My daughter got beat up for bullying another child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why are so many PPs saying that it is acceptable to match "bullying" with more bullying? How on earth does this even make sense?

OP, agree with PPs that your daughter needs different activities with different people. If someone doesn't like her, time to move on. It is a simple yet valuable life lesson, which should be very, very obvious to PPs.

Bullying doesn't mean what you think it means. Given the power imbalance, it's highly unlikely the victim would be able to bully OP's DD.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/index.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What part of "TALK SHIT GET HIT" do you not understand?

WTH kin dog house did you grow up in? How low class is that? If you throw the first punch, that is a problem, legally.

[Anonymous]

*kind of

[Anonymous]

NOT OP but I think maybe being a single mom affects different mothers in different ways. Sometimes it can make you feel more alone and helpless. I don't think OP should use it as an excuse, but I also think people should try and be a bit more compassionate.


+1

Also, some moms are in abusive relationships, and doing the best they can for the time being. The husband/father might seem "perfect" to outsiders, but he might be an SOB to live with - you never really have the full picture.

None of this has nothing to do with disciplining a teenager for bullying another student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter needs to find better friends. Other girls that won't push her to bully. Is she in any after-school activities?

If I were in the mother's shoes, I would put my daughter in a chess club or robotics class. One, it will allow her to interact with the "nerds" and two, it will get her more in touch with her cerebral side. She cares too much what other think of her and that is why she is bullying.

I get where you're coming from, but as the parent of a "nerd" I can tell you that those kids don't need bullies coming into their social groups. They aren't there to help teach OPs kid a lesson.

OP, as you're going through your daughter's phone and social media accounts, you not only need to get to the bottom of all of this, but you also may need to involve the parents of your daughter's friends. If you didn't realize your kid was bullying their parents might not realize their kids were, too. And don't fear the blowback on your daughter. Learning a hard lesson now will protect her later in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NOT OP but I think maybe being a single mom affects different mothers in different ways. Sometimes it can make you feel more alone and helpless. I don't think OP should use it as an excuse, but I also think people should try and be a bit more compassionate.


+1

Also, some moms are in abusive relationships, and doing the best they can for the time being. The husband/father might seem "perfect" to outsiders, but he might be an SOB to live with - you never really have the full picture.

None of this has nothing to do with disciplining a teenager for bullying another student.

It could, if it went to court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Why are so many PPs saying that it is acceptable to match "bullying" with more bullying? How on earth does this even make sense?

OP, agree with PPs that your daughter needs different activities with different people. If someone doesn't like her, time to move on. It is a simple yet valuable life lesson, which should be very, very obvious to PPs.

Bullying doesn't mean what you think it means. Given the power imbalance, it's highly unlikely the victim would be able to bully OP's DD.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/index.html

This doesn't mean that the parents who think their child is being bullied can harass the other parents/child, for the record. I think a lot of parents don't know this, both sides have legal rights.

[Anonymous]

NOT OP but I think maybe being a single mom affects different mothers in different ways. Sometimes it can make you feel more alone and helpless. I don't think OP should use it as an excuse, but I also think people should try and be a bit more compassionate.


+1

Also, some moms are in abusive relationships, and doing the best they can for the time being. The husband/father might seem "perfect" to outsiders, but he might be an SOB to live with - you never really have the full picture

.

None of this has nothing to do with disciplining a teenager for bullying another student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Why are so many PPs saying that it is acceptable to match "bullying" with more bullying? How on earth does this even make sense?

OP, agree with PPs that your daughter needs different activities with different people. If someone doesn't like her, time to move on. It is a simple yet valuable life lesson, which should be very, very obvious to PPs.

Bullying doesn't mean what you think it means. Given the power imbalance, it's highly unlikely the victim would be able to bully OP's DD.

https://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/index.html

This doesn't mean that the parents who think their child is being bullied can harass the other parents/child, for the record. I think a lot of parents don't know this, both sides have legal rights.

PP here. Also, bullying should not be matched with bullying - from either parent or child - on either side. Two wrongs don't make a right, legally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NOT OP but I think maybe being a single mom affects different mothers in different ways. Sometimes it can make you feel more alone and helpless. I don't think OP should use it as an excuse, but I also think people should try and be a bit more compassionate.


+1

Also, some moms are in abusive relationships, and doing the best they can for the time being. The husband/father might seem "perfect" to outsiders, but he might be an SOB to live with - you never really have the full picture

.

None of this has nothing to do with disciplining a teenager for bullying another student.

I think you need to brush up on (with an actual lawyer who specializes in this particular area) what the rights are on BOTH sides. If you are referencing (for example) a teacher's opinion from California - what they say does not matter to a lawyer who specializes in this area, located in Virginia (if that is where the event took place). There are all sorts of facets to each case - not just what you want to believe.

[Anonymous]

Damn OP I hope the fight wasn't recorded. If its gets posted online and your daughter is getting her ass whooped, that's basically social suicide. She'll never live it down unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NOT OP but I think maybe being a single mom affects different mothers in different ways. Sometimes it can make you feel more alone and helpless. I don't think OP should use it as an excuse, but I also think people should try and be a bit more compassionate.


+1

Also, some moms are in abusive relationships, and doing the best they can for the time being. The husband/father might seem "perfect" to outsiders, but he might be an SOB to live with - you never really have the full picture

.

None of this has nothing to do with disciplining a teenager for bullying another student.

I think you need to brush up on (with an actual lawyer who specializes in this particular area) what the rights are on BOTH sides. If you are referencing (for example) a teacher's opinion from California - what they say does not matter to a lawyer who specializes in this area, located in Virginia (if that is where the event took place). There are all sorts of facets to each case - not just what you want to believe.

PP here. I have actually heard someone say this. "My sister is a teacher in California and she says this..." No. That is not how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn OP I hope the fight wasn't recorded. If its gets posted online and your daughter is getting her ass whooped, that's basically social suicide. She'll never live it down unfortunately.

+1

This is only one example of how the other family can get themselves into really, really, really deep legal problems.

There are so many considerations that PPs are unaware of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NOT OP but I think maybe being a single mom affects different mothers in different ways. Sometimes it can make you feel more alone and helpless. I don't think OP should use it as an excuse, but I also think people should try and be a bit more compassionate.


+1

Also, some moms are in abusive relationships, and doing the best they can for the time being. The husband/father might seem "perfect" to outsiders, but he might be an SOB to live with - you never really have the full picture

.

None of this has nothing to do with disciplining a teenager for bullying another student.

^^ As stated above, it could, if it went to court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn OP I hope the fight wasn't recorded. If its gets posted online and your daughter is getting her ass whooped, that's basically social suicide. She'll never live it down unfortunately.

+1

This is only one example of how the other family can get themselves into really, really, really deep legal problems.

There are so many considerations that PPs are unaware of.

Yeah if a video gets out there, that's not good for anyone. And kids these days record EVERYTHING.