I have a hall pass

[Anonymous]

A woman approaches you for sex and you turn her down, knowing full well your gf cheated. Are you insane or gay.

[Anonymous]

You are better than this.

You forgave her and chose to marry her knowing that she made a mistake while you were both dating. You don't get to throw this in her face 12 years later and do something you know she "hates" and imagine it's an ethical thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't believe in she's "the one" etc crap. We work well together. SHe knows what she did was wrong. PErhaps she is trying to lessen her guilt by saying yes.

I also didn't say i would use it. I actually probably will never use it mainly because i don't want to ruin what we have. I wasn't the best bf at the time and i know it. It was still no reason for her to do what she did.

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You're right that she's only saying yes out of guilt and I think your wife will be crushed and really hurt even if it's technically something she gave permission for.

I'm nothing like the woman I was 12 years ago and I would hope a husband who has been with me for 12 years and grown as a person along with me wouldn't try to punish a younger, more foolish me in the present day.

[Anonymous]

Ask yourself if you're willing to risk your marriage.

[Anonymous]

I second the Escort idea. No emotions. No love. Just business. People need to loosen up here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I am 100 percent real. And yes. I mean we've been together almost 12 years now. I love her. We love spending time together. We have a functionally good marriage and tell each other pretty much everything. But the betrayal still hurts even though we weren't married and i wasn't the best bf.

I actually turned down a woman once that just wanted sex at a conference. Flat out asked me. Told her I was with someone, and that was that.

I don't believe in she's "the one" etc crap. We work well together. SHe knows what she did was wrong. PErhaps she is trying to lessen her guilt by saying yes.

I also didn't say i would use it. I actually probably will never use it mainly because i don't want to ruin what we have. I wasn't the best bf at the time and i know it. It was still no reason for her to do what she did.

But I just wanted to see what people thought, knowing full well the responses DCUM offers up.

Except you cheated on her too. And then you married her after the fact, knowing what you had both done to each other. So acting like she committed an unforgivable offense and now she owes you one is pretty bizarre.

[Anonymous]

OP Here

Mine was a drunken make out session at a bar a month after she had a week long fling.
Just to put things into perspective. While we were in a low point in our relationship, she engaged in unacceptable behavior.
I know that she now wishes every day she could take it back. But that is who she was. She became a way better person afterwards.

We became honest, and opened up to each other about everything. I found out more about her in a week than i did in the two years before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here

Mine was a drunken make out session at a bar a month after she had a week long fling.
Just to put things into perspective. While we were in a low point in our relationship, she engaged in unacceptable behavior.
I know that she now wishes every day she could take it back. But that is who she was. She became a way better person afterwards.

We became honest, and opened up to each other about everything. I found out more about her in a week than i did in the two years before.

Yet you still want to "punish" her and "get even," 12 years later. You sound like you have issues.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. You will feel guilty. It will eat away at your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. You will feel guilty. It will eat away at your relationship.

This. Plus, you will end up confessing to her and she will feel like crap.

Just flush your Hall Pass down the toilet....she will be loyal forever.

[Anonymous]

OP, you admit you were a bad boyfriend. What did you do that pushed her to cheat?

[Anonymous]

I bet she is already loyal, which is why she said yes to the Hall Pass.
OP you have her in the palm of your hands. She will bend over backwards for you.
You have a good sex life. You overcame what a lot of other people wouldn't. You don't have kids, so if it happens again, you can just walk out.

[Anonymous]

Hall passes at like thin mint girl scout cookies..... you can't eat just one.
I try to limit my consumption (at one sitting) to only one sleeve... most times that doesn't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you admit you were a bad boyfriend. What did you do that pushed her to cheat?

No one pushes anyone to cheat. My wife cheated on me and i was a good provider and a good husband. She did it because she was messed up in the head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hall passes at like thin mint girl scout cookies..... you can't eat just one.
I try to limit my consumption (at one sitting) to only one sleeve... most times that doesn't work.

Haha. I say the same thing about the Chips Ahoy (chewy ones obviously)