Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?

[Anonymous]

A rented billboard sounds like the way to go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse’s old ugly middle aged non-working AP is in crisis mode deleting all of her social media accounts and internet presence. I love she’s freaking out.

I had all of that info downloaded and saved before confronting her on internet phone call.

I have a lot of “fun” in store for her over the next year.

She is a repeat Ashley Madison whore. Multiple affairs in her husband’s bed/kids’ home. Never thought she would get caught.

You ladies rock. You are not a door mat and you are making it happen for yourself!

[Anonymous]

To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

For the same reason you don't tell your wife she looks fat in that dress or your husband he isn't actually better looking as a bald guy. Just because someone know something doesn't mean you need to humiliate them with it.

You really think someone several months or years into a sexless marriage is suddenly celibate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

For the same reason you don't tell your wife she looks fat in that dress or your husband he isn't actually better looking as a bald guy. Just because someone know something doesn't mean you need to humiliate them with it.

You really think someone several months or years into a sexless marriage is suddenly celibate?

But it's her fault that you're cheating, and she already must know anyway, right? So why not tell her instead of lie? Surely she'll understand and not care.

Bc you're afraid of the consequences of your actions? Bc you want to have cake and eat it, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

For the same reason you don't tell your wife she looks fat in that dress or your husband he isn't actually better looking as a bald guy. Just because someone know something doesn't mean you need to humiliate them with it.

You really think someone several months or years into a sexless marriage is suddenly celibate?

But it's her fault that you're cheating, and she already must know anyway, right? So why not tell her instead of lie? Surely she'll understand and not care.

Bc you're afraid of the consequences of your actions? Bc you want to have cake and eat it, too?

I hope his wife finds out and turns out to be like the other 2 cheated on wives above and frickin’ blows his world and his AP’s world apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My spouse’s old ugly middle aged non-working AP is in crisis mode deleting all of her social media accounts and internet presence. I love she’s freaking out.

I had all of that info downloaded and saved before confronting her on internet phone call.

I have a lot of “fun” in store for her over the next year.

She is a repeat Ashley Madison whore. Multiple affairs in her husband’s bed/kids’ home. Never thought she would get caught.

This seems like a waste of energy to me. But it ain’t my life. *shrug*

Hell No. It sounds fun and like victory to mentally torment and destroy the marriage of somebody that helped ruin your life, and your kids as well. They destroy both the past and the future of the cheated spouse.

Karma will most likely take care of them both and they have to live with themselves on their death beds, but until karma kicks in gotta give a little yourself.

If more cheated on spouses did this Ashley Madison would start losing customers.

The sick part was my spouse and I had a very healthy sex life- several times per week-while he was screwing her unprotected so I was getting all of her germs for 4 years unknowingly and her husband was getting my husband’s. And, that poor guy had to sleep in the bed they screwed in. Not even washing the sheets after. Nasty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

For the same reason you don't tell your wife she looks fat in that dress or your husband he isn't actually better looking as a bald guy. Just because someone know something doesn't mean you need to humiliate them with it.

You really think someone several months or years into a sexless marriage is suddenly celibate?

But it's her fault that you're cheating, and she already must know anyway, right? So why not tell her instead of lie? Surely she'll understand and not care.

Bc you're afraid of the consequences of your actions? Bc you want to have cake and eat it, too?

asked, and answered. Now file that under, DUHHHH!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My spouse’s old ugly middle aged non-working AP is in crisis mode deleting all of her social media accounts and internet presence. I love she’s freaking out.

I had all of that info downloaded and saved before confronting her on internet phone call.

I have a lot of “fun” in store for her over the next year.

She is a repeat Ashley Madison whore. Multiple affairs in her husband’s bed/kids’ home. Never thought she would get caught.

This seems like a waste of energy to me. But it ain’t my life. *shrug*

Hell No. It sounds fun and like victory to mentally torment and destroy the marriage of somebody that helped ruin your life, and your kids as well. They destroy both the past and the future of the cheated spouse.

Karma will most likely take care of them both and they have to live with themselves on their death beds, but until karma kicks in gotta give a little yourself.

If more cheated on spouses did this Ashley Madison would start losing customers.

The sick part was my spouse and I had a very healthy sex life- several times per week-while he was screwing her unprotected so I was getting all of her germs for 4 years unknowingly and her husband was getting my husband’s. And, that poor guy had to sleep in the bed they screwed in. Not even washing the sheets after. Nasty

Something tells me this all kind of turns you on in a perverse sort of way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

For the same reason you don't tell your wife she looks fat in that dress or your husband he isn't actually better looking as a bald guy. Just because someone know something doesn't mean you need to humiliate them with it.

You really think someone several months or years into a sexless marriage is suddenly celibate?

But it's her fault that you're cheating, and she already must know anyway, right? So why not tell her instead of lie? Surely she'll understand and not care.

Bc you're afraid of the consequences of your actions? Bc you want to have cake and eat it, too?

asked, and answered. Now file that under, DUHHHH!!

That's not how Cheater Guy answered it. I don't think he ever answered these questions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To all those cheaters who "assume" their spouses know, why don't you have an honest conversation and tell them, instead of lying to them about your whereabouts and communications? If you "assume" they know, why not tell the truth instead of lie?

For the same reason you don't tell your wife she looks fat in that dress or your husband he isn't actually better looking as a bald guy. Just because someone know something doesn't mean you need to humiliate them with it.

You really think someone several months or years into a sexless marriage is suddenly celibate?

But it's her fault that you're cheating, and she already must know anyway, right? So why not tell her instead of lie? Surely she'll understand and not care.

Bc you're afraid of the consequences of your actions? Bc you want to have cake and eat it, too?

