Are hot women less likely to have solid marriages?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, yeah. My most beautiful friends have had the worst luck in the relationships. The most attractive/hottest of them is 40 and unmarried. She attracts and is attracted to super flashy, hot, rich guys who then marry someone else, usually less attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Well it does sound like there is a narcissist and it’s not your DH. It’s sounds like he needed some attention/affection from a woman that you did not give him.

[Anonymous]

So I'm from LA, so obviously biased but I think the problem there is really hot women who spend a lot of time on their looks (and invest a lot of money in enhancements) are more likely to find themselves (not always, but they're more likely than average) in professions like "aspiring actress" (I say aspiring because even super hot women are unlikely to make it in Hollywood) and "aspiring model." Or even things like yacht girl, fashion media, club promoter/hot bartender, etc. Well, those jobs are not exactly a stable culture and they kind of invite cheating.

Now hot women who become nurses or accounts payable clerks or other "Regular" jobs don't have this problem so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Well it does sound like there is a narcissist and it’s not your DH. It’s sounds like he needed some attention/affection from a woman that you did not give him.

Oh pleeasse. If you know anything about a clinical narcissist, they will never get enough attention/satisfy their ego from a long time marriage. They need the 'bread crumbs' and constant validation from outside.

[Anonymous]

I could see it being an issue in terms of a man might date and propose to a woman based mainly on her looks , and then the “crush” fades and he doesn’t truly love her , especially as her looks fade. Mature normal men aren’t like this but.... many men are not mature or normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Welp, your life sounds shitty.

Your comment made me continue to read the previous post. I got kind of bored and didn't read the last paragraph! Glad I did, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Well it does sound like there is a narcissist and it’s not your DH. It’s sounds like he needed some attention/affection from a woman that you did not give him.

Oh pleeasse. If you know anything about a clinical narcissist, they will never get enough attention/satisfy their ego from a long time marriage. They need the 'bread crumbs' and constant validation from outside.

Agree. My husband is in heavy therapy after being diagnosed a clinical narcissist. Treatment involves his therapist checking in with me every couple weeks to verify since narcs can lie seamlessly. He said narcissism is due to early childhood trauma. My husband had a similar father. You could see the severe need my husband had to be admired by everyone. No one woman could continually provide that for a narc or decades. Every narc cheats at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Well it does sound like there is a narcissist and it’s not your DH. It’s sounds like he needed some attention/affection from a woman that you did not give him.

Both are very dysfunctional. She's also excusing his cheating saying it comes from his childhood, LOL. Many of us had a crappy childhood, and still don't treat our partners bad or risk our health. Good looking on the outside only carries one so far, and sometimes those people are bone ugly on the inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Well it does sound like there is a narcissist and it’s not your DH. It’s sounds like he needed some attention/affection from a woman that you did not give him.

Both are very dysfunctional. She's also excusing his cheating saying it comes from his childhood, LOL. Many of us had a crappy childhood, and still don't treat our partners bad or risk our health. Good looking on the outside only carries one so far, and sometimes those people are bone ugly on the inside.

You do not know if you is still with him. You do not know if he has been 'excused'. I don't get the women that are so nasty to other women. Talk about bone ugly on the inside...just sayin'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People responding that they are pretty and have solid marriages... there is a huge difference between pretty and hot.

Yeah, agreed. And the truth is that "hot" usually fades drastically with age. By the time most hot women are in their 40s and 50s, they are still very pretty but not smoking hot in the same way. Very few women stay truly hot as they age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, yeah. My most beautiful friends have had the worst luck in the relationships. The most attractive/hottest of them is 40 and unmarried. She attracts and is attracted to super flashy, hot, rich guys who then marry someone else, usually less attractive.

I had one of those friends, but she was insecure and had very poor judgement like most of them.

After the beauty fades...well not much else especially when one depends on it their whole life. Our society is littered with those over done women, and the decent guys really don't want to marry them. Smart ones see through it, and most men don't want a woman who is into a lot of Botox, surgery etc. By mid forties many end up looking like the joker. I had another friend that did a lot of that and it's wrecked her face. She used to be cute and looked healthy. Your muscles need to work on their own, after many years of injections and fillers the face will just drop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People responding that they are pretty and have solid marriages... there is a huge difference between pretty and hot.

Yeah, agreed. And the truth is that "hot" usually fades drastically with age. By the time most hot women are in their 40s and 50s, they are still very pretty but not smoking hot in the same way. Very few women stay truly hot as they age.

Even with gazillions of dollars, doctors, and the best trainers/chefs/stylists at their disposal, it's hard to stay truly hot as you age. Maybe if you are J. Lo but who knows how long even she has left.

[Anonymous]

Remember Molly Shattuck? The Ravens cheerleader who was married to a billionaire and was arrested for sex with her son's underage friend?

Some hot people do not take aging well and will do anything to feel young and hot again...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I'm from LA, so obviously biased but I think the problem there is really hot women who spend a lot of time on their looks (and invest a lot of money in enhancements) are more likely to find themselves (not always, but they're more likely than average) in professions like "aspiring actress" (I say aspiring because even super hot women are unlikely to make it in Hollywood) and "aspiring model." Or even things like yacht girl, fashion media, club promoter/hot bartender, etc. Well, those jobs are not exactly a stable culture and they kind of invite cheating.

Now hot women who become nurses or accounts payable clerks or other "Regular" jobs don't have this problem so much.

The other problem is people who make a living on their looks--models, club workers, etc...everything about their lives is based on their looks. At some point, they start to age and rejection hits hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Well it does sound like there is a narcissist and it’s not your DH. It’s sounds like he needed some attention/affection from a woman that you did not give him.

Both are very dysfunctional. She's also excusing his cheating saying it comes from his childhood, LOL. Many of us had a crappy childhood, and still don't treat our partners bad or risk our health. Good looking on the outside only carries one so far, and sometimes those people are bone ugly on the inside.

You do not know if you is still with him. You do not know if he has been 'excused'. I don't get the women that are so nasty to other women. Talk about bone ugly on the inside...just sayin'

Huh?