Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Fwiw i am a woman but wasn’t born and raised in the U.S.
It all comes down to having an upper hand, psychologically.
Men in the U.S. have been immasculated (sp?), they can’t be assertive anymore. They are scared of divorce and maybe rightly so as the law can be brutal. They are also made to believe that if they leave it will eff up the kids.
However, it is important to be ready to leave the marriage that doesn’t work for you, and to make it known. Well it’s kinda conveyed anyway if this is sincere. Not everyone’s wives are litigious and many are afraid of divorce but they just have this frame of mind where they think divorce is even worse for the husband.
Btw I would recommend the same to a woman who isn’t getting what she wants in marriage. Having the confidence to declare one’s needs and leave if they aren’t met; independence and ability to be on one’s own emotionally - that’s all it takes.
BS.
Other cultures around the world are more accepting of cheating, so men just cheat and no one cares. In fact women cheat too, and people care a little bit more. In other cultures around the world, people don't expect a spouse to meet most of their needs. Marriage is more of a communal concept, building and joining families together. Here, men get married for sex and women for romance, so sex and romance become the main focus. Except some men forget how to romance but still expect sex. And some women expect romance but don't want sex.
In other cultures people are not as sad when the sex and romance fade. The marriages were never centered around those in the first place. Cheating and lack of sex are thus less painful and less scarring experiences.
What does leaving acheive? Where are those unicorns who would satisfy those needs? Most divorce people are even less successful in second marriages.
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