Son and DIL insulting vacation we paid for

[Anonymous]

OP would you be happier if your son/DIL left early? Because if I was expected to share a room that let in light at 4:45 AM with my toddler, I would immediately relocate to a hotel. My husband would be racing me out the door. If someone called that experience a “free vacation” I would laugh.

How much input did you get into this trip? How much care and consideration did you put into the accommodations for anyone other than yourself? You’re not coming back but I’m hoping other posters of your age who like to travel this way will think this through: if you invite people to a rental you are offering them your hospitality. Giving people sub-par accommodations and then expecting them to be grateful reflects on you as the host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP would you be happier if your son/DIL left early? Because if I was expected to share a room that let in light at 4:45 AM with my toddler, I would immediately relocate to a hotel. My husband would be racing me out the door. If someone called that experience a “free vacation” I would laugh.

How much input did you get into this trip? How much care and consideration did you put into the accommodations for anyone other than yourself? You’re not coming back but I’m hoping other posters of your age who like to travel this way will think this through: if you invite people to a rental you are offering them your hospitality. Giving people sub-par accommodations and then expecting them to be grateful reflects on you as the host.

This right here. Often the people who book the place, rightly, get the nicest room. But here’s what: you should at least walk through all the other rooms and realistically evaluate whether they are suitable for your guests. Spoiler alert: a room without adequate curtains/shades that will let in early morning East Coast blazing ocean sunlight is NOT OK for a family with young kids to sleep in—or anyone, really. Either help find a solid solution—even if it’s duct tape and dark towels—or understand that there will be grumbling.

[Anonymous]

I admit I am the complainer. I complain when we book and pay.

I recently just went on a trip and mentioned the poor water pressure. I hope my friends weren’t insulted. The water pressure in my shower was really low.

I always comment when something is broken or if the sheets feel old or whatever. I would not take it personally.

[Anonymous]

I always feel bad for the person who books group vacations, be it family or friends. Because some jerks think it's their right to complain a lot. No good deed goes unpunished. Which is why that person often says "never again" because it's just not worth to do such a thankless job for rude people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP would you be happier if your son/DIL left early? Because if I was expected to share a room that let in light at 4:45 AM with my toddler, I would immediately relocate to a hotel. My husband would be racing me out the door. If someone called that experience a “free vacation” I would laugh.

How much input did you get into this trip? How much care and consideration did you put into the accommodations for anyone other than yourself? You’re not coming back but I’m hoping other posters of your age who like to travel this way will think this through: if you invite people to a rental you are offering them your hospitality. Giving people sub-par accommodations and then expecting them to be grateful reflects on you as the host.

This right here. Often the people who book the place, rightly, get the nicest room. But here’s what: you should at least walk through all the other rooms and realistically evaluate whether they are suitable for your guests. Spoiler alert: a room without adequate curtains/shades that will let in early morning East Coast blazing ocean sunlight is NOT OK for a family with young kids to sleep in—or anyone, really. Either help find a solid solution—even if it’s duct tape and dark towels—or understand that there will be grumbling.

x100000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The rental was "several thousand"...where do you see 5k?

Any beach house for only "several thousand" in the summer time is a dump.

Agree.

OP, post a link to the house rental listing. It won't out you but at least we can judge for ourselves.

JFC. It doesn’t matter if it’s a dump! It doesn’t matter if you’re not having fun! It doesn’t matter if the curtains are crappy! None of this makes it okay to be rude to your hosts.

I truly hope this is one person trolling because if not, I’m truly embarrassed for you.

It does matter. I have stayed in gross rentals and it's uncomfortable for me.

+1

I would never invite people to sleep in a room that I would not sleep in myself. Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The rental was "several thousand"...where do you see 5k?

Any beach house for only "several thousand" in the summer time is a dump.

Agree.

OP, post a link to the house rental listing. It won't out you but at least we can judge for ourselves.

JFC. It doesn’t matter if it’s a dump! It doesn’t matter if you’re not having fun! It doesn’t matter if the curtains are crappy! None of this makes it okay to be rude to your hosts.

I truly hope this is one person trolling because if not, I’m truly embarrassed for you.

It does matter. I have stayed in gross rentals and it's uncomfortable for me.

You poor, poor pitiful princess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
OP TELL US THE OTHER COMPLAINTS.

I mean, beside the new mom had no sleep and you refused a solution.

Drama. Is son capable of hanging up a dark sheet over the window? Vacation with a baby is rough but that doesn’t mean you get to drag everyone else down with you.

Where was he supposed to get this magical "dark sheet" at someone else's lake house at 5:00AM?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous[b wrote:]It’s honestly sad when you realize that you won’t have another relaxing, fun vacation until your kids are older. Traveling with little kids is so exhausting. Your DIL probably doesn’t realize how much she’s complaining, but you should try not to take it personally and give them a lot of slack.[/b] And if it’s too stressful or unfun for YOU to have them as guests when they’re stressed by their little kids, just don’t invite them for a few years.

+1

I'm surprised that parents thought children wouldn't change their lives, including their vacations a bit. Our vacations with our (now grown) kids were so much fun, a little different than pre-kids, but I wouldn't have missed those for the world. Especially as we were both working demanding jobs, those vacations were precious bonding time.

