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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life. [/quote]

I have to take offense at this concept. They are your kids just as much as they are hers. Tone down, to yourself, the sense of injustice at parenting, because, after all, you are a parent. The above-quoted sentiment betrays that maybe you aren't so progressive and maybe you still think it's a very big sacrifice for the father, bigger than it would be for the mother, to single-parent the kids when the mother is traveling.[/quote]

You're either not a parent/spouse or a really, really, really shitty parent/spouse.

Of course they are his kids and I have yet to see him once complain about them. Is she a shitty mom for not checking in on them? Absolutely. Is she only able to do what she's doing BECAUSE she has a spouse that will support her? Yep. Did you stop and think for a moment about what sacrifices his career is taking because he has a spouse gone all the time? What important meetings/conferences is he inevitably missing?

You're an idiot. We have two people here:

-One leaves her kids and husband for weeks at a time and stays silent.

-And one parent who stays behind with the kids giving them the love, support and care they need AND works his job.

Yet here you are trying to make him the bad guy.  You suck. If you have a husband, I pity him. If you don't have a husband, I know why.

-signed, a guy with three kids whose wife also travels a lot. [/quote]

Woah with the ad hominems, name-calling, and drama!

[quote]Yet here you are trying to make him the bad guy.  [/quote]
In my post, I'm suggesting he readjust slightly his perspective on the one narrow issue of feeling taken advantage of. I'm in no way trying to make him the bad guy. I pity.. Nevermind. [/quote]

Nice back peddle. You called him a selfish bigot. It's there for all to see.[/quote]

Circling round back to this. This was not backpedaling (pedal, like on a bicycle. I'm not trying to peddle any idea to you). Your reaction showed that you are very probably abusive, and I feel terrible for the woman who has to deal with your kind of outbursts.

A parent working and raising two kids isn't "staying behind", he's staying the course. Nobody gets a medal (yes medal, not meddle) for giving their children the love, support and care they need, and very few get to do that without working too. OP isn't a saint, regardless of whether OP's wife is a cheater.
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