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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here.

I am 100 percent real. And yes. I mean we've been together almost 12 years now. I love her. We love spending time together. We have a functionally good marriage and tell each other pretty much everything. But the betrayal still hurts even though we weren't married and i wasn't the best bf.

I actually turned down a woman once that just wanted sex at a conference. Flat out asked me. Told her I was with someone, and that was that.

I don't believe in she's "the one" etc crap. We work well together. SHe knows what she did was wrong. PErhaps she is trying to lessen her guilt by saying yes.

I also didn't say i would use it. I actually probably will never use it mainly because i don't want to ruin what we have. I wasn't the best bf at the time and i know it. It was still no reason for her to do what she did.

But I just wanted to see what people thought, knowing full well the responses DCUM offers up. [/quote]

I was on the fence about you and your wife until I read this.

You have a functionally good marriage. She isn't the one. And you work well together.

Sounds like you are a business partnership. Which is OK. But I'm not sure your business partnership can withstand your resentment and anger 9 or 12 years after the fact.

one week vs. 1 make out session seems like a big difference. But it isn't. She didn't have feelings for the other guy either, just infatuation. And don't lessen your criime by trying to say you were drunken. You'd been a bad boyfriend, neglecting her? belittling her? What?

You say you love her. Do you WANT to cause her all this extra pain? you DO? Then go ahead. Because you are going to rip a hole in her even if she gave you permission. Permission that you probably pressured out of her.[/quote]

Aren't all relationships business partnerships. 
It seems like they get along. They have sex pretty much daily (wtf after 12 years) 
They make each other laugh and they're open and honest. How much more boxes you want ticked. [/quote]

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