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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you? [/quote]

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends.  But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever).  [b]A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime.[/b]  Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc.  it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync. [/quote]

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.  [/quote]

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people.  But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that.  And frankly, [b]settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent [/b]has been really unfulfilling to me.  So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating.  I wish there was a solution.  [/quote]

You sound exhausting, and I suspect no one wants to "go deep" with you because they can tell that you think you are smarter than them and find it off putting. Frankly, I think the problem is that you are emotionally unintelligent but probably book smart, so you are missing attempts at genuine emotional connection because you are focused on some bullsh!t "intellectual threshold" - whatever that even means.

And before you get defensive, I get it on the book smart piece - I hold a PhD/do research in a hard science and have to pick my audience for talking about work, but I would never say that my friends who don't understand my work are not as smart as me, they just have different strengths, and we connect over different interests. I love and respect them, and learn from them all the time.[/quote]

[b]I'm actually really emotional intelligent[/b] and a lot of friends come to me for support on various emotional issues.  But there's an intellectual disconnect with a ton of my friends, and not really a bridge that I can cross, after years of having the same kinds of conversations. I wouldn't say they have no strengths- they definitely do. But we are fundamentally intellectually incompatible, and after years of trying to look past this, I simply can't anymore. Not sure why you find this so offensive.  And also, there are plenty of people I can think of with PhDs who are simply not that smart, and are just hard workers, so those people may not be able to relate. [/quote]

Tell me you're emotionally stunted without telling me you're emotionally stunted.  :roll: [/quote]

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