Don't you wish your husband was more successful?

[Anonymous]

"PP here. Not sure what you're getting at. For us it's not all about the money. DH loves his job, is great at it, and is challenged in a way that I've never seen him be at other jobs. 25 days out of the month he is home eating dinner, giving baths, and attending preschool events. Like I said, I can't complain."

My point was that we make plenty of money and I don't have to be without him 5 to 7 days a month. Both of us have all the challenge we need in our careers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"PP here. Not sure what you're getting at. For us it's not all about the money. DH loves his job, is great at it, and is challenged in a way that I've never seen him be at other jobs. 25 days out of the month he is home eating dinner, giving baths, and attending preschool events. Like I said, I can't complain."

My point was that we make plenty of money and I don't have to be without him 5 to 7 days a month. Both of us have all the challenge we need in our careers.

If you're comfortable with your income and love your jobs and don't have to make any tradeoffs, you've hit the jackpot, but understand that not everyone has the same opportunities or the same ambitions. It's not like my DH was given the option to not travel but make $50K less. Getting a job isn't like ordering a burger. You can negotiate on certain things but you can't just say I'll take the job but hold the travel, oh and please super size my office.

The bottom line is that I know so many people who work so much harder, at soul-sucking jobs, for so much less than my DH. Maybe they're home every night but they're so exhausted and defeated from the rat race they can't even enjoy their families. I'm certainly NOT saying this is you or your DH, but my point is that I'm incredibly grateful for what we have. And the fact is that my DH probably ends up spending more hours a month with our kids than I do. (I've got a 9-5 job but I don't get a ton of leave and I like to save it for the awesome family vacations we get to go on with all the miles my DH racks up.)

[Anonymous]

"If you're comfortable with your income and love your jobs and don't have to make any tradeoffs, you've hit the jackpot, but understand that not everyone has the same opportunities or the same ambitions. "

Oh, I do. The tradeoff is that we could both make a lot more money but choose not to do so, so we don't have to travel and work crazy hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"If you're comfortable with your income and love your jobs and don't have to make any tradeoffs, you've hit the jackpot, but understand that not everyone has the same opportunities or the same ambitions. "

Oh, I do. The tradeoff is that we could both make a lot more money but choose not to do so, so we don't have to travel and work crazy hours.

PP here. It sounds like on the whole you and I both have DHs that have a good work/life balance and make a comfortable income. For some reason you seem really invested in judging my situation, but the fact is you and I are both very fortunate. Lots of people travel three times as much as my DH for 1/3 the money, not because they choose to but because the other option is being unemployed. Every field, family, and career are different, and the fact that my family has found an arrangement that makes us happy doesn't take away from the fact that you have too. I wish this type of balance was available for more families, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but DH has a mental illness and is never going to change.

[Anonymous]

Well, I wish mine was not. He hauls in over half a mill a year, but he is rarely home during daylight hours and when he is he is either working or watch TV. The money is nice but "retail therapy" can only compensate for so much.

[Anonymous]

Wow... I had no idea some of you women could be so petty and pathetic, maybe this is just an east coast thing, who knows. If you want more money stop crying and go earn it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I wish mine was not. He hauls in over half a mill a year, but he is rarely home during daylight hours and when he is he is either working or watch TV. The money is nice but "retail therapy" can only compensate for so much.

How much can you make? Can he SAH?