Step-MIL says she’s not my messenger

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got a very strange family dynamic going on there. Have you texted her instructions to do something for you, without politely asking how she is or making small talk, on multiple occasions? No one would like that. Have you sent her videos of your drunk husband? Why doesn’t your Dh want you to send videos of the kids to his father? If he doesn’t want you to do that, how is it any better for you to send them to step-MIL and ask her to share them with FIL? If you can’t send the videos to FIL, why would you be able to contact him to tattle on step-MIL?

Send stuff to FIL or don’t, but leave poor step-MIL out of the drama.

I think the OP has the ability to text the FIL but not send videos. In that case, I would just send photos directly by text. By messaging the wife on Facebook, you’re placing a burden on her and it’s not fair even though it’s a small ask. You seem like a taker without offering anything in return.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. Unnecessary beeatch but respect her wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like there is a bigger backstory to this than OP is revealing. The step MIL’s irritation did not come out of a vacuum.

Backstory mostly involves the appearance of the bridge that OP is posting from under.

I know women like OP who think all grandparents want videos of their grandkids all the time. One or two videos is ok but I think she goes overboard and is upset when she doesn’t get the reaction she wants. Maybe that’s why her husband has a drinking problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes. Unnecessary beeatch but respect her wishes.

Another misogynistic comment. Why must women be emotionally dumped on by other women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I applaud step-MIL for using her words! Of course her words sting, but she's right: why do you always expect her to bear the brunt of the situation between your husband and his father? Why don't you ask how she's doing before you use her as intermediary?

Come on, OP. This is practically internalized misogyny, where your husband and FIL get stuff they want, but the women have to run around and do the work.

+1

[Anonymous]

Maybe she doesn't like that you have been...treating her like a messenger?

She's not wrong. You should apologize. And if DH doesn't want you contacting his farther, why are you contacting FIL ny proxy?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has an alcohol problem he is seeking treatment for. FIL doesn’t take his calls anymore. I just wanted to share the videos with their grandfather. I don’t see what his wife would have against it and why she can’t do it when they live in the same house. I used to send the videos of DH drunk to prove that he was abusing alcohol at the time and I didn’t ask my step-MIL for money except to support my MLM business by buying a few products. She didn’t respond to that message so I thought she just ignored me.

Troll. And not even an entertaining one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like there is a bigger backstory to this than OP is revealing. The step MIL’s irritation did not come out of a vacuum.

Yes, it came from under a bridge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she has a good point. And if you asked me to support your MLM business I might want to ignore you too.

No one who works for an MLM actually refers to it as an MLM. They always have creative descriptors about their innovative company with amazing growth opportunities. That’s been the biggest tell that this is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like there is a bigger backstory to this than OP is revealing. The step MIL’s irritation did not come out of a vacuum.

Yes, it came from under a bridge.

Haha, Ah Yes, It all started when Step MIL insisted that OP be a SAHM like she is, but OP wanted to keep working. And then, one parent wanted to circ and the other was anti-circ. And then, OP wanted to forumla feed but the Step MIL insisted that "breast is best"

This is already boring OP! You can do better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has an alcohol problem he is seeking treatment for. FIL doesn’t take his calls anymore. I just wanted to share the videos with their grandfather. I don’t see what his wife would have against it and why she can’t do it when they live in the same house. I used to send the videos of DH drunk to prove that he was abusing alcohol at the time and I didn’t ask my step-MIL for money except to support my MLM business by buying a few products. She didn’t respond to that message so I thought she just ignored me.

This has to be a troll. The MLM is the tip off!

[Anonymous]

She's a step, and a MIL, so you've got two layers of alienation there. I'd turn this over to DH to manage relations with his dad. If his dad starts to complain because he's not seeing your videos, it's up to your DH to decide what to do/tell his dad.

I'd also block that witch on FB.

[Anonymous]

Team MIL. OP go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's blunt but she's not wrong.

This. Just because FIL doesn't take DH'Ss calls he'll still read your texts. Apologize to MIL. The tone of your post says a lot.

[Anonymous]

Are you the person from a prior thread who stayed in their in-laws house while your DH was on a drinking bender and was dismayed that your step-MIL asked you to clean up after yourself and your children, which you stated was impossible? And she wanted you to keep your kids quiet while she worked from home, which you also refused to do, and were appalled at the request?