Would you not reciprocate a play date if friend’s house was too big?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

Pot, meet kettle. Honestly, the narrow-mindedness of the supposed open-minded people on here is astounding.

Give me a break. EVERYONE judges other people about some things. Absolutely no one, including you, is "open-minded" about everything. We all have lines that if crossed make us think less of another person.

Having a 15000 foot house is unusual. You really think that finding a 15000 foot house for five people over the top and wasteful is exceptionally narrow minded?

It. Does. Not. Involve. Me.

Are you really that NPD?

Your. Post. Makes. No. Sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be friends with you or let my kids play with yours. Our morals and values don’t align. You are hell bent on ruining our planet. I’m not.

Question: How on earth do you know this? What if OP makes her money curing cancer - then it would be OP who is too good for you?

The pp explained how. The OP is hell bent on ruining our planet and the PP is not.

Listen, actions have consequences. If you want to live in a 15,000 sq ft house then fine but don’t expect that 99.9% of the population will agree with your “family values”.

I don't know. Maybe OP didn't build the house herself. Maybe she is the second owner. In either case, I believe in keeping the economy going. OP is more than doing her share. What are you doing?

DP. How is OP, a SAHM in a huge house, doing anything to keep the economy going? She employs a housekeeper, big deal. She also waste's a ton of resources in a house like that.

She might have investments that perpetuate the economy, pay a hefty tax bill that the county relies upon, and spend her time helping orphans or the cancer stricken. But you wouldn't know about any of that.

But outside the property tax, none of that has anything to do with owning a very large house.

Except that you insist on calling OP's choices "wasteful", while proving that is exactly what you are - a waste. If you can't go along to get along, and act like a reasonable, contributing adult (and not a vengeful child - even when you don't have all the toys you want!) that is not on OP.

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PP it is not difficult to understand, you are being obtuse. What other people buy or do not buy, afford or do not afford, is not your business. I know if you had it your way, a large house would be illegal, or somehow outlawed, but that is not possible, so you are going to have to suck it up and get over your feelings about what other people have or do not have, including yourself. You can feign ignorance for the rest of your life, but it is not helping you, clearly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

Pot, meet kettle. Honestly, the narrow-mindedness of the supposed open-minded people on here is astounding.

Give me a break. EVERYONE judges other people about some things. Absolutely no one, including you, is "open-minded" about everything. We all have lines that if crossed make us think less of another person.

Having a 15000 foot house is unusual. You really think that finding a 15000 foot house for five people over the top and wasteful is exceptionally narrow minded?

It. Does. Not. Involve. Me.

Are you really that NPD?

Your. Post. Makes. No. Sense.

You are so transparent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

Pot, meet kettle. Honestly, the narrow-mindedness of the supposed open-minded people on here is astounding.

Give me a break. EVERYONE judges other people about some things. Absolutely no one, including you, is "open-minded" about everything. We all have lines that if crossed make us think less of another person.

Having a 15000 foot house is unusual. You really think that finding a 15000 foot house for five people over the top and wasteful is exceptionally narrow minded?

It. Does. Not. Involve. Me.

Are you really that NPD?

Your. Post. Makes. No. Sense.

You are so transparent.



You are so weird.

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Anonymous wrote:No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

Pot, meet kettle. Honestly, the narrow-mindedness of the supposed open-minded people on here is astounding.

Give me a break. EVERYONE judges other people about some things. Absolutely no one, including you, is "open-minded" about everything. We all have lines that if crossed make us think less of another person.

Having a 15000 foot house is unusual. You really think that finding a 15000 foot house for five people over the top and wasteful is exceptionally narrow minded?

It. Does. Not. Involve. Me.

Are you really that NPD?

Your. Post. Makes. No. Sense.

You are so transparent.

You are so weird.

Are you this immature and small minded in real life?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you are incorrect. There are many people, myself included, who would not be jealous of OP. You can't be jealous of something you would never want or that you find, frankly, gross. It may be hard for you to see other perspectives, but try to understand that different people want different things. As soon as I see the old, tired "you're just jealous" and "you sound insecure" response here on DCUM, it's a big red flag that the responder really just doesn't like the hard truth coming their way. You have to tell yourself this to avoid the bad feelings that come from others responding so negatively to your life choices. In reality, you just made bad life choices. We're not interested in emulating you.

Pot, meet kettle. Honestly, the narrow-mindedness of the supposed open-minded people on here is astounding.

