Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
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Anonymous
| Ok guys. Here’s our group. How are you handling this? What has worked; what hasn’t? How will we go on in this situation? Let’s discuss. |
Anonymous
| I will start. Trying to give her massages without asking. Haven’t seen progress yet. Will report back. |
Anonymous
| ^^ it appears someone of the opposite sex has popped in here to laugh at us |
Anonymous
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I have come full circle to accepted celibacy, and least for the time being. A decade of conversations and trying everything did nothing but lower frequency. I cheated, then got caught so no we are down from sex 1x a month to none which I find better than the 1x of Mercy sex she didn't want anyway.
Kids are middle school so only 6 years till last is out of the house. |
Anonymous
| Cheating didn’t end the marriage? Will it end when the kids are out? |
Anonymous
| Do not accept a sexless marriage. If she's not interested, declare the marriage open. Problem solved in 15 seconds. |
Anonymous
| ^^ did you do that? How’s that going? |
Anonymous
And you're here. Didn't take long. |
Anonymous
Yes and (amazingly) she "found" her libido |
Anonymous
| This kid a waste of time. |
Anonymous
This IS a waste of time. Not kid. |
Anonymous
| Arrange for a sitter to watch the kids then take her on a romantic getaway just the two of you......um, well maybe not now. |
Anonymous
| Mine refuses to go on getaways by ourselves |
Anonymous
A few things: - do it to start without expecting anything in return - use coconut oil (unscented). It can also be used as a great lubricant - I have used this oil with my DW for a few years now. Started off we’d have sex maybe 2/3 times out of every 10 times I did it. I did it about 2-3 Times per week. The past year, I have done it 1-2 times a week (not consistently) and have had zero sex from it even though she loves it. I typically get the “that felt so good - I’m so relaxed and tired”. Message received. Good look gents |
Anonymous
| Uh. Divorce? |