We did have limited vacation time, so I understand that not all adult kids want to spend it with the grandparents. We never got to do that as young parents, so I'm a little envious. It does seem that the trips with extended family give the parents some extra hands when it comes to entertaining the little ones. I guess that's a trade-off, even if the accommodations are not luxurious.

I would guess that some of the grown children invited to these weeks do not have parents/grandparents who are involved and engaged - but rather, some just like bragging rights of "I took them to the beach". They leave out that there wasn't enough room for everyone, and the son and DIL got a room where they could not sleep.

If it really isn't a big deal, as so many MIL posters seem to think, why don't they switch rooms with the DIL and son?

This question has been asked multiple times on this thread and the response is...crickets. Very telling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The rental was "several thousand"...where do you see 5k?

Any beach house for only "several thousand" in the summer time is a dump.

Agree.

OP, post a link to the house rental listing. It won't out you but at least we can judge for ourselves.

JFC. It doesn’t matter if it’s a dump! It doesn’t matter if you’re not having fun! It doesn’t matter if the curtains are crappy! None of this makes it okay to be rude to your hosts.

I truly hope this is one person trolling because if not, I’m truly embarrassed for you.

It does matter. I have stayed in gross rentals and it's uncomfortable for me.

You poor, poor pitiful princess.

The only pitiful princesses here are OP and her ilk defending her. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]It’s honestly sad when you realize that you won’t have another relaxing, fun vacation until your kids are older. Traveling with little kids is so exhausting. Your DIL probably doesn’t realize how much she’s complaining, but you should try not to take it personally and give them a lot of slack.[/b] And if it’s too stressful or unfun for YOU to have them as guests when they’re stressed by their little kids, just don’t invite them for a few years.

+1

I'm surprised that parents thought children wouldn't change their lives, including their vacations a bit. Our vacations with our (now grown) kids were so much fun, a little different than pre-kids, but I wouldn't have missed those for the world. Especially as we were both working demanding jobs, those vacations were precious bonding time.

We did have limited vacation time, so I understand that not all adult kids want to spend it with the grandparents. We never got to do that as young parents, so I'm a little envious. It does seem that the trips with extended family give the parents some extra hands when it comes to entertaining the little ones. I guess that's a trade-off, even if the accommodations are not luxurious.

I would guess that some of the grown children invited to these weeks do not have parents/grandparents who are involved and engaged - but rather, some just like bragging rights of "I took them to the beach". They leave out that there wasn't enough room for everyone, and the son and DIL got a room where they could not sleep.

If it really isn't a big deal, as so many MIL posters seem to think, why don't they switch rooms with the DIL and son?

This question has been asked multiple times on this thread and the response is...crickets. Very telling.

+1

MIL would never even have considered being a good hostess and switching rooms, and we all know that.

MIL, don't be so gross - act like you have parents, yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP TELL US THE OTHER COMPLAINTS.

I mean, beside the new mom had no sleep and you refused a solution.

Drama. Is son capable of hanging up a dark sheet over the window? Vacation with a baby is rough but that doesn’t mean you get to drag everyone else down with you.

Where was he supposed to get this magical "dark sheet" at someone else's lake house at 5:00AM?

+1

No kidding. WTH? DIL can't express her opinions? MIL must really suck worse than this "vacation".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP would you be happier if your son/DIL left early? Because if I was expected to share a room that let in light at 4:45 AM with my toddler, I would immediately relocate to a hotel. My husband would be racing me out the door. If someone called that experience a “free vacation” I would laugh.

How much input did you get into this trip? How much care and consideration did you put into the accommodations for anyone other than yourself? You’re not coming back but I’m hoping other posters of your age who like to travel this way will think this through: if you invite people to a rental you are offering them your hospitality. Giving people sub-par accommodations and then expecting them to be grateful reflects on you as the host.

Manners are manners. You don’t have to be “grateful” but you can refrain from multiple complaints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The rental was "several thousand"...where do you see 5k?

Any beach house for only "several thousand" in the summer time is a dump.

Agree.

OP, post a link to the house rental listing. It won't out you but at least we can judge for ourselves.

JFC. It doesn’t matter if it’s a dump! It doesn’t matter if you’re not having fun! It doesn’t matter if the curtains are crappy! None of this makes it okay to be rude to your hosts.

I truly hope this is one person trolling because if not, I’m truly embarrassed for you.

It does matter. I have stayed in gross rentals and it's uncomfortable for me.

You poor, poor pitiful princess.

The only pitiful princesses here are OP and her ilk defending her. Pathetic.

Right? Op sounds like a bully. Have you read some of her responses??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I admit I am the complainer. I complain when we book and pay.

I recently just went on a trip and mentioned the poor water pressure. I hope my friends weren’t insulted. The water pressure in my shower was really low.

I always comment when something is broken or if the sheets feel old or whatever. I would not take it personally.

This is..not good.

If you truly think something is broken, that’s something you can address with the host. But “old” sheets? Low water pressure? Keep that sort of thing to yourself when you are a guest.