Would you not reciprocate a play date if friend’s house was too big?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

Well, curing cancer doesn't make you that rich, and everyone with half a brain knows it.

[Anonymous]

Keep trying, not everyone is insecure about money. As long as you are kind, it wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d happily be your friend cause seriously, you likely have fun toys and yummy food.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

Well, curing cancer doesn't make you that rich, and everyone with half a brain knows it.

I know research scientists who study cancers and do reasonably well, some might say rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep trying, not everyone is insecure about money. As long as you are kind, it wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d happily be your friend cause seriously, you likely have fun toys and yummy food.

+1

No kidding. Let the dimwits miss out!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

Well, curing cancer doesn't make you that rich, and everyone with half a brain knows it.

I know research scientists who study cancers and do reasonably well, some might say rich.

do they live in 15000 soft homes?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

Well, curing cancer doesn't make you that rich, and everyone with half a brain knows it.

I know research scientists who study cancers and do reasonably well, some might say rich.

do they live in 15000 soft homes?

I don't know, I did not measure. They are nice people, smart and accomplished - and consistently show they have a great heart - that is all that matters to me. You can keep the a-holes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

I don't know. Maybe OP didn't build the house herself. Maybe she is the second owner. In either case, I believe in keeping the economy going. OP is more than doing her share. What are you doing?

[Anonymous]

I’d be friends, even though my home is only 3500+ sq feet. As long as you are kind, and we have common interests, who cares?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

I don't know. Maybe OP didn't build the house herself. Maybe she is the second owner. In either case, I believe in keeping the economy going. OP is more than doing her share. What are you doing?

DP. How is OP, a SAHM in a huge house, doing anything to keep the economy going? She employs a housekeeper, big deal. She also waste's a ton of resources in a house like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s very rude of these “friends” to poke fun at your lifestyle. It would be one thing if you were bragging but clearly you’re not.[b]

I would look into private schools where you will find wealth. There will be others with large homes and many without but I don’t think you’ll be called out on it.

It’s a frustrating problem to have- though I’m sure many of us would trade places in a second!

I think owning a 15,000 sf home is basically like bragging about your wealth, though. There's nothing subtle about it.

+1

Same. Sorry, but if I saw that house + housekeeper, I would know we could not possibly be friends since we don't share the same general values.

Same. Same. It's not that I wouldn't necessarily like you or think you're a nice person, but I would definitely not feel like we could really be friends. I would never feel comfortable inviting your or your children to my average 2500 sq ft house where we have to do all the cleaning, yard work, etc. Your kids would probably be bored too.

Ok so I am not imagining it. My friend did drop me after coming over. I should hesitate to invite someone over.

The one friend I really like is a military spouse. We have hung out a few times and I really like her. She just offered me her daughter’s old raincoat and I felt grateful. This thread has confirmed that I should feel self conscious about inviting her over.

Another friend I met from a moms group and we meet up every week. We talk about sleep deprivation and things like teething. I know she doesn’t get paid help because they are saving up for home renovations.

I agree, OP. You can see from the direction this thread is going: "I'm not jealous!!! My friends live in mansions!! Really!!" how people feel. Sad, but true. Insecurity is RAMPANT here.

No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

I don't know. Maybe OP didn't build the house herself. Maybe she is the second owner. In either case, I believe in keeping the economy going. OP is more than doing her share. What are you doing?

DP. How is OP, a SAHM in a huge house, doing anything to keep the economy going? She employs a housekeeper, big deal. She also waste's a ton of resources in a house like that.

She might have investments that perpetuate the economy, pay a hefty tax bill that the county relies upon, and spend her time helping orphans or the cancer stricken. But you wouldn't know about any of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s very rude of these “friends” to poke fun at your lifestyle. It would be one thing if you were bragging but clearly you’re not.[b]

I would look into private schools where you will find wealth. There will be others with large homes and many without but I don’t think you’ll be called out on it.

It’s a frustrating problem to have- though I’m sure many of us would trade places in a second!

I think owning a 15,000 sf home is basically like bragging about your wealth, though. There's nothing subtle about it.

+1

Same. Sorry, but if I saw that house + housekeeper, I would know we could not possibly be friends since we don't share the same general values.

Same. Same. It's not that I wouldn't necessarily like you or think you're a nice person, but I would definitely not feel like we could really be friends. I would never feel comfortable inviting your or your children to my average 2500 sq ft house where we have to do all the cleaning, yard work, etc. Your kids would probably be bored too.

Ok so I am not imagining it. My friend did drop me after coming over. I should hesitate to invite someone over.

The one friend I really like is a military spouse. We have hung out a few times and I really like her. She just offered me her daughter’s old raincoat and I felt grateful. This thread has confirmed that I should feel self conscious about inviting her over.

Another friend I met from a moms group and we meet up every week. We talk about sleep deprivation and things like teething. I know she doesn’t get paid help because they are saving up for home renovations.

I agree, OP. You can see from the direction this thread is going: "I'm not jealous!!! My friends live in mansions!! Really!!" how people feel. Sad, but true. Insecurity is RAMPANT here.

No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

Case in point.

You seem...I don't know....faux snobby.

Point being, you have no idea but to judge, and you don't control yourself, like a small child.

I may not want anyone's big house either (I don't own a house, so there is that), but I don't scold them for what makes them comfortable. That is absurd - and says much more about you than OP. I bet OP has great parties, and I would be the first to attend parties with fun people (instead of wasting my time at parties with dour, NPD stricken looky loos - no thanks!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

I don't know. Maybe OP didn't build the house herself. Maybe she is the second owner. In either case, I believe in keeping the economy going. OP is more than doing her share. What are you doing?

DP. How is OP, a SAHM in a huge house, doing anything to keep the economy going? She employs a housekeeper, big deal. She also waste's a ton of resources in a house like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

I don't know. Maybe OP didn't build the house herself. Maybe she is the second owner. In either case, I believe in keeping the economy going. OP is more than doing her share. What are you doing?

DP. How is OP, a SAHM in a huge house, doing anything to keep the economy going? She employs a housekeeper, big deal. She also waste's a ton of resources in a house like that.

Again, what are you doing to keep the economy going? Besides judging people you don't know (last I knew that helps no one, including yourself)?