Give me a break. EVERYONE judges other people about some things. Absolutely no one, including you, is "open-minded" about everything. We all have lines that if crossed make us think less of another person.

Having a 15000 foot house is unusual. You really think that finding a 15000 foot house for five people over the top and wasteful is exceptionally narrow minded?

Did you even bother to read the post that was quoted? That person said in one breath that everyone should see other perspectives and understand that different people want different things and also that OP's decision was wrong. That kind of hypocrisy is rampant on DCUM and it was called out.

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Anonymous wrote:PP it is not difficult to understand, you are being obtuse. What other people buy or do not buy, afford or do not afford, is not your business. I know if you had it your way, a large house would be illegal, or somehow outlawed, but that is not possible, so you are going to have to suck it up and get over your feelings about what other people have or do not have, including yourself. You can feign ignorance for the rest of your life, but it is not helping you, clearly.

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The audacity for someone to say that OP bad life choices because she lives in a very large home. Makes no sense whatsoever.

Am I to understand following this logic that everyone who lives poorly in a 1 BR with 5 kids is out here with a heart of gold and trying to save the planet??

Bwahhahahahah

Honestly some of you make absolutely no sense and some real odd correlations between material things and someone's worth and value. What someone can or can't afford - or what they choose to spend their money on may say something about them - but it doesn't tell you whether they are indeed a "good" or "bad" person or whether they are worthy of friendship. WOW.

[Anonymous]

Are you crazy rich asian?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you crazy rich asian?

Yes, because only Asians would have such a big house .

If you fed into the stereotype more, she should also have more people living with them

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Anonymous wrote:PP it is not difficult to understand, you are being obtuse. What other people buy or do not buy, afford or do not afford, is not your business. I know if you had it your way, a large house would be illegal, or somehow outlawed, but that is not possible, so you are going to have to suck it up and get over your feelings about what other people have or do not have, including yourself. You can feign ignorance for the rest of your life, but it is not helping you, clearly.

+1

The audacity for someone to say that OP bad life choices because she lives in a very large home. Makes no sense whatsoever.

Am I to understand following this logic that everyone who lives poorly in a 1 BR with 5 kids is out here with a heart of gold and trying to save the planet??

Bwahhahahahah

Honestly some of you make absolutely no sense and some real odd correlations between material things and someone's worth and value. What someone can or can't afford - or what they choose to spend their money on may say something about them - but it doesn't tell you whether they are indeed a "good" or "bad" person or whether they are worthy of friendship. WOW.

Some of you seem to lack common sense and don't realize what hypocrites you are. You are demeaning people for admitting that OPs choice would make them think twice about pursuing a friendship with her. They didn't say they'd be rude to her or protest in her front yard, they just said they wouldn't pursue a relationship with her. You undoubtedly throughout your lives have made choices about who to befriend based on the behavior of people you happen to meet. A 15k foot house is exceptional. To choose to live in a house like that does say something about your values. I don't think PPs who pointed this out were saying OP was "good" or "bad". More like thoughtless or maybe ignorant. Is that a negative thing to say about someone? Yes, it is. Sometimes we meet another person and don't like something about them and that's life. How about you stop pretending you don't do the exact. same. thing. Maybe not over a 15k house, but over something that surely someone else might find trivial.

Get over yourselves.

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I’d you have 100’s of millions of dollars, you have to do something with it.

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I am rich and a 15,000 square foot house sounds like my worst nightmare.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think some of you posters are really envisioning quite how big 15K sq feet is. Look at this house here. It is 9000 sq feet. Now imagine something almost twice as big. Is that really necessary? For a family of five, with in-laws who visit? The environmental footprint alone. . .

https://www.redfin.com/VA/McLean/6319-Old-Dominion-Dr-22101/home/9410779

I paid my 4000 sq foot house outside toronto more than this house. Wth

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Op, no matter how rich you are there is always somebody out there with more money than you have.

Once you figure that out, you stop worrying so much about what other people have. I would imagine that you are hosting play dates for small children in a specific area of your home - not all 15,000 sqft of it.

I would also guess that your house and playroom are well appointed and kept neat as a pin by your housekeeper. My own playroom has lots of toys, too, but many of them have seen better days and the playroom is a bit disorganized even when it is tidied up. My house in the small side compared to what you are used to. We do have some clutter laying about which is fairly normal but not something that you are used to seeing...

Basically, it wouldn't be the size of your house that might make me reluctant to invite you over it would be how pristine your house is by comparison to mine. I wouldn't want to look like a total slob, lol.