He went out to lunch with another woman and lied about it.

[Anonymous]

While OP is monitoring boyfriend's FB way too closely, I suspect she's probably on to something.

Bail out now and don't waste any more time with guys who are over 40 and have thousands of FB friends.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're weird. He needs to leave your behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are setting up a situation where he's forced to lie and be secretive. I'd lie to you too just to avoid your crazy over reactions. You had several "long" fights over some FB posts and likes?! And you thought he'd tell you about lunch and put up with even more of your BS?!

You've created a dynamic where there is no way to tell if he's a lying cheat or just avoiding conflict with you over very normal things (lunch with a friend) because you've made everything high drama. Your two options are get yourself under control and see whether he's trustworthy or not when you're not boxing him into a corner or to accept that your dynamic is too off the rails and end the relationship now. As long as you're acting the way you are, you'll never have a healthy relationship with him.

OP here.
This is very good advice.
Thank you.

I wouldn't have reacted that way. You find out more if you are silently observant. OP no one is forced to lie and be secretive, if you see that believe me it's probably a pattern of behavior. Do you know about his past relationships and how they ended? I would sit back, wouldn't waste too much time with him if there's not going to be a future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP aka typical DCUM woman: "She is attractive in a "lots of make up, always dresses nice and accessorizes" kind of way."

Normal person observing the situation objectively: "She't hot"

I think OP is trying to say she is glamorous instead of attractive in a crunchy, athletic, or girl-next-door kind of way.

I know women who are really glamorous, and I always feel very plain, but not unpretty, around them.

Regardless, OP, cut this guy loose. Your individual personality flaws don't mesh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP aka typical DCUM woman: "She is attractive in a "lots of make up, always dresses nice and accessorizes" kind of way."

Normal person observing the situation objectively: "She't hot"

You missed the part where she brags about people saying she looked 10 years younger yada yada yada.

Maybe pretty on the outside. What's that saying, "beauty fades, dumb is forever".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP aka typical DCUM woman: "She is attractive in a "lots of make up, always dresses nice and accessorizes" kind of way."

Normal person observing the situation objectively: "She't hot"

!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!! YES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP aka typical DCUM woman: "She is attractive in a "lots of make up, always dresses nice and accessorizes" kind of way."

Normal person observing the situation objectively: "She't hot"

You missed the part where she brags about people saying she looked 10 years younger yada yada yada.

Maybe pretty on the outside. What's that saying, "beauty fades, dumb is forever".

OP here.

Yes. Her latest post is just SO over the top "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful" that if anyone else posted it, you would think they were joking. It's absolutely ludicrous. I WISH I could post it verbatim, but too identifying if someone here happens to know her.

[Anonymous]

You are nuts. Get some help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should run for the hills.

This

[Anonymous]

My red flag is that youve been dating an entire year and havent met each others kids yet. Thats insane. My 4 year old DD meets everybody. I cannot get my fingers around that concept. Its like you two each have a foot out the door like you are not taking the relationship seriously. And how old is this guy that he is on FB liking stuff all day, with kids. Seems odd too.

[Anonymous]

12:05 again.

I should add on the flip side that I would go to lunch with a male coworker without thinking twice, and I am married. My DH goes to lunch with his boss and employees (women). Never concerned me.

[Anonymous]

End it now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My red flag is that youve been dating an entire year and havent met each others kids yet. Thats insane. My 4 year old DD meets everybody. I cannot get my fingers around that concept. Its like you two each have a foot out the door like you are not taking the relationship seriously. And how old is this guy that he is on FB liking stuff all day, with kids. Seems odd too.

Well, I don't want my kids exposed to a "revolving door" of boyfriends, and he feels the same about his kids. Since both of us feel "kids come first" we are typically busy with our kids most evenings/weekends and we see each other when the kids are with the other parent.

[Anonymous]

Good for you for trusting your intuition and following up in this OP. He has shown he is not to be trusted and I would leave him. He didn't just lie once, he lied multiple times over small things- imagine what he'd do for something big? I wouldn't feel comfortable with him anymore. So sorry, I know this is rough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP aka typical DCUM woman: "She is attractive in a "lots of make up, always dresses nice and accessorizes" kind of way."

Normal person observing the situation objectively: "She't hot"

You missed the part where she brags about people saying she looked 10 years younger yada yada yada.

Maybe pretty on the outside. What's that saying, "beauty fades, dumb is forever".

OP here.

Yes. Her latest post is just SO over the top "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful" that if anyone else posted it, you would think they were joking. It's absolutely ludicrous. I WISH I could post it verbatim, but too identifying if someone here happens to know her.

She clearly has problems. I had a friend that was a major narcissist, probably a sociopath too. I think her FB photos included 300 pics of her and her, lol!
It amazes me the stupid things people post and publicly. Sad to say, but she's a dime a dozen on FB. FB these days is cheaper than getting therapy.