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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my country it’s unheard of women taking their husbands’ name. Even at my grandma’s time it did not happen (she got married 70 years ago).

I did not change my name when I married here in the US. My 3 kids have my DH’s name. We have had zero issues. People that think that it can be a problem are misinformed. My kids have traveled with me internationally multiple times, I am on all schools/doctors/sports forms, etc.

It really is a non-issue in practice. 
I do find this tradition insulting to women and demeaning.
Thankfully, my husband whose previous wife took his name, did not care at all that I did not.

I really hope my daughters raised in the US will not be stupid to choose a man that values this ridiculous and backward tradition.[/quote]I'd like to remind you that you are in the United States, a country that has welcomed immigrants from around the world, including yourself. While it's important to express your opinions and perspectives, it's equally important to do so with respect for the host country and its values. Insulting language and derogatory comments don't contribute to productive discussions.

In the United States, it is the norm for women to take their husband's last name upon marriage, which aligns with the cultural practices of many first-world countries. This tradition is deeply rooted and has practical benefits, making it easier for various aspects of life, such as documentation and societal recognition. Instead of criticizing this tradition, let's engage in thoughtful and respectful dialogue to better understand each other's viewpoints and appreciate the cultural diversity that enriches this nation."[/quote]

I’d like to remind you that virtually all of the United States occupies the ancestral lands of indigenous peoples, many of whom did not and do not observe what you refer to as “first-world practices” with respect to family naming. While it’s apparently important to you that you get to express your opinions and perspectives, it’s equally important that you do so with respect for the host peoples and their values. Behaving as though those peoples and traditions do not exist or are not relevant doesn’t contribute to productive conversations.

Indigenous naming traditions are deeply rooted and have practical benefits. You lecturing as if a subset of white European-originating practices are the only ones that matter is some racist bs.[/quote]

First world practices? Iceland - no. Spain - no. Austria - no. France - not for legal documents or life events. Greece - no. Italy - no. Korea - no. Taiwan - no

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