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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Call the hotel and ask them to email you a copy of the folio so you can file your boss’s expense report.

Give them your email address. They won’t ask questions.[/quote]

I had no idea about this and unfortunately, well fortunately it worked and as the receptionist was looking for the date in question, he also stayed at this same hotel back in May :(

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I was PP and that's why I asked about a one time charge. I didn't mean for the same dates but rather other, similar ones.

I'm sorry. This really does point to an affair. If you do get online access to his account, you can look over the statements.

Definitely look at phone records if you can and possible email accounts. If you share use of a home computer, most people don't log out of their emails, so if it's gmail, etc. you may just be able to go in and look if it's in the histry.[/quote]

This.  you need to do your research first before you confront him.  I'd wait at least a month while you do your detective work and think about what you've found.

Check all credit cards.  Look at joint debit cards too - this is a way to take cash out - large ATM withdrawals (mine was dumb enough to w/draw $300 across the street from the strip club), cell phone and line line call records (google search numbers - this is how I found out my DH was calling escorts on the regular), look at computer history (revealed more porn and hooker surfing), check email if he leaves it open, check liquor bottles and controlled medications, watch the odometer on the car (or even put a Tile in the trunk so you can see where he goes.

I too found out about my husband's affair by opening a piece of mail that had lain on the side table for months.  What I found when I started watching was truly shocking.  I had never had the least interest in checking up on him until I stumbled across the first bit of evidence.  Once I uncovered one lie, I felt entirely justified in violating any privacy he might have thought he had (plus he was using my laptop for all of this, so I really wasn't violating his privacy and even put a keylogger on to see everything).

I am so glad I found out the truth, because when I confronted him, he just told me more lies.  Without proof, I would have been driven mad by his gaslighting. Even with proof, the entire situation was traumatizing and, in the name of my children, I spent another couple of years trying to encourage him to go to therapy and psychiatrist and do AA.  The best thing I ever did for all of us was to kick him out.

In retrospect, I should have cut ties even more deeply than I did.  Having him continue to be in our kids lives has been heart-breaking for them. A cheater has to tell a lot of lies, and the lying just continues on in many different forms.

You are a person of value and strength.  Love yourself enough to find out the truth and exercise the power to make your own decisions about life, and make them solely on the basis of what is best for you and what is the situation now, not what you hope or wish it to be. [/quote]

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