person receving the gift to get something they actually want.
Also, sometimes the best gifts you receive are the ones you do not specifically ask for. Plus, where's the surprise? |
Anonymous
How is it passive agressive not to buy a teaset? Honestly, I would just not even attend the party. |
Anonymous
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I think it is tacky to do this but - I am sure they were just trying to avoid duplicate/unwanted toys. Not sure if there is a less tacky way to handle - maybe include a note that says: Little Arianna loves hosting tea parties and playing with dolls that pee, or including a small wish list.
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Anonymous
| there is no way to do this without it being rude and tacky. you never ask for a gift, it always makes the other oerson feel bad. If the toys are duplicated, tough. Either take it back or donate it. |