Don't you wish your husband was more successful?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.

She directly answered a direct question; I didn't detect a hint of bragging. Your jealousy is pathetic - almost as weak as your un-apology.

I agree that her post was annoying. A job that "stops people at parties?" Come on. . .

I think Secret Service would get this response. But I don't know what they make.

It's D.C., people. Folks from other places are impressed when you say you were an intern on the Hill. There's loads of jaw-dropping from newcomers. It's something I've witnessed as a D.C. Native. I think saying you work for Politico would have a lot of cache among some circles. Dunno. Published authors rarely bring in serious money---especially academic authors.

I've held "prestigious" fellowships that would make folks cry if they knew how little it meant in terms of $$$. I think that was PPs main point. There are different sides to being "more successful."

I get her point too. I've worked for the big media outlets in town and depending on the circle, my jobs have had some cache at cocktail parties -- just not a lot of cash. LOL.

[Anonymous]

I'm the poster everyone is balking at. Geez. How can anyone brag on an anonymous forum anyway?

Didn't mean to brag, so I'll rephrase - was actually just dashing it off last night before an early bedtime and wasn't thinking. It's just one of those jobs that people tend to think is cool, not because it's prestigious just because he gets to go do some cool things and travel to cool places. I didn't mean to imply that people are bowing down at parties, just one of those jobs that get follow up, as opposed to my job which is more straightforward and doesn't really get questions.

I had a friend who dated a guy whose job it was to watch every baseball game and record stats, years ago (I'm sure computers do that now). Another example of one of those jobs that a lot of baseball guy fans would say, "you are paid to watch games?"

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23:14, the thing with a slacker or a shark is that you get to have DRAMA!! (either the "waah my husband doesn't work!" or the "waah my husband is always on his Blackberry!" sort of slacker). Come on, let's admit it, it's more fun if you get to be a martyr from time to time.

But now let's all sing along ...

I ain't saying you're some golddiggers, but you ain't dating no broke niggers ...

[Anonymous]

Don't you wish your wife was more successful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:23:14, the thing with a slacker or a shark is that you get to have DRAMA!! (either the "waah my husband doesn't work!" or the "waah my husband is always on his Blackberry!" sort of slacker). Come on, let's admit it, it's more fun if you get to be a martyr from time to time.

But now let's all sing along ...

I ain't saying you're some golddiggers, but you ain't dating no broke niggers ...

DH was broke when I married him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you wish your wife was more successful?

Ha. Every time I complain about money my husband says "you better get a job that makes more." So true.

The only thing that is frustrating for me is that I think my husband is underpaid. I think he could be making more, but he has a good job that gives us some flexibility and it's a very family-friendly company so that's the trade off maybe. I think we do fine but once you enter kids into the equation most of us could use more, savings, college, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the poster everyone is balking at. Geez. How can anyone brag on an anonymous forum anyway?

Didn't mean to brag, so I'll rephrase - was actually just dashing it off last night before an early bedtime and wasn't thinking. It's just one of those jobs that people tend to think is cool, not because it's prestigious just because he gets to go do some cool things and travel to cool places. I didn't mean to imply that people are bowing down at parties, just one of those jobs that get follow up, as opposed to my job which is more straightforward and doesn't really get questions.

I had a friend who dated a guy whose job it was to watch every baseball game and record stats, years ago (I'm sure computers do that now). Another example of one of those jobs that a lot of baseball guy fans would say, "you are paid to watch games?"

I think most of us got what you meant, and I thought you made the point well. We have a family member with a job that would probably fit your description. To many outsiders, he and his wife do seem to have fabulous lives. But as some other posters have said, his job leaves very little quality time at home with family. It also puts their kids' behaviors and accomplishments (as teenagers and adults) under a lot of scrutiny from others who know them (or think they do!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you wish your wife was more successful?

No, but if she gets to whine about my income, I get to whine about her bra size.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:23:14, the thing with a slacker or a shark is that you get to have DRAMA!! (either the "waah my husband doesn't work!" or the "waah my husband is always on his Blackberry!" sort of slacker). Come on, let's admit it, it's more fun if you get to be a martyr from time to time.

But now let's all sing along ...

I ain't saying you're some golddiggers, but you ain't dating no broke niggers ...

DH was broke when I married him.

Yeah, I guess the charm of being a slacker rogue wore off after kids showed up.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't you wish your wife was more successful?

No, but if she gets to whine about my income, I get to whine about her bra size.

Sounds like you'd appreciate Tiger's list of friends!

[Anonymous]

Sure, it'd be nice to if DH made more money but I know his personality and more money would also mean he would be more stressed out and annoyed by his job. He makes a decent, though average for this area, salary and I would much prefer him now over any more money and grumpier.

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I make more than my husband and fear I always will. Not because I want to stop working but because its a weight on my shoulders. He works really hard and works insane hours but gets paid nothing. his company screws him out of everything and he has not been able to find another job. I feel bad because he is miserable I hope he can find something soon.

But I will tell you, I know that even if he does not make what he wants to in his life, he is the best husband and most loving person I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are a laughable combination: He has the brains and is multi-talented but is not a "go-getter'. On the other hand, I have a ton of ambition and motivation, but lack any remarkable talent. For awhile I used to push him to do more with his god-given skills, but to no avail. It would be nice if he pushed himself more, but he's still a keeper in my mind.

This is us in terms of ambition, I make more (50% more) than DH, and am the ambitious one and DH just simply isn't career minded. He's the kind of guy (for better or worse) that will have the same job for 30 years, without noticing everyone around him getting promoted, feeling frustrated with the lack of challenge, etc.

I'm ok wiht the money (though who wouldn't like to have more coming in!) part of it, but as I move higher in my career I'm finding the different perspective challenging. I find it hard to relate to the lack of drive, and I think he finds my stressing over promotions etc., frustrating.

If his lack of ambition translated into him being the one to stay home when the kids are sick, or otherwise picking up more of the household stuff, i'd probably find it easier to cope with; but somehow I get to be the breadwinner, and then come home to go to the grocery store to get the flour, bake the bread, clean the kitchen, feed the kids, etc (yeah, lost that analogy quickly . You know what I mean...

[Anonymous]

You are disappointed because most of you strive to live bass ackwards no matter what; and because you have not learned to be content with what you have. But it's mainly due to the first point.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.

She directly answered a direct question; I didn't detect a hint of bragging. Your jealousy is pathetic - almost as weak as your un-apology.

I agree that her post was annoying. A job that "stops people at parties?" Come on. . .

He must be an AMAZING caterer--works only nights and can juggle a tray of canapes AND a tray of champagne. am i right?