Feel like I'm on a crash course towards an affair. Can't stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Don’t feed the troll. The fact that OP keeps posting and asking questions shows they are just a bored troll.

I don't know why you think I'm a troll. You seriously think I'd waste time writing that detailed OP just to troll people on an anonymous board?

[Anonymous]

OP you're acting cheap simply by flirting with him and all the unnecessary communication.

Either fix your marriage, or get divorced. Using the "I have no control" card isn't cutting it. Sell that somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think about him pooping.

Then, stop Messaging him, stop chatting with him, find another job, and don’t apply to the one on his team.

Recommit to your marriage and your vows.

There is so much you can do here but you don’t seem to want to do it. And the consequences will be so, so ugly. You will hurt so many people. His wife, his kids, your husband, your kid, your parents, his parents.

Set a higher standard for yourself. Is this who you are? Someone who hurts people because she can’t do the right thing?

+1
That said, she needs to figure out the state of things with her DH because it sounds like the big vow she will be committing to will be the vow of chastity if he has no interest in her physically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

Why are you trying to defend this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

People aren’t stupid. Everyone sees you flirting with him and they already are probably talking about you. They will assume he hired you because of your relationship. You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so I doubt you can manage to be discreet. You probably need to move on to another job ASAP and try to be more professional next time..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

Why are you trying to defend this?

I'm not defending anything. I'm just clarifying that this is not a situation where either one of us has pursued the other person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

How do women get this f'ing stupid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

Why are you trying to defend this?

I'm not defending anything. I'm just clarifying that this is not a situation where either one of us has pursued the other person.

Like shooting fish in a bucket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

People aren’t stupid. Everyone sees you flirting with him and they already are probably talking about you. They will assume he hired you because of your relationship. You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so I doubt you can manage to be discreet. You probably need to move on to another job ASAP and try to be more professional next time..

I don't know what image you have in your mind of me "flirting" with him but I am always professional at work. People see us talking, but so what. I work in a company that's very big on personal relationships and plenty of people have their work BFF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

How do women get this f'ing stupid?

Does it feel good to keep repeatedly insulting me? If so, I feel sorry for you. If you don't have anything useful to add to the thread, you can feel free to move along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

People aren’t stupid. Everyone sees you flirting with him and they already are probably talking about you. They will assume he hired you because of your relationship. You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so I doubt you can manage to be discreet. You probably need to move on to another job ASAP and try to be more professional next time..

I don't know what image you have in your mind of me "flirting" with him but I am always professional at work. People see us talking, but so what. I work in a company that's very big on personal relationships and plenty of people have their work BFF.

LOL my image of you is of someone stupid enough to have an affair with someone who could become her boss because she feels “vulnerable.” But don’t take my word for it, all the other posters here also think you are being very stupid. It’s rare to see such a firm consensus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

How do women get this f'ing stupid?

Does it feel good to keep repeatedly insulting me? If so, I feel sorry for you. If you don't have anything useful to add to the thread, you can feel free to move along.

many people have given you useful information but you keep coming back with lame excuses.

Here's the deal hon, you've already decided your too selfish to put your child's emotional needs above your selfish needs.... why crowd source feedback if you don't intend to take advice.

Are you a drama queen?

Also, you are stupid if you think this is anybody but a dude who is about to use you and dump you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - but what about the job situation? Do you think it would be a bad idea to take the job on his team if offered?

You don't think we can just be friends?

Think about it this way, OP.

If you get this job because you flirted with and got emotionally involved with this man, you will end up in a situation where you are flirting with and emotionally involved with your boss. If you care about him at all, know that he can get fired for that. If you care about your reputation at all, know that other people will know how you ended up there and will not take you seriously professionally.

Ok, I hear you. But how do you think other people would find out how I got the job? And also, we had spoke about this position before things got to where they are now with us. So its not like it was ever "dangled" or has anything to do with why I like him. Things progressed kind of on their own because we're involved in a lot of the same activities at work and run into each other a lot. And then we're both also into the same hobby, so we would talk a lot about that. I don't think either one of us set out to be where we are now.

People aren’t stupid. Everyone sees you flirting with him and they already are probably talking about you. They will assume he hired you because of your relationship. You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so I doubt you can manage to be discreet. You probably need to move on to another job ASAP and try to be more professional next time..

I don't know what image you have in your mind of me "flirting" with him but I am always professional at work. People see us talking, but so what. I work in a company that's very big on personal relationships and plenty of people have their work BFF.

LOL my image of you is of someone stupid enough to have an affair with someone who could become her boss because she feels “vulnerable.” But don’t take my word for it, all the other posters here also think you are being very stupid. It’s rare to see such a firm consensus.

I'm sure my thinking is stupid but I just want to clarify nothing has actually happened between us. We've never hung out outside or work or even have each others numbers.

[Anonymous]

The guys at work call girls like OP... "easy pickins"