Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex

[Anonymous]

Would he still be up for sex every day if his wife came and he didn't and that was just his bad luck? Try doing that for a while and please report back on whether your libido changes.

[Anonymous]

I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back[b] for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

I think getting it back is harder than never losing it, though I know that’s not helpful for this thread. If you always make your partners needs a priority, from the get go, they won’t feel used and exhausted and resentful. If that’s been allowed to build up over the years it’s likely it will take more than the occasional load of laundry to fix if.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

Isn’t that your job as a f**king parent? Maybe she doesn’t want to have sex with a man-child who thinks he should be rewarded for basic contributions to the household.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would he still be up for sex every day if his wife came and he didn't and that was just his bad luck? Try doing that for a while and please report back on whether your libido changes.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

The upside to that theory is that, if he tries it, her life gets easier and, when their sex life doesn't improve, she can say he was doing it wrong or not enough or maybe he just needs to keep at it a little bit longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

The upside to that theory is that, if he tries it, her life gets easier and, when their sex life doesn't improve, she can say he was doing it wrong or not enough or maybe he just needs to keep at it a little bit longer.

Don’t be so cynical. Women want to connect as much as you do.

[Anonymous]

I'm so glad I get to date real adult women with a real sex drive that matches mine. I'd hate to be dependant on any of the neurotic housewives depicted in these threads with their 101 excuses for why they can't take the time to be intimate with the men they married. I see these miserable married men everywhere. You can see it in their eyes. The way they talk about their wives. They don't even have to say it.

I'll never get married again. That's the only thing I take away from these discussions. Once your wife has lost interest in you sexually, it's a rare couple who ever gets that back. I've read it here for years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would he still be up for sex every day if his wife came and he didn't and that was just his bad luck? Try doing that for a while and please report back on whether your libido changes.

This is a good question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm so glad I get to date real adult women with a real sex drive that matches mine. I'd hate to be dependant on any of the neurotic housewives depicted in these threads with their 101 excuses for why they can't take the time to be intimate with the men they married. I see these miserable married men everywhere. You can see it in their eyes. The way they talk about their wives. They don't even have to say it.

I'll never get married again. That's the only thing I take away from these discussions. Once your wife has lost interest in you sexually, it's a rare couple who ever gets that back. I've read it here for years

I hope that is a promise, not a idle threat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm so glad I get to date real adult women with a real sex drive that matches mine. I'd hate to be dependant on any of the neurotic housewives depicted in these threads with their 101 excuses for why they can't take the time to be intimate with the men they married. I see these miserable married men everywhere. You can see it in their eyes. The way they talk about their wives. They don't even have to say it.

I'll never get married again. That's the only thing I take away from these discussions. Once your wife has lost interest in you sexually, it's a rare couple who ever gets that back. I've read it here for years

I hope that is a promise, not a idle threat!

I think the PP is reflective of a self-awareness that is commendable. Really, if a healthy sex life is at the top of your reasons for being with someone, don't get married. I know some couples manages to keep a great sex life after years of marriage but they are the minority.

Good for him for recognizing this. Marriage is not for everyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm so glad I get to date real adult women with a real sex drive that matches mine. I'd hate to be dependant on any of the neurotic housewives depicted in these threads with their 101 excuses for why they can't take the time to be intimate with the men they married. I see these miserable married men everywhere. You can see it in their eyes. The way they talk about their wives. They don't even have to say it.

I'll never get married again. That's the only thing I take away from these discussions. Once your wife has lost interest in you sexually, it's a rare couple who ever gets that back. I've read it here for years

I hope that is a promise, not a idle threat!

I think the PP is reflective of a self-awareness that is commendable. Really, if a healthy sex life is at the top of your reasons for being with someone, don't get married. I know some couples manages to keep a great sex life after years of marriage but they are the minority.

Good for him for recognizing this. Marriage is not for everyone

I’m not so sure. I’ve seen that longer post verbatim posted in quite a few threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

Isn’t that your job as a f**king parent? Maybe she doesn’t want to have sex with a man-child who thinks he should be rewarded for basic contributions to the household.

Can you imagine if moms would get a gold medal for doing the laundry and dishes?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I heard if you do laundry and dishes and take the kids so she can have me time she will get libido back for you. I’ve never seen that happen. But it’s a theory.

Isn’t that your job as a f**king parent? Maybe she doesn’t want to have sex with a man-child who thinks he should be rewarded for basic contributions to the household.

Can you imagine if moms would get a gold medal for doing the laundry and dishes?!

Or watching our own children?

[Anonymous]

I haven't scanned the entire thread, but I have not seen what I know is the real reason for this: the over-prescribing of anti-depressants among women, by doctors who regard the loss of a sex drive as a minor side-effect against the benefits of the new generation of SSRI drugs like Prozac, Paxil, et al.