Can't wait to change my surname, but notice many women keeping theirs, is there a reason for this trend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

I am a birthright United States citizen and your thinly veiled Trumpist threats about my “green card” don’t scare me. They are also an embarrassment to the idea of America as a nation of laws. Get bent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

LOL

I did not change my name and my family has been here for centuries. It hasn’t been a problem. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Yes, the DCUM Immigration Monitors will track you down and report you to the authoritis. Why, they might just put it on your permanent record.

“I’d like to remind you.” You culture deniers are in grave danger, I tell you what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

First world practices? Iceland - no. Spain - no. Austria - no. France - not for legal documents or life events. Greece - no. Italy - no. Korea - no. Taiwan - no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Yes, the DCUM Immigration Monitors will track you down and report you to the authoritis. Why, they might just put it on your permanent record.

“I’d like to remind you.” You culture deniers are in grave danger, I tell you what.

You're talking to multiple different people, toots.

Oh no, now you'll tell the coppers about my snarky 1930s slang.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

While it's important to respect indigenous naming traditions, it's worth noting that the 85% statistic includes data from all marriages in the United States, encompassing various cultural practices. The reference to 'first-world practices' aimed to highlight a common custom within certain demographic groups. This tradition doesn't negate the significance of other naming practices but addresses a specific cultural practice prevalent in the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.

First world practices? Iceland - no. Spain - no. Austria - no. France - not for legal documents or life events. Greece - no. Italy - no. Korea - no. Taiwan - no

The point being made is that we are discussing naming practices within the context of the United States. While naming customs can vary from country to country, the reference to "first-world practices" was specific to the prevalence of women taking their husband's last name upon marriage within certain demographic groups in the United States. It's important to address the topic within its relevant cultural context.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

LOL

I did not change my name and my family has been here for centuries. It hasn’t been a problem. Ever.

While it's great to hear that you've had no issues with your naming choice, it's essential to remember that individual experiences can vary widely. One person's experience doesn't necessarily reflect the broader trends and practices within the United States. Naming customs can vary among families and communities, and what works for one person may not apply universally. The 85% statistic is based on a more extensive sample size and reflects a common naming tradition observed by a significant portion of the population.

[Anonymous]

DP. No, it's important to live and let live. None of this affects you at all, PP, and yet you appear oddly consumed by it.

You were the one using ChatGPT, weren't you? Are you still doing that?

[Anonymous]

PS: Oh yeah, I see that you are. That's really a weird habit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

I am a birthright United States citizen and your thinly veiled Trumpist threats about my “green card” don’t scare me. They are also an embarrassment to the idea of America as a nation of laws. Get bent.

I understand the need for a respectful and constructive discussion, and I appreciate your perspective on this matter. It's essential to maintain a respectful tone and avoid political attacks, as this conversation is about cultural practices and traditions.

However, there seems to be some confusion in your previous posts. You mentioned "in your country" when discussing naming traditions, which led to the assumption that you might have had experiences in another country. If you are a birthright United States citizen, that's perfectly fine, and there's no need to present different perspectives.

Let's focus on the cultural aspects and traditions we are discussing without delving into political discussions or attacks. It's important to engage in open and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and foster a productive conversation. Additionally, please refrain from bringing up political references as they are not relevant to this conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice.
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.

I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."

LOL you are funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been reading through this forum and have noticed a concerning trend of negative attitudes towards American cultural norms, like the tradition of taking a husband's last name, which is embraced by approximately 85% of women in the U.S. This practice is more than just a tradition; it's an integral part of our social and family structure.

Your participation in these discussions, marked by a dismissive stance towards American customs, is troubling. It's crucial to understand that expressing such negativity, especially in public forums, can have serious implications for your integration into American society. This attitude and visible disdain towards the U.S. could also adversely affect your visa status and the process of obtaining a green card.

While it's important to maintain your personal identity and beliefs, showing respect for the customs of your host country is essential when living in a new community. Publicly insulting these traditions can be seen in a negative light, possibly impacting your efforts to adapt to life in the U.S.

I encourage you to reconsider your approach and engage with cultural differences respectfully. Your experiences and viewpoints are important, but so is demonstrating a willingness to understand and integrate into the cultural context of your new home.

Are you a bot? You sound like one.