Would you not reciprocate a play date if friend’s house was too big?

[Anonymous]

for your visualization needs:

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[Anonymous]

Op here. I reached out to the friend and we made plans for next week. She just had a lot going on in the past two months.

Please let this thread die. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I reached out to the friend and we made plans for next week. She just had a lot going on in the past two months.

Please let this thread die. Thanks.

unfortunately it doesn't work that way unless you ask Jeff to delete it

[Anonymous]

I’d be friends with you even if I thought your house was crazy big. I think people with different incomes can be friends. My closest friend probably makes 1/7 of my salary. I think as long as you share something in common, you can maintain a friendship. So go ahead and host a meet up! If people don’t want to be your friend based on your house, they probably aren’t the type of people you want to be friends with anyway.

[Anonymous]

A lot of PPs say they wouldn't be friends with OP because of her house size, but I think for most if not all of them, it goes beyond that. My guess is that the way OP presents herself is in some way incongruous with her McMansion. For instance, maybe OP complains about SAHM stuff in a way that makes her seem one way, then her mom friends come for a play date and see that it was all a bunch of BS. I have an acquaintance who used to complain about fake problems, such as how she and her husband couldn't save money, and it was so annoying because they're rich.

OP comes across in her posts a little "off," if you know what I mean. Like someone who is super-rich but tries really, really hard to convince people that she's salt of the earth. She got a handed down raincoat from a friend and was so grateful, as if to say I'm so down-to-earth!!! PPs say her house is way bigger than need be and she responds with some weirdness that it's because she values family...?!? It would be so much better if she just owned the extravagance and said yes, I know our place is ridiculously huge, but I love it!

Incidentally, I would never offer a mom friend (unless a good friend) as rich as OP a used raincoat. I would rather it go to a good friend or family or to someone who needs hand-me-downs. I would also expect a super-rich mom to graciously refuse such an offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be friends with you even if I thought your house was crazy big. I think people with different incomes can be friends. My closest friend probably makes 1/7 of my salary. I think as long as you share something in common, you can maintain a friendship. So go ahead and host a meet up! If people don’t want to be your friend based on your house, they probably aren’t the type of people you want to be friends with anyway.

If you share the same heart, you can be friends, no problem. Sounds hokey, but it is very true. May some of these PPs live long enough to realize that simple fact. Of course, some of the PPs are probably the type to go to church every Sunday, rain or shine, yet torment their neighbor for no real reason, so there is that.

OP, reach out to people who can see beyond what kind of house you live in. It is a life long lesson to attract like people who are truly good (like attracts like, guilt by association, misery loves company, and all). I know people who exclaim "but they ARE a good person!" - you guessed it, they are as rotten as they come. All you have to do is read some of the PPs to see people's real sentiment/resentment about people who have something they don't - they don't even try to hide it, and come up with any excuse possible: (example from upthread) OP probably doesn't share her wealth? How would PPs begin to know that? Hilarious! My favorite one from upthread is how "wasteful" a large house would be 1.) as if it is any of their business and 2.) (for one example) these are people who probably drive those Suburban/GMC/Tahoe/Yukon environment killing machines, just to start. If I had a dime for each of the carefully constructed criticisms these kinds of know it alls offer, they could give it to charity - except they likely would not.

Never mind that they wouldn't know humility if it hit them off the head. Maybe it should. Give me a break. Such hypocrisy. Yes, of course, we should "all" live like them. God help us.

Ain't it a damn shame that some people have such rotten hearts? Their problem not yours. Avoid them, they deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of PPs say they wouldn't be friends with OP because of her house size, but I think for most if not all of them, it goes beyond that. My guess is that the way OP presents herself is in some way incongruous with her McMansion. For instance, maybe OP complains about SAHM stuff in a way that makes her seem one way, then her mom friends come for a play date and see that it was all a bunch of BS. I have an acquaintance who used to complain about fake problems, such as how she and her husband couldn't save money, and it was so annoying because they're rich.

OP comes across in her posts a little "off," if you know what I mean. Like someone who is super-rich but tries really, really hard to convince people that she's salt of the earth. She got a handed down raincoat from a friend and was so grateful, as if to say I'm so down-to-earth!!! PPs say her house is way bigger than need be and she responds with some weirdness that it's because she values family...?!? It would be so much better if she just owned the extravagance and said yes, I know our place is ridiculously huge, but I love it!

