Step-MIL says she’s not my messenger

[Anonymous]

My sister does that with my wrt my elderly parents. I’m in town and taking care of them and she texts me stuff and wants me to show it to them. It irritates me. I’m not her secretary, my hands are full talking care of my parents, and I don’t need extra tasks to do. My feeling is she should come visit my parents and show them this stuff herself.

She’s not your or her husbands secretary, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has an alcohol problem he is seeking treatment for. FIL doesn’t take his calls anymore. I just wanted to share the videos with their grandfather. I don’t see what his wife would have against it and why she can’t do it when they live in the same house. I used to send the videos of DH drunk to prove that he was abusing alcohol at the time and I didn’t ask my step-MIL for money except to support my MLM business by buying a few products. She didn’t respond to that message so I thought she just ignored me.

[Anonymous]

She's blunt but she's not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has an alcohol problem he is seeking treatment for. FIL doesn’t take his calls anymore. I just wanted to share the videos with their grandfather. I don’t see what his wife would have against it and why she can’t do it when they live in the same house. I used to send the videos of DH drunk to prove that he was abusing alcohol at the time and I didn’t ask my step-MIL for money except to support my MLM business by buying a few products. She didn’t respond to that message so I thought she just ignored me.

You’re laying on the troll cliches awfully thick, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP is in a dysfunctional marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH has an alcohol problem he is seeking treatment for. FIL doesn’t take his calls anymore. I just wanted to share the videos with their grandfather. I don’t see what his wife would have against it and why she can’t do it when they live in the same house. I used to send the videos of DH drunk to prove that he was abusing alcohol at the time and I didn’t ask my step-MIL for money except to support my MLM business by buying a few products. She didn’t respond to that message so I thought she just ignored me.

You’re laying on the troll cliches awfully thick, OP.

+1

[Anonymous]

If these were long videos, then it may explain why OP chose to send via FB and if the FIL isn't on FB, this makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just sent her a few videos of my kids on Facebook messenger and said to please share with FIL. She responds “it seems like your phone is functioning just fine. Why don’t you text him yourself?” To which I said DH doesn’t like me contacting his dad and she wrote back “That’s between you and DH. I’m not your messenger. Every time you message me, it’s a directive to buy something or show FIL videos of DH drunk or your kids. It’s honestly rubbing me the wrong way that you don’t even ask about me but contact me with instructions every single time. You have FIL’s cell phone so you can send him the videos directly.” I’m annoyed that she couldn’t just say ok but had to lecture me like this. Do I tell FIL?

She sounds like she’s jealous of the grand kids and won’t even do a small gesture of sharing the videos with her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH has an alcohol problem he is seeking treatment for. FIL doesn’t take his calls anymore. I just wanted to share the videos with their grandfather. I don’t see what his wife would have against it and why she can’t do it when they live in the same house. I used to send the videos of DH drunk to prove that he was abusing alcohol at the time and I didn’t ask my step-MIL for money except to support my MLM business by buying a few products. She didn’t respond to that message so I thought she just ignored me.

LOLOLOLOLOL

[Anonymous]

It sounds like there is a bigger backstory to this than OP is revealing. The step MIL’s irritation did not come out of a vacuum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like there is a bigger backstory to this than OP is revealing. The step MIL’s irritation did not come out of a vacuum.

Yes, it came from under a bridge.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she has a good point. And if you asked me to support your MLM business I might want to ignore you too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she has a good point. And if you asked me to support your MLM business I might want to ignore you too.

I’m reminded of the thread started by a SIL who was asked to buy pampered chef products from her other SIL. If that is your MLM OP, you have a kindred spirit somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she has a good point. And if you asked me to support your MLM business I might want to ignore you too.

If the OP feels ignored why is she continually contacting the step-MIL and harassing her? Does she think other people have the bandwidth to process stupid requests like this? Must be a stay at home mom with too much time on her hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like there is a bigger backstory to this than OP is revealing. The step MIL’s irritation did not come out of a vacuum.

Backstory mostly involves the appearance of the bridge that OP is posting from under.