All my friends are fake

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Exactly. OP has given no indication that she’s remotely intelligent.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

You sound exhausting, and I suspect no one wants to "go deep" with you because they can tell that you think you are smarter than them and find it off putting. Frankly, I think the problem is that you are emotionally unintelligent but probably book smart, so you are missing attempts at genuine emotional connection because you are focused on some bullsh!t "intellectual threshold" - whatever that even means.

And before you get defensive, I get it on the book smart piece - I hold a PhD/do research in a hard science and have to pick my audience for talking about work, but I would never say that my friends who don't understand my work are not as smart as me, they just have different strengths, and we connect over different interests. I love and respect them, and learn from them all the time.

I'm actually really emotional intelligent and a lot of friends come to me for support on various emotional issues. But there's an intellectual disconnect with a ton of my friends, and not really a bridge that I can cross, after years of having the same kinds of conversations. I wouldn't say they have no strengths- they definitely do. But we are fundamentally intellectually incompatible, and after years of trying to look past this, I simply can't anymore. Not sure why you find this so offensive. And also, there are plenty of people I can think of with PhDs who are simply not that smart, and are just hard workers, so those people may not be able to relate.

Tell me you're emotionally stunted without telling me you're emotionally stunted.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

No offense taken. It’s just that if you’re anywhere north of 20 and you’re still talking about how high your IQ is, you are not remotely as intelligent as you think you are.

Well if people are going to take the tired DCUM route of saying that no one on this board can be 1) attractive 2) intelligent 3) young looking 4) hip 5) good in bed, or whatever else, simply because they said they were, then it's time to trot out the quantifiable data that is inarguable. I know that's the standard DCUM move- "anyone who says they're ______ obviously isn't!!!1!!!" but it's really pretty silly. Statistically speaking, of course there will be people on this board who fit into such categories and are also aware of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

You don’t sound smart. You sound autistic. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

You sound exhausting, and I suspect no one wants to "go deep" with you because they can tell that you think you are smarter than them and find it off putting. Frankly, I think the problem is that you are emotionally unintelligent but probably book smart, so you are missing attempts at genuine emotional connection because you are focused on some bullsh!t "intellectual threshold" - whatever that even means.

And before you get defensive, I get it on the book smart piece - I hold a PhD/do research in a hard science and have to pick my audience for talking about work, but I would never say that my friends who don't understand my work are not as smart as me, they just have different strengths, and we connect over different interests. I love and respect them, and learn from them all the time.

I'm actually really emotional intelligent and a lot of friends come to me for support on various emotional issues. But there's an intellectual disconnect with a ton of my friends, and not really a bridge that I can cross, after years of having the same kinds of conversations. I wouldn't say they have no strengths- they definitely do. But we are fundamentally intellectually incompatible, and after years of trying to look past this, I simply can't anymore. Not sure why you find this so offensive. And also, there are plenty of people I can think of with PhDs who are simply not that smart, and are just hard workers, so those people may not be able to relate.

Tell me you're emotionally stunted without telling me you're emotionally stunted.

I guess by bolding one line of an entire paragraph and using that as a snarky comeback. I think that qualifies, lol

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

No offense taken. It’s just that if you’re anywhere north of 20 and you’re still talking about how high your IQ is, you are not remotely as intelligent as you think you are.

Why are you twisting the knife here, PP? OP should have social skills needing development which isn’t new. She could also articulate her thoughts in a very rudimentary and literal way. Social/emotional/intellectual intelligence creates the synergy of wisdom, which we all have access to with discipline. It is ironic that you’re harping on her emotional intelligence for revealing her intellectual intelligence, all while demonstrating your own lack of social intelligence.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

You don’t sound smart. You sound autistic. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

1. You’re an asshole.
2. People with autism have high levels of intelligence.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

You don’t sound smart. You sound autistic. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

Well I'm not, so swing and a miss. But I do things it's kind of suss how much that gets thrown out around here under the guise of "not an insult". Hopefully you didn't mean it as anything ableist, because that would really be pretty gross, wouldn't it? And I'm sure autistic people would be hurt if they felt it was intended to be a jab.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

You don’t sound smart. You sound autistic. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

Well I'm not, so swing and a miss. But I do things it's kind of suss how much that gets thrown out around here under the guise of "not an insult". Hopefully you didn't mean it as anything ableist, because that would really be pretty gross, wouldn't it? And I'm sure autistic people would be hurt if they felt it was intended to be a jab.

It wasn’t meant as an insult at all. And I’m aware that many autistic people are extremely intelligent. I simply don’t think that you are. You are fixated on test scores, you don’t write well, and you are lacking in self awareness and social skills. You might be bright, but you’re certainly not in some league of intelligence that makes it difficult for you to maintain friendships.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

You don’t sound smart. You sound autistic. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

Well I'm not, so swing and a miss. But I do things it's kind of suss how much that gets thrown out around here under the guise of "not an insult". Hopefully you didn't mean it as anything ableist, because that would really be pretty gross, wouldn't it? And I'm sure autistic people would be hurt if they felt it was intended to be a jab.

It wasn’t meant as an insult at all. And I’m aware that many autistic people are extremely intelligent. I simply don’t think that you are. You are fixated on test scores, you don’t write well, and you are lacking in self awareness and social skills. You might be bright, but you’re certainly not in some league of intelligence that makes it difficult for you to maintain friendships.

