| Op here. We still lived in the same house but our communication broke down. You think cheating is fine, even after two years. Some of you don’t have a clue |
You already admitted to cheating back then too, only you only made out with a woman instead of having real sex. It's not your wife's fault she could actually get laid and you couldn't. You had totally withdrawn from her, including sexually. You were about to break up- you have no higher ground to claim. The time to get upset about this would've been before you asked her to marry you, now it's too late. But you're trolling anyway so, yawn. |
| I wonder why you’re upset now. I guess maybe the new girl that’s making eyes at you. Nice. Go for it |
You just told us that you weren't talking to her at the time, you weren't having sex, and you were both planning to break up. You don't have any moral high ground here. The only thing you're annoyed about is that you want to get a piece of side action now and you know it's wrong, so you're trying to convince us that it's all fair that you even things up. Seriously, just get a divorce. Then you can do whatever you want, and so can your wife. |
She's weak? You're the one still being a baby about this over a decade later. |
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What do you mean by physically and sexually. Is it emotionally and sexually since you lived with her. So why be upset. Sex is very important in a relationship, especially for a young woman.
Basically her cheating interested you in the relationship again. Maybe she used it to get you back in the relationship |
+1. Sounds like OP had lost interest until he realized other men wanted her, too. Now he's bored again and using any excuse he can to cheat. Basically, OP is acting like a teenager. |
| Just admit to yourself - you got the itch dude. What happened way back when is only an excuse. Perhaps she got the itch too. How/where are you planning to find someone to use your hail pass with? |
| Have you considered/discussed swinging? |
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if this is so painful to you, leave your wife.
i think you are a weak individual for clinging on to this episode 900 years ago. at the same time, you are equally pathetic for hanging on to this grudge for this long. just leave your wife and enjoy having sex with other women. that is an honest take. not even trying to be funny. |
| This "cheating" happened 9 years ago? Good grief! Let it go. You weren't married when it occurred. The time to discuss this was 9 years ago. |
How to find women: bars, Tinder etc |
Does it matter that they weren’t married? Wouldn’t you be pissed if your gf cheated. He should have broken up with her, but he also sounds like an ass. Almost treats like property. Close to |
| Do it. I turned down a threesome with two beautiful women about 10 years ago because I was married. I kick myself every day...I’ll never ever have that opportunity again. Now I’m stuck in a dead bedroom and hate it |
| I have a hall pass as well. You can use it on an escort if you want. That’s the best thing |