I hope his wife finds out and turns out to be like the other 2 cheated on wives above and frickin’ blows his world and his AP’s world apart.

That would be interesting, wouldn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My spouse’s old ugly middle aged non-working AP is in crisis mode deleting all of her social media accounts and internet presence. I love she’s freaking out.

I had all of that info downloaded and saved before confronting her on internet phone call.

I have a lot of “fun” in store for her over the next year.

She is a repeat Ashley Madison whore. Multiple affairs in her husband’s bed/kids’ home. Never thought she would get caught.

This seems like a waste of energy to me. But it ain’t my life. *shrug*

Hell No. It sounds fun and like victory to mentally torment and destroy the marriage of somebody that helped ruin your life, and your kids as well. They destroy both the past and the future of the cheated spouse.

Karma will most likely take care of them both and they have to live with themselves on their death beds, but until karma kicks in gotta give a little yourself.

If more cheated on spouses did this Ashley Madison would start losing customers.

The sick part was my spouse and I had a very healthy sex life- several times per week-while he was screwing her unprotected so I was getting all of her germs for 4 years unknowingly and her husband was getting my husband’s. And, that poor guy had to sleep in the bed they screwed in. Not even washing the sheets after. Nasty

Something tells me this all kind of turns you on in a perverse sort of way.

In the vomiting several times a day when I think of it way? Having to figure out how to get STD tested during a pandemic way? In a knowing she met men on the Internet and screwed them unprotected on first meeting for decades? Worrying I will end up with HPV related cancer because of this whore?

You are an A-hole. No matter. She’s going down and her husband will be notified so that he can get tested as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My spouse’s old ugly middle aged non-working AP is in crisis mode deleting all of her social media accounts and internet presence. I love she’s freaking out.

I had all of that info downloaded and saved before confronting her on internet phone call.

I have a lot of “fun” in store for her over the next year.

She is a repeat Ashley Madison whore. Multiple affairs in her husband’s bed/kids’ home. Never thought she would get caught.

This seems like a waste of energy to me. But it ain’t my life. *shrug*

Hell No. It sounds fun and like victory to mentally torment and destroy the marriage of somebody that helped ruin your life, and your kids as well. They destroy both the past and the future of the cheated spouse.

Karma will most likely take care of them both and they have to live with themselves on their death beds, but until karma kicks in gotta give a little yourself.

If more cheated on spouses did this Ashley Madison would start losing customers.

The sick part was my spouse and I had a very healthy sex life- several times per week-while he was screwing her unprotected so I was getting all of her germs for 4 years unknowingly and her husband was getting my husband’s. And, that poor guy had to sleep in the bed they screwed in. Not even washing the sheets after. Nasty

Something tells me this all kind of turns you on in a perverse sort of way.

In the vomiting several times a day when I think of it way? Having to figure out how to get STD tested during a pandemic way? In a knowing she met men on the Internet and screwed them unprotected on first meeting for decades? Worrying I will end up with HPV related cancer because of this whore?

You are an A-hole. No matter. She’s going down and her husband will be notified so that he can get tested as well.

That is very scary. We had a friend that died from HPV throat cancer at age 43. He had his masters degree yet married the bar trollop because she was "pretty"... One of my friends son died from it too because a woman he dated had risky sex with just about everything. The lack of education and morals with some of these posters is mind blowing.

Why haven't you told her husband already? I would do what one of my friends did, go to her work and embarrass her. Then go to her house to talk to her husband. Since she interjected herself into your world you get to do the same. Cheaters don't like the consequences, but those are the choices they made.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP, you have the conversation so you can live an honest life and so your spouse knows the truth of their own life. This could go bad in so many ways. What if the DH of his AP finds out and goes crazy? What if AP is a co-worker and it risks the cheater's job if discovered? If his own kids find out, it is very likely to impact his relationship with them . . . kids normally would be protective of their mom in this situation. This would affect how his own family of origin, inlaws, friends, coworkers, neighbors will see him - but he knows this, and is selfish, so it's better for him to sneak around and hope no one finds out.

What if the cheated on wife goes crazy ?

Nobody ever thinks of that scenario. They assume she is a doormat. Often, they are very strong women that cheater is afraid of.

Some make it a long-term mission to destroy both spouse and AP. The smart ones know how to lie low and poke and strike when they are least expecting it.

Why do the two cheaters get off free?? Often when one spouse finds out, the affair is ended and the AP partner is set free with no worries and does not have to suffer the damage that the innocent party she inflicted this damage on is going through. That is unacceptable. He/She should be forced to pay consequences. Even marriage counselors highly recommend telling the clueless spouse because his/her health and family safety is being put in jeopardy.

You will never know what a spouse will do. Just Google some of the cases. Recently a couple relocated for his job, she was moving them while he was in another state. Had an affair with his boss and refused to end it. She confronted the OW and told her employer who ended up firing her. Still this loser refused to leave the couple alone. Finally she broke into her house, and shot her then herself. All 3 of these people had advanced degrees. I remember hearing about a lady years ago who got a hold of the OW, and they cut all her hair off. Weird but if you come between someones family it's definitely taking a big risk.

[Anonymous]

It's not difficult to understand. When two people are in a relationship there are expectations. Think of it like a checklist. The problem occurs when one or both people's checklists are not being checked off.

It can be anything from common interests, common way of thinking about things, common approach to finance, common parenting approach, sex, affection, etc.

Once enough checkboxes are not checked off...that's when love slowly disappears. Once love is gone there is no emotional attachment to stay in a relationship.

The above is what any therapist will tell you and instead of paying $200/hour for it...it's free here