Well I am 1) extremely intelligent 2) not autistic and your opinion is, frankly, not really relevant to either of these facts, no matter how much you may think it is. Anyway... moving on to people who can actually relate to this question and aren't just having a meltdown because I triggered them by mentioning IQ scores

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

No offense taken. It’s just that if you’re anywhere north of 20 and you’re still talking about how high your IQ is, you are not remotely as intelligent as you think you are.

Well if people are going to take the tired DCUM route of saying that no one on this board can be 1) attractive 2) intelligent 3) young looking 4) hip 5) good in bed, or whatever else, simply because they said they were, then it's time to trot out the quantifiable data that is inarguable. I know that's the standard DCUM move- "anyone who says they're ______ obviously isn't!!!1!!!" but it's really pretty silly. Statistically speaking, of course there will be people on this board who fit into such categories and are also aware of it.

You need to brush up on your critical thinking skills, OP. The above, in addition to your other responses, confirm that you are not at the level that you believe yourself to be, and I’ll leave it at that. Good luck to you.

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What are the conversations you want to be having and you find your friends are not intelligent enough to maintain? Is it maybe more that they are not interested or knowledgeable in the subjects you are interested in? What's the missing content? Do you want them to be philosophical about human existence? Are you wanting to debate some astronomical phenomenon? Because I have a hard time believing that most people you know can't carry on an interesting and deep conversation in general. 9/10 if I'm seated next to a random person, whether it's at a dinner party, conference, or client meeting I can find something interesting to talk about with the other person - most people are fascinating if you focus on asking questions and learning about what makes them tick/what they do/their lived experience as opposed to wanting to solve middle east peace at brunch.

If you have a specific intellectual interest and can't find people to share in discussion with, you should get involved in that field through volunteering/research/activism/work. If you think everyone is an idiot who can't carry a conversation generally you should talk to a therapist about your self perception, self awareness, and how it is impacting your ability to connect with others.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

NP. I’m really sorry, but genuinely intelligent people just don’t talk about themselves and their IQ like this. I think you’re probably at the same level as your current friends, you just believe that you are superior to them, and that causes problems.

Well, no offense but I dont really care because I've been tested multiple times and it's been documented by various test scores. So unless there's been some kind of widespread fluke in these standardized tests that apply only to me, then yeah, I am intelligent. And I fail to realize why that's such a big deal? Plenty of people are talented in various areas, but people seem to be really aghast if someone openly says they're smart. Which is so bizarre. Obviously there's smart people and dumb people and people good at sports and people bad at sports and people who are physically attractive and people who arent but it seems we arent allowed to say so, even on an anonymous forum? Really baffling.

No offense taken. It’s just that if you’re anywhere north of 20 and you’re still talking about how high your IQ is, you are not remotely as intelligent as you think you are.

Well if people are going to take the tired DCUM route of saying that no one on this board can be 1) attractive 2) intelligent 3) young looking 4) hip 5) good in bed, or whatever else, simply because they said they were, then it's time to trot out the quantifiable data that is inarguable. I know that's the standard DCUM move- "anyone who says they're ______ obviously isn't!!!1!!!" but it's really pretty silly. Statistically speaking, of course there will be people on this board who fit into such categories and are also aware of it.

You need to brush up on your critical thinking skills, OP. The above, in addition to your other responses, confirm that you are not at the level that you believe yourself to be, and I’ll leave it at that. Good luck to you.

I appreciate it and wish it right back to you. Again, my intelligence is confirmed by independent, reputable sources, though certainly people's input, fancies, and the time they take to type out their own imaginings about a situation are always appreciated, provided it was put through with good intent. Enjoy your weekend!

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Anonymous wrote:What are the conversations you want to be having and you find your friends are not intelligent enough to maintain? Is it maybe more that they are not interested or knowledgeable in the subjects you are interested in? What's the missing content? Do you want them to be philosophical about human existence? Are you wanting to debate some astronomical phenomenon? Because I have a hard time believing that most people you know can't carry on an interesting and deep conversation in general. 9/10 if I'm seated next to a random person, whether it's at a dinner party, conference, or client meeting I can find something interesting to talk about with the other person - most people are fascinating if you focus on asking questions and learning about what makes them tick/what they do/their lived experience as opposed to wanting to solve middle east peace at brunch.

If you have a specific intellectual interest and can't find people to share in discussion with, you should get involved in that field through volunteering/research/activism/work. If you think everyone is an idiot who can't carry a conversation generally you should talk to a therapist about your self perception, self awareness, and how it is impacting your ability to connect with others.

No, it's just a general issue of things not going that deep and not feeling very interested in most of the conversations I have. I think I'm a great conversationalist, and have been told so by others. But I feel like I rarely have that "back and forth tennis match" fun interaction that makes a truly great interaction. I wish i did. I do think maybe it's the circle I keep, and maybe this is a feeling shared by other people who are highly intelligent, I'm realizing, and that others may have trouble relating. It's difficult, because the more I talk about it the more I realize there probably isn't a concrete solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you?

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends. But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever). A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime. Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc. it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync.

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people. But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that. And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me. So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating. I wish there was a solution.

It’s you, you’re just not likeable.

I find the best quality in friends is empathy and loyalty.....not intelligence.