I have a hall pass

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who thinks this is stupid? DW didn't break her vows. She cheated BEFORE you were married. You need to let this Fing go. Its been a decade dude. I can't believe you even think about this anymore. Its pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Tell your wife that you’re ready to use the hall pass on her for some back door action. Win-win

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I am 100 percent real. And yes. I mean we've been together almost 12 years now. I love her. We love spending time together. We have a functionally good marriage and tell each other pretty much everything. But the betrayal still hurts even though we weren't married and i wasn't the best bf.

I actually turned down a woman once that just wanted sex at a conference. Flat out asked me. Told her I was with someone, and that was that.

I don't believe in she's "the one" etc crap. We work well together. SHe knows what she did was wrong. PErhaps she is trying to lessen her guilt by saying yes.

I also didn't say i would use it. I actually probably will never use it mainly because i don't want to ruin what we have. I wasn't the best bf at the time and i know it. It was still no reason for her to do what she did.

But I just wanted to see what people thought, knowing full well the responses DCUM offers up.

I was on the fence about you and your wife until I read this.

You have a functionally good marriage. She isn't the one. And you work well together.

Sounds like you are a business partnership. Which is OK. But I'm not sure your business partnership can withstand your resentment and anger 9 or 12 years after the fact.

one week vs. 1 make out session seems like a big difference. But it isn't. She didn't have feelings for the other guy either, just infatuation. And don't lessen your criime by trying to say you were drunken. You'd been a bad boyfriend, neglecting her? belittling her? What?

You say you love her. Do you WANT to cause her all this extra pain? you DO? Then go ahead. Because you are going to rip a hole in her even if she gave you permission. Permission that you probably pressured out of her.

[Anonymous]

Nope, you need to let that go. Its honestly pretty unreasonable to hold a grudge for something she did years ago. Drop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I am 100 percent real. And yes. I mean we've been together almost 12 years now. I love her. We love spending time together. We have a functionally good marriage and tell each other pretty much everything. But the betrayal still hurts even though we weren't married and i wasn't the best bf.

I actually turned down a woman once that just wanted sex at a conference. Flat out asked me. Told her I was with someone, and that was that.

I don't believe in she's "the one" etc crap. We work well together. SHe knows what she did was wrong. PErhaps she is trying to lessen her guilt by saying yes.

I also didn't say i would use it. I actually probably will never use it mainly because i don't want to ruin what we have. I wasn't the best bf at the time and i know it. It was still no reason for her to do what she did.

But I just wanted to see what people thought, knowing full well the responses DCUM offers up.

I was on the fence about you and your wife until I read this.

You have a functionally good marriage. She isn't the one. And you work well together.

Sounds like you are a business partnership. Which is OK. But I'm not sure your business partnership can withstand your resentment and anger 9 or 12 years after the fact.

one week vs. 1 make out session seems like a big difference. But it isn't. She didn't have feelings for the other guy either, just infatuation. And don't lessen your criime by trying to say you were drunken. You'd been a bad boyfriend, neglecting her? belittling her? What?

You say you love her. Do you WANT to cause her all this extra pain? you DO? Then go ahead. Because you are going to rip a hole in her even if she gave you permission. Permission that you probably pressured out of her.

Aren't all relationships business partnerships.
It seems like they get along. They have sex pretty much daily (wtf after 12 years)
They make each other laugh and they're open and honest. How much more boxes you want ticked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your wife that you’re ready to use the hall pass on her for some back door action. Win-win

Damn. I wish i had a hall pass for that from my wife. I've never done it. I feel like my life isn't complete.

Seriously bro. Drop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your wife that you’re ready to use the hall pass on her for some back door action. Win-win

Damn. I wish i had a hall pass for that from my wife. I've never done it. I feel like my life isn't complete.

Seriously bro. Drop it.

You’re missing the point. He gets something he might not otherwise get and she gets his faithfulness. Win -win

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your wife that you’re ready to use the hall pass on her for some back door action. Win-win

Damn. I wish i had a hall pass for that from my wife. I've never done it. I feel like my life isn't complete.

Seriously bro. Drop it.

You’re missing the point. He gets something he might not otherwise get and she gets his faithfulness. Win -win

CAn't leave it a one time thing. I mean screwing someone else vs. backdoor sounds unfair. It should be backdoor at least 5 times.

[Anonymous]

Cannot believe she would allow this. That’s crazy.

[Anonymous]

Also - screwing someone else isn’t going to make anything better for you - it’s not going to take away that feeling you’re trying to escape. If you truly wish to get even after all you went through together and came out of, then there’s something going on with you that a hall pass won’t fix.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cannot believe she would allow this. That’s crazy.

She must feel pretty guilty for what she did. That's the only explanation. Or you are one hell of a catch. I do agree though. Would never let my husband sleep with anyone even though i actually cheated on him during our marriage after our first kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your wife that you’re ready to use the hall pass on her for some back door action. Win-win

Damn. I wish i had a hall pass for that from my wife. I've never done it. I feel like my life isn't complete.

Seriously bro. Drop it.

You’re missing the point. He gets something he might not otherwise get and she gets his faithfulness. Win -win

CAn't leave it a one time thing. I mean screwing someone else vs. backdoor sounds unfair. It should be backdoor at least 5 times.

Sounds fair

[Anonymous]

No good will come of this.

[Anonymous]

I would use it. Make sure it’s ONS while traveling. No strings attached etc

[Anonymous]

Is just a bunch of women telling him not to use it? Be careful but use it