Are hot women less likely to have solid marriages?

[Anonymous]

Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it’s usually the women I hear of cheating in my orbit more than the men. Hot women are also as good as their options.

All women, regardless how hot, have infinite options (in regards to sexual partners).

Yes. Any woman could walk out on the street today and get laid, no matter what they look like. You should see the ugly whores in my HS and University that would bang anything. They had low self esteem and lots of insecurities. Hot women do not cheat more. They aren’t like men. Have you ever seen your typical Ashley Madison housewife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it’s usually the women I hear of cheating in my orbit more than the men. Hot women are also as good as their options.

All women, regardless how hot, have infinite options (in regards to sexual partners).

Women don’t want sexual partners they want respect and stability.

Speak for yourself, Suzy Homemaker!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Welp, your life sounds shitty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it’s usually the women I hear of cheating in my orbit more than the men. Hot women are also as good as their options.

All women, regardless how hot, have infinite options (in regards to sexual partners).

Yes. Any woman could walk out on the street today and get laid, no matter what they look like. You should see the ugly whores in my HS and University that would bang anything. They had low self esteem and lots of insecurities. Hot women do not cheat more. They aren’t like men. Have you ever seen your typical Ashley Madison housewife?

Less attractive women are easier prey for a good looking guy. I have an extremely good looking brother and lots of guy friends—they will have easy sex with women much less attractive. It’s less complicated and easier.

[Anonymous]

“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife....get an ugly girl to marry you.”

Remember that old song?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it’s usually the women I hear of cheating in my orbit more than the men. Hot women are also as good as their options.

All women, regardless how hot, have infinite options (in regards to sexual partners).

Women don’t want sexual partners they want respect and stability.

Speak for yourself, Suzy Homemaker!

Really, how many sexual partners have you had since you got married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Welp, your life sounds shitty.

I hope you are ok.

I think good looking people are so used to getting attention that if it becomes missing they could be very tempted to cheat for validation. Beauty can become a trap this way even though it offers so many things in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife....get an ugly girl to marry you.”

Remember that old song?

Joan Rivers mother told her to only marry a man who loved her more than she loved him. Never marry somebody more attractive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Welp, your life sounds shitty.

I hope you are ok.

I think good looking people are so used to getting attention that if it becomes missing they could be very tempted to cheat for validation. Beauty can become a trap this way even though it offers so many things in life.

I think this is why midlife it is a big deal for those type of people. They are starting to feel threatened by the younger guys. They would never admit that, but the idea that testosterone levels start declining and they are staring old age in the face...what better way for an ago boost--some woman that is thankful to be doing it out of her league. She will fawn all over thim.

[Anonymous]

I’m beyond the age of being considered hot (except maybe within my age group or older) and I’ve had a very solid marriage for 34 years. My husband is very good looking and very successful and he has certainly had plenty of options as have I but we have always met each other’s needs both sexual and emotional. Even after all of these years together hopping in bed with him is still exciting and based on his enthusiasm and desire for frequent sex I’m pretty sure he feels the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hot women are given a pass for almost everything from the moment they are introduced to society. Pre-school, school, friend and family give them tons of attention.

It's good and bad, they often don't form normal coping skills or skills at all, since they can pretty much skate by on looks.

Eventually it is time to date and nice guys do not hit on hot chicks either because they think they are out of their league or the assume she is already spoken for.

Only arrogant a-holes hit on hot chicks, hot chicks start to think something is wrong with them since the nice guys never ask them out, they settle for a-hols and life is usually not as charmed.

That is for UMC white 45+ women.

The new generation is a little different, girls can be hot and smart too. It will be nice to see a change.

Well, this is a bit sharper than I would have used, but some good points. Being able to skate by on looks and not develop inside doesn't benefit anyone in the long run (though doesn't happen to all with looks of either sex). The not getting hit on is like that scene in A Beautiful Mind when he figures out they'll all do better if they ignore the hottest one.

[Anonymous]

People responding that they are pretty and have solid marriages... there is a huge difference between pretty and hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People responding that they are pretty and have solid marriages... there is a huge difference between pretty and hot.

Yeah, agreed. And the truth is that "hot" usually fades drastically with age. By the time most hot women are in their 40s and 50s, they are still very pretty but not smoking hot in the same way. Very few women stay truly hot as they age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband is hot.as hell. He’s smart and successful too. Everyone comments on it. Women of all ages, even men. I met him when he was 24. He’s 49 now. I have seen women throw themselves at him throughout our marriage. I’ve seen women that are stuffy, intellectual, prudish turn into stumbling school girls around him.

I am 50. I am the whole package, very smart, great career, Graduate degrees, very athletic, funny, etc. We were told we are the couple everyone wants to swing with because neither partner in the other relationship would be the “loser” (usually one person in the marriage is more attractive and it becomes more apparent over time). I get hit on a lot. I’m told I’m beautiful, etc. I have aged incredibly well. Thank you olive skin and good genetics. I still have a 6-pack after having 2 kids and look great in a bikini, no stretch marks or cellulite.

It’s strange being married to a guy like this because it does keep you on your A game. I have always worked out hard 6 days per week and taken meticulous care of my skin. I’ve always been slightly insecure. I have seen women that are friends flirt shamelessly with my husband. One neighbor texted both of us yesterday to say how great he looked during quarantine. Wtf? Who does that.

He has always made me feel beautiful. He has always done great things for me. We have always had a great sex life, 3-4 times per week.

Midlife he he cheated with some grumpily woman he met on the Internet. She was older and never worked. She was not attractive. What she did do was fawn over him and tell him how handsome and incredible his body was. She had never been with a guy that ripped, muscular and attractive. He’s a narcissist. He needs excessive validation. A lot of really good looking guys are narcissists. This is why their marriages end up having problems. They need that excessive attention. He had a very traumatic childhood. His mother tried to shoot his father. His father was very good looking and a serial cheater, alcoholic. His dad was a malicious narcissist.

Are you still married, PP? How do you feel about him now?