Incidentally, I would never offer a mom friend (unless a good friend) as rich as OP a used raincoat. I would rather it go to a good friend or family or to someone who needs hand-me-downs. I would also expect a super-rich mom to graciously refuse such an offer.

Who are you to judge who has what and who needs what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of PPs say they wouldn't be friends with OP because of her house size, but I think for most if not all of them, it goes beyond that. My guess is that the way OP presents herself is in some way incongruous with her McMansion. For instance, maybe OP complains about SAHM stuff in a way that makes her seem one way, then her mom friends come for a play date and see that it was all a bunch of BS. I have an acquaintance who used to complain about fake problems, such as how she and her husband couldn't save money, and it was so annoying because they're rich.

OP comes across in her posts a little "off," if you know what I mean. Like someone who is super-rich but tries really, really hard to convince people that she's salt of the earth. She got a handed down raincoat from a friend and was so grateful, as if to say I'm so down-to-earth!!! PPs say her house is way bigger than need be and she responds with some weirdness that it's because she values family...?!? It would be so much better if she just owned the extravagance and said yes, I know our place is ridiculously huge, but I love it!

Incidentally, I would never offer a mom friend (unless a good friend) as rich as OP a used raincoat. I would rather it go to a good friend or family or to someone who needs hand-me-downs. I would also expect a super-rich mom to graciously refuse such an offer.

Who are you to judge who has what and who needs what?

PP here. Let me guess, you are the type that gets free money from "friends" and relatives, that you don't have to claim - and probably get financial aid as a result (just one example)- taking it from someone who could really use it, and does not have your luxuries (that you claim not to have). Nice person, you are - what a winner - judge and jury, both. I hope you get exactly what you have coming. "WHAAAA! But *they* have so much!" Give me a break. Count your own pennies and worry about yourself, for once.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

[Anonymous]

I'm poor.

I'll be your friend. Your big house wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If I can afford an outing you invite me to, I'll decline. Other than that, if I invite you over, I might not have all the room you have and my food might not be as fancy - but you're welcome to come over.

I'll have no issues enjoying your company and your never ending hallways. Let me know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm poor.

I'll be your friend. Your big house wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If I can afford an outing you invite me to, I'll decline. Other than that, if I invite you over, I might not have all the room you have and my food might not be as fancy - but you're welcome to come over.

I'll have no issues enjoying your company and your never ending hallways. Let me know

*can't afford

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of PPs say they wouldn't be friends with OP because of her house size, but I think for most if not all of them, it goes beyond that. My guess is that the way OP presents herself is in some way incongruous with her McMansion. For instance, maybe OP complains about SAHM stuff in a way that makes her seem one way, then her mom friends come for a play date and see that it was all a bunch of BS. I have an acquaintance who used to complain about fake problems, such as how she and her husband couldn't save money, and it was so annoying because they're rich.

OP comes across in her posts a little "off," if you know what I mean. Like someone who is super-rich but tries really, really hard to convince people that she's salt of the earth. She got a handed down raincoat from a friend and was so grateful, as if to say I'm so down-to-earth!!! PPs say her house is way bigger than need be and she responds with some weirdness that it's because she values family...?!? It would be so much better if she just owned the extravagance and said yes, I know our place is ridiculously huge, but I love it!

Incidentally, I would never offer a mom friend (unless a good friend) as rich as OP a used raincoat. I would rather it go to a good friend or family or to someone who needs hand-me-downs. I would also expect a super-rich mom to graciously refuse such an offer.

Who are you to judge who has what and who needs what?

This is PP you quoted. There's no judging who has or needs what. I hand down clothes through my moms group so possibly, gasp! a super-rich mom like OP could get DD's old clothing!!! I would just hope that someone that rich would not ask for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I reached out to the friend and we made plans for next week. She just had a lot going on in the past two months.

Please let this thread die. Thanks.

OP's friend is too busy to text and OP's first thought is "OMG! She's ghosting me because my house is too big!!!" OP is so self-conscious about being rich, it's hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I reached out to the friend and we made plans for next week. She just had a lot going on in the past two months.

Please let this thread die. Thanks.

OP's friend is too busy to text and OP's first thought is "OMG! She's ghosting me because my house is too big!!!" OP is so self-conscious about being rich, it's hilarious.

Didn’t you pick that up from the title and origin post when she described her house as “too big”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?